why is called the SCs home when it isn't?

So what is your point Op?????
Are you having a slow Friday afternoon at work and so thought you’d have a bit of a laugh on Mumsnet? Trying to be as annoying as you possibly can?
You’re acting like my annoying little brother

You're confusing 'house' with 'home'. She owns the house but it's a home to everyone who lives there. ('Wherever I lay my hat, that's my home...') Or are you suggesting that the SC are homeless, even though they live there? That would be ridiculous.

You can call it what you like. It obviously suits you to pretend it’s a temporary home. But you’re wrong and it’s a definition you’ve completely made up. But you already know that

Op was being flippant.

op it’s his home whilst he is living there irrespective of contributing to the household budgets, by extension its also his children’s home.
he can be asked to leave at any point. As soon as he leaves he and his offspring no longer have a home at that particular address. If you ask him to leave you are not making him and his kids homeless, so you don’t need to feel guilty about .

Do you consider him as a guest rather than a partner, and therefore his kids are guests?

Maybe a real life example will help.

My parents divorced when we were young.

My mum found a new partner and moved into his house. She didn’t own it, it was his, but because she lived there it was her home and also ours. As well as home to his own kids.

My dad also found a new partner. She moved into his house. She didn’t own it, but because she lived there it was her home, and her kids home, and it was also our home because we stayed with our Dad at weekends.

My Dad and his partner eventually ended up separating, and she and her kids moved out. His home stopped being their home at that point. That didn’t mean it WASNT their home during the years that they lived there.

No it’s not. He’s not staying there temporarily until he finds somewhere new. He’s living there until something happens - like breaking up. So it’s his permanent home, not a temporary one. Nothing lasts for ever but unless you’ve not told us he’s agreed to move out in a few weeks, then it’s his permanent home - as permanent as is possible when you’re living with someone else who you may one day break up with. But there’s a chance he could be there for 2 years or 10 years or 40 years so it’s not temporary

Home is where you live. If the parents have agreed say 80/20, then the fact they are with the their father at his home (as in where he lives even if he doesn't pay to be there) even though it's for a smaller amount of time then that is their home too.

It doesn't concern anyone really except the person who's home it is. If they consented for their partner to move in and have the kid EOW at the house then presumably it is the kids home for the period they're sleeping there?

If the woman who owns the house doesn't want that then they should say so and not allow it.

But otherwise why shouldn't it be the kids home, people from divorced families often have two homes?

It's pretty clear he/she is on a wind up!

I don't really understand the purpose of your post op.
What is your point?
Do you have a personal dilemma?

Yes, the problem here would appear to be the lack of bill paying. Unless he's earning his keep in other ways such as covering the woman's caring responsibilities perhaps, but they're usually not.

Their home is with their Dad so if he’s asked to leave their home becomes wherever he goes. They only become homeless if Dad is also homeless.

OP are you in a scenario where someone ids accusing you of making their kids homeless?

Why aren’t you answering anyone’s questions? People are trying to help you but if you don’t actually explain what your situation is or the problem you’re having it’s very hard.

At the moment it’s all just coming across as bizarre.

It’s still their home for as long as their dad lives there. Same with any other set up

What has prompted this thread OP? Why are you so keen to define things in this way?

really? I have never had to do that.

I have two guesses on what OPs problem is

• the most obvious one - her bf has moved in, she doesn’t like how his kids behave and is outraged her bf has suggested it’s their home too.
• A mum who is livid that her children are referring to their dad’s new house as home because he’s moved in with another woman and she’s jealous

If two people mutually decide to live together then regardless whose name is on the deeds, it is home to both of them. Otherwise the power imbalance will break the relationship.

You can't feel indebted to someone for 'doing you a favour' when you both agreed to it.

And yes, if he has children, then it is their home too.

My partner moved into my home, he contributes. He has a son. I have 2 kids with me majority of the time and a 4-bed house, so we turned the spare room into his son's room. It absolutely is his son's home too. What's the issue?

If you want to get pedantic then any home is a temporary home, if you’re renting it’s only your home until your landlord ends the tenancy. If you have a mortgage it’s only your home until you sell it. If a couple own a home it might only be your home until you break up.

No one views it like that, they just view where they are living as home. So a man living with his gf is living in his own home. And if that’s his home, it’s his kids home. End of.

If you allow someone to move in with you, you’re agreeing for them to make that their home - and you shouldn’t agree to it if you are holding it over their head threatening that it’s temporary. And no one should be making kids feel like their dad’s home isn’t theirs. They should be made to feel welcome and at home when they are with their dad