Attracted to a married man

Get a divorce.

Leave a married man with young children alone. You'll just fuck up their lives if you keep it up.

It's a fantasy. How attractive is it when your husband throws you out, you're sharing your children with their new step mum and your married man chose to stay with his wife?

So you are putting your needs before your children? If you are not happy leave

Hi op your post came up as a suggestion because I was commenting on another post think I’m in love with a married man look it up and read her comments you might be able to resonate also if you can get out don’t ruin someone else’s life because you are lonely and unhappy. I understand your pain but taking someone else’s husband is not the answer. Also I think sometimes we see what we want to see. His wife might think he’s as bad as your husband and feel exactly like you. Sort out your own life without involving anyone else. Good luck.

I might just go round blowing up stranger's houses then because I don't owe them anything.

You are human but it is good that you sought advice. You do not deserve to be treated the way you are by your husband. Your marriage is over and you need to address this with your husband. Be kind to yourself and cut back on communication with your colleague. Best wishes.

I don’t know, I sometimes wonder. After all, there are so many married men having affairs that I think it’s safe to assume there truly are a load of women out there who have equally few morals as the lying scumbag husbands!

Leave him alone. Think of your kids, and his fgs. 🙄

Don’t try to increase your happiness by ruining someone elses.
First step OP, get your freedom.

Yeah, that person, the one you quoted, is just a fantasist making shit up as they go along, obviously. Trying to get a rise. Bit of a dickhead thing to do, but you get them on this site.

This has got to be a joke 😳

Don't shit where you eat OP.

Yes it can work out well in the end. But it can be messy, especially if there are young kids involved.

If both people are unhappy, best to first end both marriages and then we how it is.

but it’s reasonable to assume if you’re flirting and unhappily married he is too

I’m sure in studies that something like 70+% of cheating men claim to be perfectly happily married and in love with their wives. They just also love an ego-polishing and a bit of extra sex/excitement.

Women on the other hand tend not to look elsewhere unless something is missing in their relationship, though I’m sure some women are more like men, and some men are unhappy like women.

Yes, you are bad and sad.

Also, you are an adult not a teenager. You can make choices, and bear the consequences of those choices. Stop being so self-indulgent.

I have found myself in a similar situation at work.I have 3 young children, work full time and for the first time in a long time felt seen and attractive. I enjoy going into work and interacting with him. It has given me a lift I haven’t felt in years. It’s like I still have a part of me I thought was lost. I know my husband no longer finds me physically attractive (since having our children) despite the fact other men do but this is the first man I have been physically attracted to myself. I am moving departments at work, my own choice as I don’t want to do anything I would regret but I can completely understand why you are so drawn to him, especially when you feel unseen in your own marriage. I just wanted to let you know what you aren’t alone and your feelings are normal ❤️

When people have affairs it is often not the first time that one of the people has cheated and very probable that it won't be the last time that either of you will cheat

I don’t think it’s reasonable to assume he’s unhappily married at all. He might just fancy a bit on the side.

Are your kids Ur job and your current husband so unimportant and irrelevant to you that you are willing to risk it all for married man if answer is yes. Then it your lifestyle choices but work out who is more important and illicit affair or your kids welfare

I would talk to your new guy about this. I get that you don’t want to throw away the BF s with your dh. An affair can be uber exciting and in other countries or (the 1970s) this would be considered completely and entirely normal. I wouldn’t shy away from your feelings. You do you, and if it’s reciprocated then that’s such good news for you.
bit of a shame for the other lady, but it’s reasonable to assume if you’re flirting and unhappily married he is too. And adults are free to make their own choices in life.
good luck

You're right. And of course the OP would be responsible for destroying her family should she embark on this affair.

Yes, that is also notable, and truly a sad thing to see.

Excellent points. If he'll cheat on his wife it's reasonable to conclude he may cheat on her too. She wouldn't really be able to trust him nor could he trust her.