I was chatting with DH yesterday and in the course of the conversation he remarked that he looked fat. I didn’t say anything in response at which point he said ‘you’re not denying it then?’, so I responded with ‘well you are fat’.
For context he’s a size 4XL with a BMI >40. So what was I supposed to say? He was upset with me agreeing he looks fat, but he is fat. We both have eyes, he must know he is fat, so why would I say he doesn’t look fat when he is? He says I didn’t have to agree so readily.
I would never be deliberately unkind but I don’t see why I should have to lie and say someone doesn’t look fat when they quite clearly are just to spare their feelings.