That no one said I look nice?

The OPs husband may be mean or he may not be. He may have had a good reason for not saying anything. The OPs mental health must have been very poor if she wasn’t even able to deal with her personal hygiene, it’s not hard to understand that the OPs husband may be finding things difficult too. It’s quite possible he is thoughtless or even ‘mean’ but you can’t possibly determine that from what the OP has said.

I’m sure you looked fab!
I hoped you enjoyed the process, to hell with the others. You do it for you.
PS tell your dh how disappointed I am with him not noticing 😡

You made the effort and that’s enough. It’s the beginning. Do it for you and no one else.
Keep turning up for yourself, you can do it and it felt good.
Well done you👏, little steps.

I do compliment friends on an outfit but never hair, makeup.

My husband never notices what I wear, never has except to say
"Is that new? 😂

I’ve never commented on someone’s appearance.

Honestly people need to learn to compliment without offending "I love that dress" doesn't imply that you usually dress like a scruff just shows you have seen the person in a lovely dress telling someone an obvious haircut looks nice again not implying they look bad just shows they look good

We need to stop being so afraid and offended by everything

Probably because they love you for yourself………not for what you look like

I think another way to look at this is that the people in your life that care about you treated you exactly the same whether you looked your best or not. They didn’t comment after your glow up but presumably they also didn’t comment when you didn’t look as good. There’s value in that consistency. And like everyone has said - just because they didn’t say didn’t mean they didn’t notice. Also - now you know that the next time you aren’t freshly waxed and blow dried (because you can’t be all the time!) they will all treat you exactly the same.

Honestly, please don't feel sad - it didn't cause a ripple. Our relationship is very jokey, so it is actually quite odd to slip into compliments - I'm no good at it myself. But we all have our points of pride - if he doesn't tell me, chapter and verse, how delicious his dinner was, dropping in the odd "restaurant quality" (it isn't), then he knows he's going to be in the dog box for quite a long time!

That's over reaching. We have no idea why Op's husband didn't comment.

Congratulations op, well done on your efforts 👌
The most important opinion is yours!!
How did YOU feel?
Will you continue this self improvement?
Xx

Honestly I probably would have thought “oh x looks lovely” but I probably wouldn’t say anything because I tend to refrain from commenting on peoples appearance. I think my DD’s best friends mum is one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever met (inside and out) and I have never told her, which I think maybe I should.

I always try not to comment on people’s appearance either way because you never how they’re feeling or how they might take it. I imagine a lot of people are the same, and I bet you looked lovely. Don’t let it upset you

Well I guess you could take it that they don’t usually take much notice of your appearance and you don’t actually look a mess usually. You felt nice and felt good about yourself and that is fabulous. Nothing beats that feeling. Don’t be disheartened, people are just so caught up with themselves these days. However I would have said you looked nice. I always tell people if I think they look nice x

This

Until very recently people always did comment when someone looked good and it was appreciated!

Yes, it's stupid. I haven't read the full thread, but I'm sure there'll be plenty of 'never comment on someone's appearance neither good or bad'. It's rubbish for people who want the nice comments!

We are all fighting our own battles - you knew you’d let yourself go a bit, and pulled it back.
people didn’t see it and thought it was just the way you are, you still looked nice, presented well and probably have a lovely way with you that makes people actually like you as a person - so they’ve never really thought about how you dress or carry yourself.
But, keep at it, keep making the effort but keep being you too as that’s clearly what people notice about you !!

I bet you looked awesome, YOU know you looked awesome and that is the main thing. Don’t underestimate the strength it takes to do this. Well
done.

Well done OP, I bet you did look lovely.

Link to your dress?

Be happy for yourself and let how you look in the mirror motivate yourself, for yourself.

Agree, I wouldn’t have commented either although I may have liked my husband to do so.

Honestly my DD had so many snappy at reactions at innocuous comments that now I just don’t mention anything ever.

It depends on the relationship but usually I just ask my partner for his opinion instead of waiting for him to say it.

Why would anyone, other than maybe your husband, comment?

I am struggling a bit myself with not identical but relatable issues so can I just say i really admire you for doing this and hope it inspires to face down mine. I do think people don’t know what to say but on the other hand “what a pretty dress” would have been fairly safe. Don’t let it get you down but let it give you confidence that you can. All the best and I bet you looked great

It sounds like this self care made you feel good- that’s enough reason to carry on making the effort
l would not comment on someone who had a history of depression etc, for fear of highlighting the difference and drawing attention to something they were fighting with.( Unless l knew them really well)
Your Husband was a bit unfeeling, but as others have said, perhaps you look better than you thought.
Dress for yourself- give yourself some love and care x