To be annoyed none of my friends have come to my concerts?

There really are so many self-centred cunts in the world.

I agree you feel more pressure then but OP is feeling let down by her friends currently. She needs to let her friends know she would like them to come to her concerts occasionally but accept if they say they don't want to. I have friends I can be honest with and expect them to be honest with me.

Bullshit. There are many ways of supporting your friends.

You sound nice.

I’m with you guys, I would struggle not to fall asleep, however I’d still suck it up if it was my friend performing, I think. Just to show support and interest in my friend’s life.

People are different, if thet are a good friend in other ways I would not let this upset you.

If a friend said "i have a concert in xxxx if anyone would like a ticket please let me know cost is xx" i would go if i was available to support my friend. I would not book tickets normally so wouldnt do it based on seeing the concert advertised and prior knowledge that is the particular choir my friend is in (i probably wouldnt even remember that is the choir).

My very good friend is in choir and is an amazing singer.
i have not and will not see her perform- I can’t imagine anything worse than watching a choir if I’m honest

YABU. Amateur choir performances, I'm sorry to say, are not most people's cup of tea. Maybe your friends could come to one of it's for charity, fair enough.

My mum is in a choir and invites me to her shows. I have been to one, and it was a whole evening of amateur performances (think children, elderly women) and it was the dullest thing I have ever sat through. I have a very busy job, 2 small children and barely ever get a night to myself, so I just can't justify the childcare for something like this, to sit through an evening I really don't enjoy. I didn't tell my mum it was boring, but I asked her if she wanted me there or if she was just asking me if I wanted to go for my own entertainment. She said she wasn't bothered about me going but thought I'd like it, and was fine with me saying no. So I don't go to any anymore.

Maybe your friends would come if you made it clear it's really important to you, and that it's for charity. But I wouldn't expect them to want to, or to enjoy it I'm sorry to say!

Your husband comes because he's married to you and probably won't hear the end of it otherwise. It's quite self centred of you to expect your friends to watch you. Choirs are probably fun to be in but are boring to watch. I don't expect my friends to watch me in a race I've been training months for if they aren't interested in running. I'm sure you can spend time with your friends doing things you mutually enjoy.

I know a lot of musicians. I would only ever attend a choral concert if you were the soloist, conductor, accompanist, or having an original composition/arrangement of yours performed. The exception would be if you’re a member of the BBC Chorus or similar amazing choir in which case, yes, I’d love to come and watch you perform at the proms!

I sing in a choir because hour because it’s fun, a great way of making friends and is good for me. However, I entirely get that attending choir performances is not everyone’s cup of tea. I’ve never asked any of my friends to come to a concert. They know what I’m doing, ask me how it’s going, where I’m singing and wish me luck. They show interest in me. But they’ve never come to see me and why should they? Support and encouragement comes in many guises. They don’t need to be in the audience to demonstrate they care.

This shows people really won’t go out of their way anymore to support someone they are supposed to care about.

There really is so many self centred cunts in this world isn’t there. 🙄

Yeah i would expect this.

I go to see my friends stuff, they come to see mine.

But i guess if friendship to you is just about meeting up for wine o'clock, you wouldnt understand

My friend sings in a Gilbert and sullivan choir and does regular shows, she often has lead roles. I have been once or twice but really don't like that type of music. She understands why I don't go any more.

I’d go and see my friend if the choir were doing carols by candlelight in a lovely venue, or if my friend had a big solo.
I would not watch a friend sing Ed Sheeran along with 50 other people at a summer fete.

Sounds dreadful and cringe

I just had a conversation with my friend about this. We play football. Obviously lower leagues, but we are very surprised how very few partners show up. My bf comes when he can, one husband comes to every game. But there are playera whose spouses and kids haven't seen a single game. I've played in the team for over 10 years now.

That's sad. Some really good choirs around.

I think most people find watching people they know perform a bit awkward. It’s probably no reflection on how they feel about you as a friend.

I would not expect friends to watch me perform. Family maybe but friends absolutely not.

I agree it would be nice of them to show support, but maybe they’re not interested in amateur performances? (That’s not meant as an insult - I sing in a choir too.)

I'm assuming you don’t sing solos; if you did, and mentioned it to them but they still didn’t come, that would definitely be unkind.

Have you tried a direct approach - "Hey all, I'm singing in a concert in a couple of weeks. Fancy coming?"

Me too @LaChanteuse.

I have lots of talented friends.

I always make the effort to go and see them in their various endeavours, even if it’s not my particular interest, as I want to show my support for something that is important to them.

I agree op. I do watch a friend if they were in a painting a wall competition/show. It's about support and interest. Even if they only go once! I've supported my friends and their kids whenever possible. That said, no one reciprocates. I perform at least once a year for years. My family come. Never my friends. That said, I'm aware I do a lot of things for friends that they don't do for me.

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Oh yes, there's always something positive and encouraging that you can say!

I sing in a community choir and our concert is midweek, local and free but only DH comes. I mentioned it in passing to a couple of friends but they didn’t bite.

I would really hate to feel that someone had come from a sense of duty. It’s pretty marmite. Just sing and enjoy it. 😊