Over familiar shop assistant

Yeah this. And don't even get me started on 'Alice is 86 years YOUNG!' 🤮

Sickeningly patronising!

If anyone ever says any shit like this to me when I am 'elderly' I will go for the jugular!

I think you’re being rude OP. I can’t believe you can ignore her, when she’s only being pleasant. Do you have anyone you are pleasant too? Imagine they flat out ignored you when you spoke to them? She could have depression & be fighting the fight by being positive, she also could think you look like you need cheering up when you come into the shop chewing wasps!

It's a bit worrying how vexatious some people find a few minutes of social interaction.

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Got to love that she's impertinently quizzing OP over her super private lunch and not wearing a coat...

You'd think from some of the language she was picking up the Vagisol and loudly asking "oh its still ichy down there is it? Must be 2 months now from what you've being buying....."

I would also find this extremely annoying OP. The "you'll look like one soon" is very rude.

She's clearly not trying to be awful. You don't know her circumstances, she's chipper or on a high in life for some reason. I think it's lovely but I find it too much.

I'd buy a pack of flakes from a supermarket and get the news digitally. I'd change my routine to get the peace I wanted on lunch.

Get over yourself! It’s not all about you, you sound very self absorbed.
It costs nothing to be pleasant! For all you know she may be ND or hard of hearing herself. .

Too many people ready to take the slightest offence these days.

Sorry but you sound like a total grump. I hope her other customers appreciate her

Is the shop assistant actually Caroline Aherne’s checkout operator reincarnated? 😅

I’ve come to the conclusion that they must be a bit dim to be honest, they must not be able to see the nuances in a situation so to speak.

Friendliness is 'Have a good day!"

It is not making impertinent observations or enquiries, or speaking in a special and diminishing voice to older customers.

I don’t agree when you say “I should be able to use the shop conveniently situated close to my place of work without being quizzed about my personal choices by a complete stranger.”
i could answer “I should be able to expect friendliness from my local shop.”
people like you create a horrible society, op

OP, I completely understand your inner rage! If she’d asked me what “we” are having for lunch, I might have said, “well I’ve no idea what you’re having, and as for what I’m having, I haven’t decided yet.” As for telling you that you’ll look like a flake - so rude. And I understand that you just want to pick up your flake and paper and leave. I’d have thought she might have got the hint by now, that you’re not someone who wants to linger and chat.

Ageism is pretty rife on this site, and it is the stupidest type of bigotry since if we're lucky every one of us will experience it. And yes I think most of them are completely ignoring the condescendion "What are WE having?" I'd have said I don't know what you're having love, I'm having the lunch I just bought".

Not to mention it has taken weeks for the OP to get really irritated by being talked down to by a nosey parker. Probably wouldn't bother me much, but she's nowhere near as unreasonable as many are pretending to believe.

But that's mumsnet for you, ignore the facts and go with trying to sound cool and clever (and generally failing to do so) instead.

I don't like the patronising, raised pitch, singsong voice she puts on when she speaks to elderly customers. However lonely they might be (and it's pretty patronising to assume they are lonely without evidence), they deserve respect.

Anyone who puts on a special voice to patronise old people is a knob. I am surprised 84% think you are being unreasonable. One day everyone here will be "old people". See how you like it then.

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Not RTFT so apologies if it’s already been asked, but have you every got so annoyed with her that you’ve snapped and farted?

This. And get over yourself!

I would assume he had some SEN. Bless him. Thanks for being kind and forebearing.

What would it cost you to treat her like a human being? YABVVU.
Sort the problems in your head they are the real cause of all this.

A Sainsbury’s shop assistant once made this comment as I bought a pregnancy test “Someone’s been naughty.” I was indeed pregnant and did not want to be. I don’t think commenting about anyone’s food unless prompted or the food is openly on display is polite. I also think any comments that insinuate your clothing isn’t fit for purpose / the weather is polite conversation. I don’t believe all these women would have the time of day for this woman like they're pretending. They’re happy to be rude to someone disagreeing on here but yet they expect us to believe they wouldn’t mind being asked what’s in their bag and would happily disclose this to anyone that asked with a smile and a wave as the woman told them that they should have worn a cardigan.

I am, in real life, one of the nicest people you could meet and that’s the truth. Ask me for a favour and I’m there. I pride myself on never letting people down, I am polite until someone is impolite to me. But I am sick to death of people thinking they can say whatever they want without consequence. A man at the dump it site recently made a comment that I had been a lot! He literally wouldn’t have a job if people didn’t use it! I was quite literally doing the civic minded thing by not chucking it in the wheelie bin or a bush like some morons do! I told him my Dad had died and we were clearing his house and that I wish I didn’t need to be there. And he acted like I upset him! By telling the truth. I think some of the people that think these interactions are fine may lack emotional intelligence or that’s what I’m telling myself.

Totally agree it’s just bad manners to ignore someone.

I'm not the chattiest person by far but even by my standards you are very, very rude. Would it be so hard to politely respond to the person serving you in the shop?