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To be annoyed none of my friends have come to my concerts?

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LaChanteuse · 05/07/2025 09:43

I genuinely don't know if I'm BU. I'm in a choir and we have regular concerts. We're an amateur choir but pretty good and tickets are cheap - all proceeds go to charity. Locations are easy to get to - nothing miles away or with difficult parking etc.

I've been in the choir four years and have done about 10 concerts. DH comes every time (even though I've said he doesn't have to - he is the kindest person in the entire world) and my kids come when they can.

My local friends know when the concerts are on but they haven't come to a single one. If the tables were turned I'd be dying to see them performing - I wouldn't go to every concert but I'd go to one at least. AIBU to be annoyed they haven't made the effort? To be clear these are people I'm close to, not acquaintances.

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notacooldad · 05/07/2025 09:50

I'd be reluctant to go and I wouldn't expect my friends to go to my interests if it wasn't their their 'thing"

MsDDxx · 05/07/2025 09:50

I’m sure singing in it is great fun but watching it would be very dull, and they probably know this .

ChaToilLeam · 05/07/2025 09:49

That's a shame. Choirs aren't my thing either but I would go once in a while to see a friend or relative.

fruitbrewhaha · 05/07/2025 09:49

I love live music, but choir, not really. I think it’s probably more fun for you to sing than to watch.

BedChem · 05/07/2025 09:49

Slobberchops1 · 05/07/2025 09:47

Couldn’t think of anything more dull than a seeing a choir .

Same..

Shenmen · 05/07/2025 09:48

I sing in a choir. It's an amazing choir, a few friends have come but personally I couldn't think of anything more boring than going to listen to a choir and I never invite them directly.

BedChem · 05/07/2025 09:48

You expect your friends to be interested in choirs because they're your friends? Have I read that right?

I for what it's worth fine choirs incredibly boring. If it was my child I would of course go and watch, but I would have absolutely zero interest in watching an amateur choir group bellowing in a church or the likes.

you can't expect your friends to be interested just because you are. That's not how the world works.

MsDDxx · 05/07/2025 09:48

I think YABU. You can’t expect them to, especially if they’re not interested in choir (they can’t ALL be surely).

That said, I wouldn’t expect them to watch me do something either, that’s my choice to do.

I’m a really easy going friend though.

Slobberchops1 · 05/07/2025 09:47

Couldn’t think of anything more dull than a seeing a choir .

Snorlaxo · 05/07/2025 09:47

Are they into music and the kind of songs that you sing at this choir? How long are the concerts?
Would you be dying to see them perform because you enjoy singing and attend this kind of event regularly ?

LlynTegid · 05/07/2025 09:46

I agree, showing support at least once would be reasonable.

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LaChanteuse · 05/07/2025 09:46

MasterBeth · 05/07/2025 09:44

You are interested in choirs and concerts. They are not.

A few of them are interested in choirs and concerts. Regardless, I would expect them to be interested in me as a friend.

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MasterBeth · 05/07/2025 09:44

You are interested in choirs and concerts. They are not.