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globalnomad25 · 05/07/2025 13:17

We have been considering leaving, even if only for a few years. Many of our clients have already gone or are planning it, and some of our friends too.

I’m not sure where we’d go: UAE, Portugal, Jersey, Ireland, Canada, Australia? We don’t currently want to move to the US, even though that would probably make the most sense from a business/client point of view.

For those out there who have already left, how has it gone? Was it a horrible mistake or are you glad you did it?

For those also thinking about it, where would you go?

Kids are school-aged and smart and used to international travel as our work already takes us all over, although they’d miss their friends (as would we). We aren’t English so our family is already based all over the place, although we visit them frequently.

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Grammarnut · 06/07/2025 13:41

Itallcomesdowntothis · 05/07/2025 22:47

I get it but teaching kids to pass tests doesn’t always make the best model either. Creating a love of learning is important and a lot of teacher son rhe UK will
tell you that the curriculum and learning in the UK is very restrictive:

Approx 23% of working age people in the UK receive some sort of benefit as opposed to approx 5% in Canada.

57.5% of working age Canadians have a university degree or higher as opposed to 22.6% in the UK.

So yeah your friends may not have agreed with the Canadian school system but twice as many go on to get a degree and a fraction rely on state benefits. I know both systems very well and the UK system is broken. Not to mention amazing teachers who are on their knees in the UK. The Ontario Teachers Pension Plan is worth 226 Billion. We value education and those who educate.

Hi, I agree with you about the UK education system (the worst bit is in Scotland, using the Curriculum for Excellence which is full of skills and competencies but has no actual knowledge base). And teachers are overburdened with paperwork because the system of accountability is managerial and technocratic. It stifles education and 'teaching to the test' is the antithesis of learning.
But 'explicit teaching' is not 'teaching to the test'. It is making sure by explaining and showing the students how to do what they are learning and leading them in doing it and letting them become independent. Tests are to discover knowledge of the concepts taught. 'I do, we do, you do' with lots of interaction, teacher and student talk achieves this unlike discovery/progressive methods which allow the students to 'productively fail' - if you keep productively failing with maths or science you will cease to be interested; if you productively fail at writing history essays and are fed a diet of snippets to analyse instead of learning and discussing who did the event, what they were thinking (as far as we can know) why they did it, when did it (context) and what was the outcome, one is likely to end up not liking history.
The phonics check - so hated by my union - is not a 'test'/exam either, but what it says: a check on whether a child can decode English phonics (a complex lot, but learnable). There is no need to 'teach' to that test, but just to teach phonics properly - so that the young reader can decode any word (at year 1 that is limited to the phonics then known, of course, but those who reach the benchmark are going to be good readers).
I wish more people went to university in the UK and I wish we taught every child a secure knowledge base so that they can look critically about them and analyse what is being done to them and find ways to improve the lot of us all. Without knowledge you can think.

RenoLouis · 06/07/2025 12:55

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 09:25

In America 60% of people pay tax compared to 50% here.

Long term unemployed? no thanks, our elderly and children deserve better than people who are unemployable.

Oh, joy, so now we're identifying people who don't have to work at all, and wondering why we have Labour shortages in some sectors. 🤦‍♂️

I'm leaving the last word to others, we've derailed this thread too much already.

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It doesn’t matter how much you explain it, some people still consider that living off other people’s earnings somehow makes them morally superior to the people who they are living off. Plain lunacy.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 06/07/2025 12:41

Itallcomesdowntothis · 06/07/2025 10:09

Well your schadenfreude aside, Canada certainly isn’t in the hot seat.

Lighten up, Canada is a great country. (Well the people are, I can’t say I agree with the political leadership)

It’s the equivalent of the teacher’s pet in class that never gets in trouble.

Itallcomesdowntothis · 06/07/2025 10:09

saltinesandcoffeecups · 06/07/2025 00:19

Cripes would people leave the US out of this discussion… the OP doesn’t want to move there 😁

The reason for the migration of doctors to the US is likely salary… that being said a Canadian doctor can’t just drive south and hang up a shingle in the US. Their training needs to be recognized and accepted in the US and there are more hurdles to jump through.

Their undergrad degree is probably not a big deal though.

(Not going to lie it’s a bit entertaining to see Canada in the hot seat for once. Hasn’t happened to me since I saw a Canadian backpacker turned away from Spain over commercial fishing in the ‘90s)

Well your schadenfreude aside, Canada certainly isn’t in the hot seat.

L1ghyn1ngBug · 06/07/2025 09:51

Dufff23 · 06/07/2025 09:35

Err because it makes it clear that people pay into a system as well as withdrawing from it, when they can?

Many US states pay far more minimum wage than we do and there is a big tipping culture on top. If we roll out a much higher minimum wage those on the lowest incomes would be in a far better position to pay tax.

CyberStrider · 06/07/2025 09:36

I'm sure I read somewhere, that a move should be a pull to somewhere you want to go not a push from somewhere you want to get away from. The latter are far more likely to be unsuccessful.

globalnomad25 · 06/07/2025 09:35

Thank you so much everyone for taking the time to write and apologies to anyone I didn’t manage to reply to directly.

I now have a list of things to check and it’s been really helpful to hear your views and thoughts about each country - good AND negative points.

I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend and I’ll try to remember to update when we make a decision!

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Dufff23 · 06/07/2025 09:35

Err because it makes it clear that people pay into a system as well as withdrawing from it, when they can?

L1ghyn1ngBug · 06/07/2025 09:33

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 09:25

In America 60% of people pay tax compared to 50% here.

Long term unemployed? no thanks, our elderly and children deserve better than people who are unemployable.

Oh, joy, so now we're identifying people who don't have to work at all, and wondering why we have Labour shortages in some sectors. 🤦‍♂️

I'm leaving the last word to others, we've derailed this thread too much already.

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My understanding is there is no tax free allowance so even those on the lowest incomes pay tax. You really want those in the uk under minimum wage to pay tax so those at the top pay less?Then you get the fact that so many don’t have health cover. Why would anybody aspire to that?

globalnomad25 · 06/07/2025 09:32

TheFancyTealCrow · 05/07/2025 20:39

I've lived in Switzerland. It's expensive but it's clean, safe and beautiful. However, I personally found it staid and boring and was happy to leave... We recently had the chance to re-locate back there (with big salary + package) but we declined as we couldn't imagine it a good fit for our children based on our experience. Bear in mind, depending on where you will live and if you're exploring local schools (not private), kids may need to speak local 'swiss' dialect (specific to that region and not spoken elsewhere as high german might not be used).

I have 3 sets of friends living in UAE - again not somewhere I'd personally see as a 'long term' base. I have not lived there but based on what i see of their experience, would not consider it for many reasons (aside of the moral ones due to exploration, women's rights etc). One child is finishing school age 16 and there's concern about what they will do next - parents work visa does not support child staying in the country once school education finishes (child isn't sure they want to continue education - no option for apprenticeship, college etc).

Portugal - we currently live in a similar med country and over the years, so many people have come and gone because they seriously underestimate the cost of living. Do research. To give you an idea, the people we know with children roughly sit within the 4-5k per month cost of living, for a basic lifestyle. Spain, Portugal etc are not as cheap as chips! (as always assumed)

Jersey - good friend grew up there, disliked the fact everyone knew everyone's business. Small place that may get claustrophobic.

Of your options, I would steer toward Portugal. Children will pick up second language which lends itself to also easily picking up spanish, italian and french (in terms of similar grammar), plus more relaxed pace of life. Greener areas in cooler months and lots of walks to be had, healthier food and near to UK if you did indeed want to re-locate back for any reason. Given that your children may feel the uk is their 'roots' and be drawn back when old enough, it might be nicer to be closer in terms of flights/visiting if you want to maintain a relationship.

Our backup plan is NZ if we leave where we are currently living. Having lived in SE Asia and carribean too, we would only consider places we could see a 'long term' future for our children without having to move again. Of course, it's likely children will grow up and take off anyway, so all good intentions will be shot to pieces, regardless!

ETA: Australia - we had the option to move back 6 years ago through visa programme (had enough points) but could not make the finances work. Look into cost of living as it's gone up significantly.

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This is really helpful, thank you! We do speak varying levels of German (albeit not Swiss German) and Spanish (but not Portuguese) already so either Switzerland or Portugal sounds excellent. I had only briefly looked into Switzerland but wasn’t sure about the visa requirements but will look again.

I also need to understand better the UAE requirements re children post-16 education, as that could be a big blocker, although at this point I assume they will all do further education.

I like the idea of either Australia or NZ and we know some people there - mainly in the bigger cities like Sydney and Auckland. My only concern is that they are so far away from the rest of our friends and family, but perhaps that distance is a bonus if war looks likely over here in Europe/UK!

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GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 09:25

L1ghyn1ngBug · 06/07/2025 09:16

This- our unemployment rates are hugely better than France, Italy, Spain, Canada and on a par with the US and Australia.

In America 60% of people pay tax compared to 50% here.

Long term unemployed? no thanks, our elderly and children deserve better than people who are unemployable.

Oh, joy, so now we're identifying people who don't have to work at all, and wondering why we have Labour shortages in some sectors. 🤦‍♂️

I'm leaving the last word to others, we've derailed this thread too much already.

globalnomad25 · 06/07/2025 09:21

AuxArmesCitoyens · 05/07/2025 20:39

Switzerland would tick all your boxes OP. It is amazing.

Thank you, I will look more into it! I’ve not researched the requirements to live there yet, but we’ve been there on holidays there and loved it.

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globalnomad25 · 06/07/2025 09:18

ElleintheWoods · 05/07/2025 20:27

Do you need to work for a living?

Do you have EU passports?

If you don’t have EU passports, do remember that you need to have a job offer and contract in your destination country to get a visa. You can’t just rock up and stay long-term - unless you have significant funds to get an investor or similar ‘wealthy immigrant’ visa, eg Portugal does digital nomad.

Also remember that as an immigrant you don’t have the same rights especially regarding healthcare access for the kids etc.

If you don’t have British passports, check your leave conditions - you may not be able to come back and have the same immigration status, depending on how long you stay for. ‘Indefinite leave to remain’ actually has conditions attached.

All I’d say is if you’re moving with kids and need a house from day 1 etc, you need to have significant savings to get access to property etc. As a single person it’s a lot easier.

If you’re independently wealthy and only moving for lifestyle/ weather you can ignore most of the above.

In summary:

  • make sure you know which visa types you qualify for
  • make sure you know the full up front cost of first few months, including relocation, visas for kids, any deposits/ up front fees etc
  • enjoy!

I say this as someone who has lived in 5 countries.

Many thank, this is good advice. We are all ok on the passport front.

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L1ghyn1ngBug · 06/07/2025 09:16

Absolutely45 · 06/07/2025 09:06

You are clearly commentating from a position of great ignorance.

Can you point me to where we pay people NOT to work?

As its strange that the UK still has over 26 million people in FT employment, with a further 8m in PT work.

With just 1.2million unemployed, most of those are churn, between jobs, with only 350k long term unemployed many of whom will be unemployable.

Yet according to your oracle, we pay everyone to sit at home.... 😂

Oh on potential care/nursery workers? no they left the sector to work in other areas.
Long term unemployed? no thanks, our elderly and children deserve better than people who are unemployable.

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This- our unemployment rates are hugely better than France, Italy, Spain, Canada and on a par with the US and Australia.

Parker231 · 06/07/2025 09:09

Headingforholidays · 06/07/2025 08:59

In Western Canada. I was also very surprised as had assumed the schools would be really good but the mum has told me that the maths in particular is a long way behind what they were doing here, and the children (who are all bright and academic) have been very bored at school.

My friends live in Vancouver - same age as my DT’s. At high school age the Canadians could run rings around my DT’s in math - who were at a high achieving private London school and got A’s each week.
Unfortunately there are good and bad schools in every country

Absolutely45 · 06/07/2025 09:06

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 08:49

Funny how the "going rate" is always applied to those at the top but those, such as care workers or nursery workers can claim top up benefits instead, despite there being a huge shortage in these sectors.

A shortage of workers is exactly what you get when you pay people not to work. And yes the going rate is distorted by that to the point where customers can't/won't pay what people will work for. If potential careworkers don't get paid to stay at home all of a sudden those care work jobs are going to look highly desirable.

Seems like you've spotted the problem and the solution. ✔️

You are clearly commentating from a position of great ignorance.

Can you point me to where we pay people NOT to work?

As its strange that the UK still has over 26 million people in FT employment, with a further 8m in PT work.

With just 1.2million unemployed, most of those are churn, between jobs, with only 350k long term unemployed many of whom will be unemployable.

Yet according to your oracle, we pay everyone to sit at home.... 😂

Oh on potential care/nursery workers? no they left the sector to work in other areas.
Long term unemployed? no thanks, our elderly and children deserve better than people who are unemployable.

Headingforholidays · 06/07/2025 08:59

Parker231 · 05/07/2025 19:27

Where in Canada were they living? Canada is consistently highly ranked in global education surveys. It often outperforms the UK in reading, math, and science at the secondary level.
We’re in Montreal - DT’s have passed school age but the education system is excellent. It’s bilingual due to Quebec’s language laws.

In Western Canada. I was also very surprised as had assumed the schools would be really good but the mum has told me that the maths in particular is a long way behind what they were doing here, and the children (who are all bright and academic) have been very bored at school.

L1ghyn1ngBug · 06/07/2025 08:57

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 08:49

Funny how the "going rate" is always applied to those at the top but those, such as care workers or nursery workers can claim top up benefits instead, despite there being a huge shortage in these sectors.

A shortage of workers is exactly what you get when you pay people not to work. And yes the going rate is distorted by that to the point where customers can't/won't pay what people will work for. If potential careworkers don't get paid to stay at home all of a sudden those care work jobs are going to look highly desirable.

Seems like you've spotted the problem and the solution. ✔️

Wow what a truly ignorant and naive post. Care work and nursery work is some of the hardest and most important work we have. These are people with responsibility for the daily needs of our most vulnerable members of society. Not enough is put into training, wages or working conditions.Its not something just anybody can or should be doing. In Norway and Sweden nursery workers have high qualifications and good wages with the resulting excellent provision. We should be striving for that not just forcing anybody into the very low paid and often gruelling sector.

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 08:49

Funny how the "going rate" is always applied to those at the top but those, such as care workers or nursery workers can claim top up benefits instead, despite there being a huge shortage in these sectors.

A shortage of workers is exactly what you get when you pay people not to work. And yes the going rate is distorted by that to the point where customers can't/won't pay what people will work for. If potential careworkers don't get paid to stay at home all of a sudden those care work jobs are going to look highly desirable.

Seems like you've spotted the problem and the solution. ✔️

NorthoftheAzores · 06/07/2025 08:47

Lioncub2020 · 05/07/2025 19:57

Bare in mind Jersey is tiny. You can drive across from end to end in 30 mins and the speed limit isn't greater than 40 anywhere. It is a very different lifestyle.

It can also be very insular. I found it to be a very them and us situation. If you are not a born local living in the country parishes, you will never really belong. You will always be labelled 'an outsider'. In the capital of St Helier, there are many different languages to be heard from the many nationalities of support staff for farming, hospitality and service jobs. Most of these people live in flats built around St Helier. It can be very cliquey amongst the richer classes too - the in set.

Absolutely45 · 06/07/2025 08:45

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 08:31

Just because someone of non British descent, who was here for just a few months of the year and now isn't, doesn't mean people are "leaving in droves"

No, one family going means nothing. But clearly the ratio of people paying in and paying out of the state is rapidly changing. 20% of us are now claiming disability benefits and that number is predicted to continue to rocket. So fewer tax payers are carrying a heavier burden. Even a government with a massive majority can't stop it. It's self fueling and only ends one way.

I do appreciate that the numbers don't stack up but it should be remembered who allowed this to happen? seemingly done to make the unemployment figures look good plus in work benefits are propping up or rather allowing business to make huge profits off the back of the tax payer.

Labour haven't abandoned benefit cuts & restrictions, more delayed them until the Timms report.
Their previous plan was very unfair, needs a lot more thought.

NorthoftheAzores · 06/07/2025 08:38

carly2803 · 05/07/2025 19:51

where do people live while they are waiting to rent?

or buy?

I dont want to leave the UK, but i do want a big move for a better life.

Check out the gov.je website for full details. Seasonal staff often live in the hotel or farmworkers on the farm. There are bedsits with shared facilities too. If you have a profession, teacher, nurse, accountant, surgeon, GP etc you can rent a proper flat with your own kitchen and bathroom or if you have a family a house. There are categories of living accommodation depending on how long you are in the Island.

L1ghyn1ngBug · 06/07/2025 08:33

Poppins21 · 06/07/2025 08:17

The problem is in a globalised world and incoming AI capabilities many jobs can just be outsourced from the UK. This model only works if all jobs have to be done in the UK.

Repressing wages and services of the majority and curtailing to the few at the top order in order to stop 0.5% of the wealthiest leaving doesn’t sound like the way to go.

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 08:31

Just because someone of non British descent, who was here for just a few months of the year and now isn't, doesn't mean people are "leaving in droves"

No, one family going means nothing. But clearly the ratio of people paying in and paying out of the state is rapidly changing. 20% of us are now claiming disability benefits and that number is predicted to continue to rocket. So fewer tax payers are carrying a heavier burden. Even a government with a massive majority can't stop it. It's self fueling and only ends one way.

Absolutely45 · 06/07/2025 08:28

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 06/07/2025 08:24

How are "we" boosting salaries at the top? "We" just pay the going rate.

How would "we" pull people put of any specific wage?

No need to tell me, just give the Treasury a ring, they should get things back under control in weeks with your clever economic insights. All without doing anything unpopular.

Funny how the "going rate" is always applied to those at the top but those, such as care workers or nursery workers can claim top up benefits instead, despite there being a huge shortage in these sectors.

We have no money! yet its all ok to write off billions in Covid support and not go after the fraudsters... even vote them in to govern us.

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