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Do you leave things in hotel room after departure for the maids to take if they want them?

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helpmepleasewiththis · 04/07/2025 09:15

I am due to leave for home after a weeks holiday and remember that my DM always used to do this. Things like unused shampoo, sanitary products etc. is this still a thing or would they find it insulting?

OP posts:
MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/07/2025 12:12

This is such a weird thing to do.

If it's used, bin it. If it's not used, take it with you or assume it will end up in the bin.

BigBoysDontCry · 04/07/2025 12:12

It really depends on the country. I would leave a monetary tip when in europe (and also elsewhere) but in India for example they are particularly keen for you to leave anything you don't want to take home. The tour guides are usually very good at politely mentioning this and the types of things that are appreciated. Books, pens, toiletries, trainers/sandals you might be finished with etc. If you aren't sure then you can ask at reception if they have anywhere to leave any items that would appreciated and they will usually be happy to let you know.

Mammamia16373 · 04/07/2025 12:11

Zov · 04/07/2025 12:03

That's the thing - Those items were UNOPENED. Who on earth wants someone's skanky half used leftover sanitary products and toiletries?

Confused Grim. 💀

Shampoo in a half used bottle or half of packet of sanitary products hasn’t actually been used though. What are you afraid is going to happen if you use them?

Rispknee · 04/07/2025 12:11

I've never heard of this, but I can't see what's"skanky" about using sanpro from an opened pack or finishing up a bottle of shampoo.

Comedycook · 04/07/2025 12:09

That's the thing - Those items were UNOPENED. Who on earth wants someone's skanky half used leftover sanitary products and toiletries

Sanitary products are either used or not. If they're unused and in individual wrapping, why wouldn't you use it? As for half used toiletries, unless there's a hygiene issue like a roll on deodorant I don't get it. A relative of mine gave me a half used shampoo and conditioner she had....she didn't want it anymore. That's not skanky.

Mammamia16373 · 04/07/2025 12:07

And for those thinking no one wants a half open packet of sanpro, I use local hand me on sites and half open packets of post partum pads are regularly given away. What a waste otherwise to throw it away. It’s easy to say bin it if it’s cheap available to you, but it’s not the case for everyone.

onehorserace · 04/07/2025 12:07

Zov · 04/07/2025 12:03

That's the thing - Those items were UNOPENED. Who on earth wants someone's skanky half used leftover sanitary products and toiletries?

Confused Grim. 💀

Why are they skanky? What do you think they are leaving ?

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:07

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 04/07/2025 11:58

The attitude to resources is the driver, everything else stems from that.

"As you were" is a weak valedictory flourish at the best of times, but especially so when all you've done on this thread is prove my point.

If my point appears Made weakly, let me be clear. You’re patrionnising,preachy and ill informed
planet isn’t fucked because of some discarded shampoo, but you already know this and are making a chiding remark to demonstrate your self perceived moral superiority. So, we are both clear I’m challenging that premise

Marie Antoinette definitely didn’t say let em eat cake
You are conflating unrelated issues, hope that helps

Comedycook · 04/07/2025 12:04

Just remembered as well we went on a holiday once where in the reception there was a box where guests could leave things they didn't want to take home for others guests to take...things like mosquito spray, suncream, bottles of shampoo, inflatables for the pool. I thought it was a great idea and left some bits.

Zov · 04/07/2025 12:03

Snugs10 · 04/07/2025 11:58

We got friendly with receptionist in our hotel in Madeira and she was more than grateful for items both opened and unopened we also bought her some chocolates as a thank you for her help.

That's the thing - Those items were UNOPENED. Who on earth wants someone's skanky half used leftover sanitary products and toiletries?

Confused Grim. 💀

NoNameMum · 04/07/2025 12:03

I would imagine a lot of hotels have policies on this where they are not allowed to take things and could get accused of stealing…

IcedPurple · 04/07/2025 12:03

Reliablesource · 04/07/2025 09:34

I wouldn’t leave anything part-used. But I will always leave soft drinks, unopened chocolate/biscuits etc that I have brought but not used or opened. I also leave whatever change I have in local currency equivalent to a few £GBP if I’ve stayed 2 or 3 nights, and more if I’ve stayed for a week.

I also used to leave the equivalent of a few quid for the cleaners when leaving but in recent years when I rarely use cash I've not had the opportunity for this.

Regarding leaving 'stuff', are cleaners allowed just to take what's been left? Even if it's only a half used bottle of Pantene, isn't there a chance the guest might call the hotel and ask for it? I would think many hotels have a policy that cleaners have to give any left behind items to management?

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:01

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/07/2025 11:21

Exactly. A dd working in Ethiopia used regularly to take back a suitcase of still good but no longer wanted e.g. men’s shirts, and all sorts. They were all very happily received. Returning once for their orthodox Christmas (6th Jan) she took really nice soap for the women, since the only affordable stuff locally wasn’t at all nice, and not cheap either.

Returning once to Haiti she took a whole large suitcase full of 2nd hand children’s shoes, given by friends and family, for the many children who couldn’t go to school because they had no shoes. Might add that at check in she told BA staff what was in the case, and they waived the hefty excess baggage charge.

Some MNers evidently have absolutely no idea.

You’re describing specific targeted redistribution and travelling with items that are wanted and needed. It’s incomparable to discarded used beauty products

Zov · 04/07/2025 12:01

LOL no of course not!

Mammamia16373 · 04/07/2025 12:00

🙄 at the money-ed posters saying no one wants it and to bin them.

Some countries reliant on tourism have really suffered since Covid. We visited Cambodia two years ago and what I heard repeatedly was that everyone was still really struggling and desperate for money from the lack of tourists. (Hopefully improved now.)

LegoNinjago · 04/07/2025 11:59

InterestedBeing · 04/07/2025 09:25

It's so offensive to even think that cleaning staff would want your toiletries and sanitary products I don't even know where to start.

This

Snugs10 · 04/07/2025 11:58

Megifer · 04/07/2025 09:47

Don't know about nowadays op but last few times I went abroad I asked at reception if I had any stuff barely used like sun creams, shampoos, insect repellent etc could anyone make use of it and they said yes and to hand it in when we checked out.

Maybe ask if they seem friendly?

We got friendly with receptionist in our hotel in Madeira and she was more than grateful for items both opened and unopened we also bought her some chocolates as a thank you for her help.

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 04/07/2025 11:58

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 11:52

Fossil fuel,Over industrialisation,pollution,over use chemicals are significant environmental issues. Discarded shampoo isn’t really the driver.There isn’t a lake of shampoo threatening the environment located around resorts and hotels

ps Marie Antoinette let them eat cake isn’t appropriate comparison ,it is a misattributed misquote and she didn’t actually say it.

as you were

The attitude to resources is the driver, everything else stems from that.

"As you were" is a weak valedictory flourish at the best of times, but especially so when all you've done on this thread is prove my point.

Emmz1510 · 04/07/2025 11:55

My sister does this to save luggage space on the way home! I don’t, because I like to keep my toiletries!

Newbie8918 · 04/07/2025 11:53

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 11:35

You must book into some right dumps, leaving partially used products in the hall for other guests to snaffle.
I suppose in your scenario were guests book in that sort of hotel, and have inadequate product,some guests need someone else’s discarded product dregs

Fortunately I’ve ever been in such a position or such a place

I follow a Facebook page in an upmarket resort in Turkey. Someone has posted this very day, asking if anyone is going home and leaving aftersun as they’ve ran out and don’t want to buy a fresh one, with only a few days left.
I prefer to think this is resourceful and not wasteful, rather than disgusting!

Comedycook · 04/07/2025 11:52

Last holiday I had a small bit of perfume left in the bottle which wasn't worth taking home so left it on the hotel room table in case the maid wanted it.

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 11:52

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 04/07/2025 11:40

Who said anything about it being in lieu of tips?

What's amazing is the posters who have so little sense of their wealth that they would actually throw perfectly good products in the bin just because they've been opened. And the horror expressed that anyone would think of opened shampoo as anything but waste. Let them eat cake.

This is why the planet's fucked.

Fossil fuel,Over industrialisation,pollution,over use chemicals are significant environmental issues. Discarded shampoo isn’t really the driver.There isn’t a lake of shampoo threatening the environment located around resorts and hotels

ps Marie Antoinette let them eat cake isn’t appropriate comparison ,it is a misattributed misquote and she didn’t actually say it.

as you were

Newbie8918 · 04/07/2025 11:49

Honon · 04/07/2025 11:30

Would you be happy to be tipped a half empty bottle of shampoo then? The issue is not everyone is going to appreciate it and some will be insulted by it.

I don’t think anyone is suggesting that it’s in lieu of a tip! I’ve done this as well as, not instead of.

Cattery · 04/07/2025 11:49

We always leave our coins

PasDevantLes · 04/07/2025 11:48

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/07/2025 11:21

Exactly. A dd working in Ethiopia used regularly to take back a suitcase of still good but no longer wanted e.g. men’s shirts, and all sorts. They were all very happily received. Returning once for their orthodox Christmas (6th Jan) she took really nice soap for the women, since the only affordable stuff locally wasn’t at all nice, and not cheap either.

Returning once to Haiti she took a whole large suitcase full of 2nd hand children’s shoes, given by friends and family, for the many children who couldn’t go to school because they had no shoes. Might add that at check in she told BA staff what was in the case, and they waived the hefty excess baggage charge.

Some MNers evidently have absolutely no idea.

But both those are developing countries, with a clearly culturally-aware person working there, who knew what would be needed and welcome. Not someone in a Costa Brava resort under the impression that the 'maid' will be thrilled to be left a half-used moisturiser. Two completely different situations.