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Weird quirk or controlling?

33 replies

Whatton · 04/07/2025 20:46

Dp has started timing how long my before bed ritual takes me. Ie, going to the loo, brushing teeth. He claims its to prove how much longer than i take than him and how he should use the bathroom first as i "slow him down". He claims Its just a bit fun, im not sure how to take it. Advice?

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Purplecatshopaholic · 04/07/2025 20:51

You need two bathrooms! It’s the only way, lol. And yes, he sounds decidedly weird.

MuckFusk · 04/07/2025 20:51

It's stupid. The only way to prove you take longer is if you also time him. You can't rely on him timing himself honestly if he's angling for a way to get in first.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 04/07/2025 20:51

Depends on what the rest of your relationship is like. I once threatened to sew a line down the middle of the fitted sheet so that I could have proof that my DH was on my side. Could be having a bit of fun while making a valid point, could be controlling. Do you take ages in the bathroom? What’s he like in other ways?

PPPPikachu · 04/07/2025 20:49

Tell us more about him, he sounds like a prince.

Yogabearmous · 04/07/2025 20:48

Start timing how long it takes him to use the bathroom each morning - only his poo routine is slowing you down

LeavesOnTrees · 04/07/2025 20:48

Both, what is he like the rest of the time ?

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/07/2025 20:47

Weirdo 😂

Sally2791 · 04/07/2025 20:47

Weird

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