Overheard new partners parents talking about my looks

This is so controlling OP. If a man was suggesting their partner cut her parents off over an overheard conversation, then there would be rightly so an uproar!

So because you moved away with a guy after a year!! You now want him isolated from his family because you don’t even have any locally?

Did they call you fat or say ‘oh I didn’t realise Daniel was in to bigger women.’ Both are awful but one more so. You haven’t even discussed it with him. I’m curious if you are a size 20 etc which again wouldn’t make it ok but could they have been surprised?

You both sound about 14.

My parents are old and fattist. To me to many people. I'm not aging it's acceptable but it can be a generation thing.

If their son has always liked thin girls and said he wouldn't date a larger woman then you xan understand their comments. Itvwas a private conversation.

But he obviously loves yju fir who you are and that's all that matters.

But him blocking his parents is bloody juvenile. What happened to talking things through.

Yh you’re probably right! Why did I even bother to comment on this !

That's such a dick move.

I wouldn't want anything to do with you.

Oh my days!

From 0 to 100 in less than a second

I can completely understand you being upset but they weren't actually being bitchy, just expressing surprise based on your partner's previous taste in women. I think to block them and refuse to ever see them again is a total over reaction.

Surely you cannot be serious, this is such an overreaction I can’t believe there’s either much more to it or you’re very young and a bit silly.

I understand how hard it is when you feel so bad about an aspect of yourself-- I've been oversensitive about it and bullied for it too. Remember that, despite what others may think, being fat doesn't mean you aren't amazing, beautiful, sexy, interesting, kind, and just plain awesome.

I understand why you wanted to leave their house and never see them again as what they said about you was hurtful, but I think it's weird for your partner to block them without saying why and apparently never speak to them again. That's pathetic. He should have confronted them and told them they were very rude and maybe distanced himself for awhile, but to literally block them and never speak to them again? Unbelievable.

Yes. To each other, in a private conversation.

That’s not his parents fault though is it!

They absolutely shouldn’t have said that whilst you were nearby, but it sounds like your boyfriend has blocked them because he doesn’t want you to find out that he has actually said that in the past.

You’ve left your friends and family and now so has he? Sounds very unhealthy to me.

Dont let your insecurities ruin a relationship (between parents and him). They were wrong, but not cut your parents off wrong.

I also think you’re choosing to ignore the fact that they wouldn’t have said that if he didn’t say that.

Blocking them is not the answer and not realistic.

He can’t just go the rest of his life not speaking to his parents over a stupid comment.

Yes they shouldn’t have said it and yes it was uncalled for but be adults and communicate to them this instead of blocking them.

This is incredibly bizzare. That is so childish of your boyfriend to block his parents over that…is he 12?!
Also like…what does he think is going to happen? That they’re just going to accept being randomly blocked (as you say they have no idea why he’s done it) and they’re just going to leave it at that and never contact him again? Surely it won’t be long before they get increasingly worried and start contacting other family members/friends, or driving to your home, or even ringing the police? Like what do you and your boyfriend envision happening here!!!!?!

Don’t think it’s especially nasty comment. They were surprised as your appearance is physically different. They didn’t say this to your face. It’s not nice to hear that you’re seen as fat? Is that what you’re saying g. But they didn’t mean it necessarily as an insult and did t say it to you. Maybe you feel hurt but a childish response to block over something you weren’t supposed to hear that isn’t necessarily an insult just an observation really.

Sorry, meant to quote this post.

No one has blamed her for being overweight? It's her and his dis-proportionate reaction to it that's the problem.

You really don't think there's anything wrong with never seeing your child again for the rest of your life, because you commented in private about something your son had clearly said about fat women in the past?

I mean… you must know that he isn’t gonna keep his parents blocked forever. Nor should he.

You are both in shock right now and it must have been really hurtful and very rude and careless of them to have that conversation whilst you were in the same house (or at all).

Have a discussion with him about why they think he “hates fat women”. You obviously don’t want to be with someone who is known to be fat phobic.
It’s good that he had your back in this situation but don’t be naive in thinking he will cut off his parents for you. He won’t and shouldn’t.

"I just said I don’t need to know people like that."

People like what, though? They didn't say they hated you or mock you for your weight, did they? They just said you were outside of your partner's usual type. I suppose it depends on how it was said. As much as it hurts when someone points out you are fat (I am overweight also and have experienced this, even just this week!), if they are just saying it factually it isn't really malicious. I don't think they did anything wrong tbh.

This can’t be real!

You actually left while they were in the garden, without telling them???

So many red flags about this relationship and it’s not the parents

@thepariscrimefiles, they were commenting that he didn't usually date larger (fat) women. It's not bullying

Same here!

I would definitely share my thoughts to my partner in private if any of our kids brought home an overweight partner, absolutely! Why shouldn’t I be able to share my thoughts with my partner??

It’s very harsh to cut them off for a comment that you were not meant to hear. What does that say about your DP that he would do that to his parents without even a
conver?

I’m actually thinking this is a wind up thread.