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globalnomad25 · 05/07/2025 13:17

We have been considering leaving, even if only for a few years. Many of our clients have already gone or are planning it, and some of our friends too.

I’m not sure where we’d go: UAE, Portugal, Jersey, Ireland, Canada, Australia? We don’t currently want to move to the US, even though that would probably make the most sense from a business/client point of view.

For those out there who have already left, how has it gone? Was it a horrible mistake or are you glad you did it?

For those also thinking about it, where would you go?

Kids are school-aged and smart and used to international travel as our work already takes us all over, although they’d miss their friends (as would we). We aren’t English so our family is already based all over the place, although we visit them frequently.

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Absolutely45 · 10/07/2025 08:24

EasternStandard · 10/07/2025 08:20

As for comparing to a deterrent well let’s see. Back to France isn’t to Rwanda after all.

I'd have thought a migrant isn't going to pay a trafficker $5000 to cross, only to be sent back again.

On support, latest basket of polling is:

Con 16% down 2
Reform 26% down 2
Labour 24% UP 2

16%, thats just 1 pt ahead of the LibDems.

Gap narrowing, still 4 years to go, Badenoch and Farage, much like Tory supporters on here, offer nothing, just criticism.

EasternStandard · 10/07/2025 08:20

As for comparing to a deterrent well let’s see. Back to France isn’t to Rwanda after all.

EasternStandard · 10/07/2025 08:19

Absolutely45 · 10/07/2025 08:17

You're doing it again - supported Rwanda as a deterrent, lambasted Labour for dropping it, despite Rwanda only promising to take 1000 per year, less than 1% per year.

Yet Labours plan means 3000 returns to France but now it isn't a deterrent.

Why not see how it pans out? but no, knock Labour whatever they do or try to do, even when its sorting out the disaster of a migration system the Tories gave us.

Its a pilot scheme after all.

You over focus on posts on here. Look to what Labour are doing. It’s why you are losing so much support.

Absolutely45 · 10/07/2025 08:17

EasternStandard · 10/07/2025 08:03

50 migrants exchanged each week in a pilot. 1 in 17 of current crossings.

The happiest political party from that won’t be Labour

You're doing it again - supported Rwanda as a deterrent, lambasted Labour for dropping it, despite Rwanda only promising to take 1000 per year, less than 1% per year.

Yet Labours plan means 3000 returns to France but now it isn't a deterrent.

Why not see how it pans out? but no, knock Labour whatever they do or try to do, even when its sorting out the disaster of a migration system the Tories gave us.

Its a pilot scheme after all.

BarBellBarbie · 10/07/2025 08:14

I live in Ireland, which if you can afford housing can be a really nice place to live. I like it anyway. But like everywhere in the world it has its own set of problems. So it depends on what you trying to get away from maybe where you choose.

EasternStandard · 10/07/2025 08:03

50 migrants exchanged each week in a pilot. 1 in 17 of current crossings.

The happiest political party from that won’t be Labour

Absolutely45 · 10/07/2025 07:44

The Conservatives were starting to address them, but imploded. A lot of that was their own fault - but also voters get fed up of most parties after 14 years, and the global pandemic certainly wasn't an easy backdrop. Not dissimilar to how Labour imploded in 2010 after 13 years in power, the middle east wars and the global recession. It took Labour 10 years to sort themselves out

Labour implode??? the Tories didn't even win a majority in 2010, i believe, may be wrong about this, Lab could have stayed in power with LD support.

Labour are in power now. They're a year in, and should be getting things done. The disillusionment is on them

Oh yes, 14 years of mis management and corruption cannot even be begun to be sorted inside 12 months, especially with an economy with very little money but they have made some great decisions and policies, which just get dismissed and/or ignored by the media.

There isn't going to be an election until 2029, i will give Lab another couple of years before i will write them off.

However, the expenses stuff Starmer got involved in, though no rules broken, was a massive own goal and one i was extremely pissed off about, this has had a massive impact on public disillusionment, along side a Tory party that everyone can see has wrecked the UK, few take them seriously, their polling is far behind Labours.

Araminta1003 · 10/07/2025 07:38

Reform is just an idea, an ideology, Farage has not even got enough MPs lined up to vote for? Who do all these people think they are voting for locally? We do not elect our prime minister in this country directly, the party in question does. Who is going to be standing for Reform in all these constituencies? When push comes to shove are people really going to vote for some chancers they found down the pub?

Absolutely45 · 10/07/2025 07:35

strawberrybubblegum · 09/07/2025 22:56

The UK is 2-tier when the government and institutions treat people differently for political or ideological reasons. Sometimes also linked to expediency.

The blind eye turned to the grooming gangs, for a start. And Kier Starmer seemed to condone that disgraceful failure, by trying to prevent a national enquiry.

Also led by Kier Starmer: the different treatment of rioters last summer depending on their race. The book was (rightly) thrown at white rioters, they were named and sham in the papers and given prison sentences. Existing prisoners were even released to make space for them in prison. A 12 year old boy was prosecuted in court for throwing 2 stones at police officers and going to watch (but not take oart in) the riots... but at the same time, nothing seems to have come of the masked Muslim rioters who attacked a pub whilst people sheltered inside and slashed the tires of the news crews cars. Nothing in the news linked to the original article, so iit would appear they didn't end up being charged.

It's often heavy-handed policing of easy targets: eg 6 police officers turning up to arrest Maxie Allen, and Rosalind Levine for being rude about their kid's teachers on WhatsApp - or women being arrested and held in cells for tying feminist ribbons in protest at the loss of single-sex spaces - all whilst the police are 'too busy' to stop the epidemic of shoplifting.

It all destroys our sense of a fair society.

There has been a national inquiry, .May set one up in 2014, it reported 8 years later and the Tories chose not to implement a single recommendation - this of course is Starmers fault.

Why do you want more delay?? Why not ensure we have a Police service and courts system fit to be able to prosecute and a care system able to support vulnerable children.... ALL Tory failures.

Masked men fail to be prosecuted? ha ha maybe no one knows who they are? bit different to someone caught of CCTV, parading his face to all isn't it?

This is the same with the men who attacked Police at an airport, i heard many people moaning about 2 Tier policing, i pointed out they had pleaded Not Guilty, hence the trial will be in many months time - as is happening right now.

EasternStandard · 10/07/2025 07:30

Reform’s outcome is closely linked to migration policies. If Labour see crossings just go up Reform get more support.

Both main parties lose voters as that happens.

ETA this has more influence than anything the conservatives can do which is why it’s not really about the leader.

strawberrybubblegum · 10/07/2025 04:50

And according to a You gov poll 40% of those saying they'd vote for Reform are doing so basically because they think neither of the main parties are any good and a new approach is needed.

Like Brexit, they feel that neither party is listening. If voters are repeatedly told that the things they're most concerned about aren't happening and aren't important, then eventually they'll look for another way to address them. In this case, Reform.

The Conservatives were starting to address them, but imploded. A lot of that was their own fault - but also voters get fed up of most parties after 14 years, and the global pandemic certainly wasn't an easy backdrop. Not dissimilar to how Labour imploded in 2010 after 13 years in power, the middle east wars and the global recession. It took Labour 10 years to sort themselves out.

Labour are in power now. They're a year in, and should be getting things done. The disillusionment is on them.

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strawberrybubblegum · 10/07/2025 04:13

JHound · 09/07/2025 23:21

Why Labour’s fault and not the Tories - where most Reform votes have gone?

33% of the 6.8 million people who voted Conservative at the last election are now saying they'll vote reform (2.24 million), and 9% of the 9.7 million who voted Labour (0.87 million).!and 8% of the 3.5 million who voted Lib Dem (0.28 million). 4 million already voted Reform last election.

Reform support has come from across the political spectrum.

strawberrybubblegum · 10/07/2025 04:01

JHound · 09/07/2025 23:18

The data does not support the “Two-Tier” claims.

Labour have tried to tell us that things are not true too many times, when it is evident that it is true. Doesn't work any more.

JHound · 09/07/2025 23:21

strawberrybubblegum · 09/07/2025 13:37

I'm very much wishing that Badenoch gets things together. Because if she doesn't, we'll have Reform in 3-4 years time - maybe sooner. And that will be Labour's fault.

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Why Labour’s fault and not the Tories - where most Reform votes have gone?

JHound · 09/07/2025 23:18

strawberrybubblegum · 09/07/2025 22:56

The UK is 2-tier when the government and institutions treat people differently for political or ideological reasons. Sometimes also linked to expediency.

The blind eye turned to the grooming gangs, for a start. And Kier Starmer seemed to condone that disgraceful failure, by trying to prevent a national enquiry.

Also led by Kier Starmer: the different treatment of rioters last summer depending on their race. The book was (rightly) thrown at white rioters, they were named and sham in the papers and given prison sentences. Existing prisoners were even released to make space for them in prison. A 12 year old boy was prosecuted in court for throwing 2 stones at police officers and going to watch (but not take oart in) the riots... but at the same time, nothing seems to have come of the masked Muslim rioters who attacked a pub whilst people sheltered inside and slashed the tires of the news crews cars. Nothing in the news linked to the original article, so iit would appear they didn't end up being charged.

It's often heavy-handed policing of easy targets: eg 6 police officers turning up to arrest Maxie Allen, and Rosalind Levine for being rude about their kid's teachers on WhatsApp - or women being arrested and held in cells for tying feminist ribbons in protest at the loss of single-sex spaces - all whilst the police are 'too busy' to stop the epidemic of shoplifting.

It all destroys our sense of a fair society.

The data does not support the “Two-Tier” claims.

strawberrybubblegum · 09/07/2025 23:04

The 1-in-1-out swap isn’t enough to be a deterrent. They're just being returned to France, ready to try again.

The Rwanda scheme would probably have worked very quickly and with very few people actually being deported before behaviour changed. Something similar has been proposed by Germany and the Netherlands.

The alternative is to stop the black narket economy. Definitely worth doing, but harder.

strawberrybubblegum · 09/07/2025 22:56

Absolutely45 · 09/07/2025 19:20

@strawberrybubblegum Fair enough on Badenoch

I think x channel migration is almost impossible to solve unless the French get on board, migrants want to come here, that cannot be changed easily or the Tories would have done it.

The only deterrent is returns to France, the 1 out 1 in might work.

In what way is the UK "2 Tier"?

I hear this a lot but no one really explains what they mean

The UK is 2-tier when the government and institutions treat people differently for political or ideological reasons. Sometimes also linked to expediency.

The blind eye turned to the grooming gangs, for a start. And Kier Starmer seemed to condone that disgraceful failure, by trying to prevent a national enquiry.

Also led by Kier Starmer: the different treatment of rioters last summer depending on their race. The book was (rightly) thrown at white rioters, they were named and sham in the papers and given prison sentences. Existing prisoners were even released to make space for them in prison. A 12 year old boy was prosecuted in court for throwing 2 stones at police officers and going to watch (but not take oart in) the riots... but at the same time, nothing seems to have come of the masked Muslim rioters who attacked a pub whilst people sheltered inside and slashed the tires of the news crews cars. Nothing in the news linked to the original article, so iit would appear they didn't end up being charged.

It's often heavy-handed policing of easy targets: eg 6 police officers turning up to arrest Maxie Allen, and Rosalind Levine for being rude about their kid's teachers on WhatsApp - or women being arrested and held in cells for tying feminist ribbons in protest at the loss of single-sex spaces - all whilst the police are 'too busy' to stop the epidemic of shoplifting.

It all destroys our sense of a fair society.

EasternStandard · 09/07/2025 20:37

People are odd about Badenoch when Starmer takes bullying chunks out every week rather than answer a question.

L1ghyn1ngBug · 09/07/2025 20:34

strawberrybubblegum · 09/07/2025 17:11

I like Badenoch. She's still getting into her stride.

Boris Johnson was a destructive disaster (albeit in an incredibly difficult global environment which would have sunk a much better leader), Sunak was pretty good but didn’t have time to prove himself, I'm really hoping that Kemi will manage to turn the Conservative party back into a viable party by next election. But really, most parties need a couple of terms to sort themselves out after a long time in office.

Reform will be Labour's fault because within a year of getting into power - when the Conservatives are still in disarray - they've shown themselves to be incompetent and dishonest - so voters have given up hope. A new government usually manages to hold it together long enough after getting in for people to forget the policies they didn't like from the last lot.

And Reform will also be Labour's fault because Labour are still not listening on immigration and 2-tier Britain. Have they learnt nothing from Brext? (which both main parties are equally responsible for - although n the end it was the people's choice). At least Badenoch seems to actually be listening.

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Badenoch is awful, truly awful. All she does is whine about Labour and leap on things she thinks will be popular. She also doesn’t seem to be that nice. The recent bullying behaviour towards Rachel Reeves and the down right nasty badly researched pamphlet she wrote on autism indicate how unsuitable she is for the job.

EasternStandard · 09/07/2025 20:33

Every question is met with jeering, sneering non answers. It’s pointless.

Anyone asking them will get the same black hole whatever stuff. It serves zero purpose to the electorate and is likely part of why Labour / Starmer’s ratings are in the floor.

Strawberrri · 09/07/2025 20:29

Badenoch should have gone along with reducing pip payments -it’s going to happen or if it doesn’t the country will start to grind to a halt -unless you’ve been living under a stone you must know debt payments will be higher than income soon.Outgoings will not be covered by tax revenue.

we are stuffed. Tories let it run and run. It needs to change.

Araminta1003 · 09/07/2025 20:21

I don’t like Badenoch, plus according to Google she got two Bs and a D at A level. I strongly feel we deserve someone who is both really brainy and has excellent business acumen and people skills to run our country. I don’t understand why we end up with dead weights nor why the House of Commons is a crass, sneery cess pit in this day and age, reminiscent of some Roman fest. None of it is forgivable.

You wouldn’t get away with that in the board room of even a FTSE 250 company, let alone a FTSE 100. It’s all deeply unprofessional. And no, Farage is not the answer. As far as I am aware he couldn’t even pass his exams, let alone manage university, despite expensive private schooling.

EasternStandard · 09/07/2025 20:07

Strawberrri · 09/07/2025 19:53

All Badenoch does is winge about what Labour are doing -when what Labour are attempting to do is what Cons Failed to do for 14 years. She will be out as soon as there is a sign that there might be an election.
im a Tory voter and thought as she is v intelligent she might be a breath of fresh air but she is being ridiculous - ranting about Labours failures when they are just trying to fix the Cons hopeless govs.

Really? Who do you want instead?

Strawberrri · 09/07/2025 19:53

All Badenoch does is winge about what Labour are doing -when what Labour are attempting to do is what Cons Failed to do for 14 years. She will be out as soon as there is a sign that there might be an election.
im a Tory voter and thought as she is v intelligent she might be a breath of fresh air but she is being ridiculous - ranting about Labours failures when they are just trying to fix the Cons hopeless govs.

Absolutely45 · 09/07/2025 19:20

@strawberrybubblegum Fair enough on Badenoch

I think x channel migration is almost impossible to solve unless the French get on board, migrants want to come here, that cannot be changed easily or the Tories would have done it.

The only deterrent is returns to France, the 1 out 1 in might work.

In what way is the UK "2 Tier"?

I hear this a lot but no one really explains what they mean

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