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Attracted to a married man

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Prontehpronto · 04/07/2025 19:52

I am very attracted to a married man at work, I am married too. We work from home (diff homes!) and talk alot about work over teams but he makes me laugh a lot and makes me feel really nice. In the office he finds every opportunity he can to talk to me, I know he is attracted to me too from his body language and how close he comes towards me. We both have children. I have been unhappy in my marriage for a long time, my husband works late, drinks, is very overweight and makes me feel lonely and sad, he is verbally abusive and dismissive of me. Im sure im not cup of tea either and thats why he is out all the time. Im just his house keeper and look after the kids. Im quite a high achiever at work and think my husband resents me for that, for my age I suppose im still quite attractive. Even now he is out drinking whilst im alone with the kids. I want to continue to talk to this other guy and would like something physical to eventually happen between us, I think about him alot, I haven't been attracted to a man like this for a long time, I don't think I even fancied my husband this much. I want him to pursue me but also feel very bad and sad, we both have young children. Any advice or stories similar stories please.

OP posts:
Hoardasurass · 04/07/2025 19:58

Divorce your husband and find a single man don't start an affair that will destroy someone else's family.

Hanovercrosse · 04/07/2025 19:57

You’ve got fanny flutters, interesting that you don’t mention his wife at all ??

tookatumble · 04/07/2025 19:57

What does his wife think?

ObtuseMoose · 04/07/2025 19:56

Bin your husband, take some time to be alone then maybe start dating. Leave other women's husbands alone.

InterestedBeing · 04/07/2025 19:56

Dinosweetpea · 04/07/2025 19:55

Feel free to divorce your own husband but leave other people's husbands alone.

This pretty much. If you re not happy in your marriage, leave it, but don't look to overlap and encourage somebody else to cheat.

CherryBlossom321 · 04/07/2025 19:55

End your miserable marriage, and find someone who is actually available if you’re desperate for a relationship.

SleeplessInWherever · 04/07/2025 19:55

My advice is to leave your husband.

3luckystars · 04/07/2025 19:55

You have come to the goats house for wool.

It was a huge mistake posting about that here. Don’t do it. Run!!!!!

Dinosweetpea · 04/07/2025 19:55

Feel free to divorce your own husband but leave other people's husbands alone.

Wiglio · 04/07/2025 19:54

No good will come of thi OP