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Lighthearted- I’ve worked my arse off on dinner, what will my family say?

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LongDroop · 04/07/2025 15:15

Decided I’m sick of Friday night takeout so went to the shops and bought ingredients for dinner. I’ve worked my arse off all afternoon cooking and preparing, I’ve got the nice dishes out, even made dessert. It bloody cost more than takeout and has taken hours. I’m really pleased with how well it’s come out. But I know I’m going to hear all the whinging- don’t want this/don’t like it/want chips etc.

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LongDroop · 04/07/2025 17:26

Sorry! Didn’t mean to write and run! The meal was- drum roll please!- curries! I made a korma, a butter chicken and a pasanda. I made some naans to go with them (garlic and plain) and did basmati rice, boiled rice and some pasta for emergencies! I also did some dips and Popadoms as a starter but no one liked them so I’m forgetting about it!

they're not really rude, but a 4 year old and 10 year old with ASD so new meals don’t go down well usually. I made small portions of everything except the naans which i can freeze the leftovers. I did pasta for my eldest as he doesn’t like rice.

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DongDingBell · 04/07/2025 17:21

TheChosenTwo · 04/07/2025 17:16

Really @DongDingBell ?! Steaks from the butchers for 3 of us last weekend was £60 and they weren’t fillets! (Fillet for me is the most boring cut of steak), to buy a whole chicken is about £24 to get a good one to feed the 5 of us, then you have the sides!
although to be fair I’m not sure we could get any takeaway for less than £40 either. Dd and I shared a Chinese recently and it was £50 although there were leftovers for the next day.

I clearly shop in different places to you then!!

£24 for a chicken?? About £10 for a posh one here. So, yes, under £40 for a meal.

I'm with you on fillet not being the tastiest cut, but it is the most expensive!

TheChosenTwo · 04/07/2025 17:16

Really @DongDingBell ?! Steaks from the butchers for 3 of us last weekend was £60 and they weren’t fillets! (Fillet for me is the most boring cut of steak), to buy a whole chicken is about £24 to get a good one to feed the 5 of us, then you have the sides!
although to be fair I’m not sure we could get any takeaway for less than £40 either. Dd and I shared a Chinese recently and it was £50 although there were leftovers for the next day.

DongDingBell · 04/07/2025 17:13

Takeaway here would cost £40.
I'm struggling to thing of a meal (other than fillet steak or lobster) that would cost £40 in ingredients, so I'm intrigued as to what you've cooked!

TheChosenTwo · 04/07/2025 17:05

Well op?! What’s on the bloody menu 😂

Dominoeffecter · 04/07/2025 17:05

What did you maaaaaaake

BoredZelda · 04/07/2025 17:04

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 04/07/2025 16:49

There’s nothing lighthearted about your family being ungrateful, unappreciative, and taking you for granted.

I’m assuming small children are involved. We’ve all been there from time to time.

CommissarySushi · 04/07/2025 17:02

Tbf I would be pretty annoyed if I was no longer allowed my weekly takeaway because someone else decided they were sick of it and wanted to martyr themselves by slaving all day over a dinner nobody wanted.

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 04/07/2025 16:50

chaiselozenges · 04/07/2025 15:27

It’s beans on toast obvs. Lightly sprinkled with cheese.

That’s ambrosia!

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 04/07/2025 16:49

There’s nothing lighthearted about your family being ungrateful, unappreciative, and taking you for granted.

SummerFrog25 · 04/07/2025 16:44

Brightmoonlight · 04/07/2025 16:24

May I ask @SummerFrog25 to consider that taking care over the purchase and selection of ingredients and presentation for a cold collation also demands thought and care for those who will eat it.

@Brightmoonlight

you can ask/suggest what you like. But frankly I can also disagree. It's food that's ordered weekly, online delivery.

you can pontificate all you like over well presented cold collations, but it will be roughly chopped & thrown into an individual bowl. The most effort will be removing the lid off the homous

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TokyoSushi · 04/07/2025 16:25

I'm going to guess Lasagne, salad, garlic bread and a cheesecake.

Apparently DH is doing us a 4th of July BBQ tonight, I wait to see what that entails!

Brightmoonlight · 04/07/2025 16:24

May I ask @SummerFrog25 to consider that taking care over the purchase and selection of ingredients and presentation for a cold collation also demands thought and care for those who will eat it.

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SummerFrog25 · 04/07/2025 16:07

Brightmoonlight · 04/07/2025 16:01

Good for you OP. I think you may need to explain why you have done this, otherwise they might not get it.
Luckily my family like and appreciate home cooking. I had to explain to someone all about the "cooking a meal is about love".

Yep, NO. Cooking might be about love for YOU, that doesn't make it a fact.

SummerFrog25 · 04/07/2025 16:04

It's still hot here! Nothing is getting cooked.i had iced coffee to avoid steaming the milk.

dinner will be rocket, cucumber, tomatoes, yellow pepper, radish, gherkin, spring onion, cheese, if that. It's just too hot to want to eat right now.

Brightmoonlight · 04/07/2025 16:01

Good for you OP. I think you may need to explain why you have done this, otherwise they might not get it.
Luckily my family like and appreciate home cooking. I had to explain to someone all about the "cooking a meal is about love".

BusWankers · 04/07/2025 16:00

"why aren't we having takeaway?"

Iwillclasptheeagain · 04/07/2025 15:57

They are being unreasonable. Toasted sandwiches are the BEST.

Mildmanneredmum · 04/07/2025 15:56

Me too

B1anche · 04/07/2025 15:35

I can't believe I'm following this thread purely to find out what the meal is. What has my life become?

Sugardown · 04/07/2025 15:32

Maybe a better day aside from Friday take away night would have been better for going to an effort

although if you genuinely think your family will whinge at you and be rude….. then going to an effort on any day was probably going to end up with you in a mood banging away in the kitchen and emptying full plates in to the bin!!

TheLittleMermoo · 04/07/2025 15:31

I think shes made lasagne and a cheesecake

BangersAndGnash · 04/07/2025 15:31

“Is there any ketchup?”

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