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Do you leave things in hotel room after departure for the maids to take if they want them?

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helpmepleasewiththis · 04/07/2025 09:15

I am due to leave for home after a weeks holiday and remember that my DM always used to do this. Things like unused shampoo, sanitary products etc. is this still a thing or would they find it insulting?

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Coffeeishot · 04/07/2025 12:52

I imagine a cleaner would just bin open shampoo and shower gel. Anytime I have seen hotel house keeping they have w bin bag with bottles and stuff in. Leave them some cash as a thank you.and take your stuff home.

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:52

EmeraldShamrock000 · 04/07/2025 12:43

As you've mentioned that you wouldn't stay in these types of places, how do you know what they appreciate and see as waste?.

planned redistribution of wanted items with identified recipients is incomparable to used product left in a resort with no intended identified recipient
Can you really not see the difference?

cupfinalchaos · 04/07/2025 12:49

I wouldn’t assume the maid would want them- I’d just chuck them in the bins.

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:48

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 04/07/2025 12:40

Who gives a fuck whether Marie Antoinette said it or not? It's the mythical Marie that makes the point. If it's patronising to remark upon the Antoinette-esque attitudes on this thread (as well as the terrible reading comprehension), well, I can't shrug lazily enough.

The planet is fucked because people imagine that resources are so plentiful that they don't need to use them carefully or sustainably. You're arguing for corralling one set of resources into a "fine to waste" category, on the grounds that any minimum wage worker who thinks an open bottle of soap might be useful must work in a dump anyway, so fuck them.

And "hope that helps" is as bad a rhetorical device as "as you were".

You missassigned a misquote to badly prove your point. Your lacking in comprehension and clarity to use the let em eat cake line Your hoped for tahdah misfired.Badly

if you’re going to get preachy and remonstrate with people, by using what you think is a searing pithy put down, try, get it right

as you were

Flamingoknees · 04/07/2025 12:44

JonSnowedUnder · 04/07/2025 09:48

Just money. Although this does remind me of when we stayed in a holiday house a few years ago. I spent the whole morning running round so it was left clean and tidy, I also left a box of chocolates on the kitchen table and the cleaners reported I'd left rubbish on the table!

"No good deed goes unpunished" 🤣

EmeraldShamrock000 · 04/07/2025 12:43

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:01

You’re describing specific targeted redistribution and travelling with items that are wanted and needed. It’s incomparable to discarded used beauty products

As you've mentioned that you wouldn't stay in these types of places, how do you know what they appreciate and see as waste?.

winnieanddaisy · 04/07/2025 12:43

We used to leave them in countries such as Dominican Republic and Cuba, where the cleaner was always happy to take them as well as a monetary tip .
When we had a September holiday with my 16 month old DGG , my DD gave all the babies clothes to one of the waitresses as baby wouldn’t get any use out of them once home as she would be needing winter clothes . The waitress was so happy as it was such a poor country and they were lovely clothes . DGD is now 20 but it wouldn’t surprise me if there was still little children in Cuba wearing them . 😂

DearDeadrie · 04/07/2025 12:42

I always leave toiletries and sometimes perfumes and I divide up the left over currency for the maids, taxi drivers etc and I always strip the beds and fold everything to make things easier for them and make sure the toilet is clean.
I have and always will do this as its just the way I am and my grown children so the same.

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:42

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/07/2025 12:36

You have missed the point. Which is, that people in real, dire poverty, will so often be only too grateful for our first-world ‘leftovers’.

absolutely didn’t miss the point. You described planned targeted redistribution not spontaneously leaving products. This wasn’t random leftovers. As you described it, it’s a case of wanted, useful items.

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 04/07/2025 12:40

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:07

If my point appears Made weakly, let me be clear. You’re patrionnising,preachy and ill informed
planet isn’t fucked because of some discarded shampoo, but you already know this and are making a chiding remark to demonstrate your self perceived moral superiority. So, we are both clear I’m challenging that premise

Marie Antoinette definitely didn’t say let em eat cake
You are conflating unrelated issues, hope that helps

Who gives a fuck whether Marie Antoinette said it or not? It's the mythical Marie that makes the point. If it's patronising to remark upon the Antoinette-esque attitudes on this thread (as well as the terrible reading comprehension), well, I can't shrug lazily enough.

The planet is fucked because people imagine that resources are so plentiful that they don't need to use them carefully or sustainably. You're arguing for corralling one set of resources into a "fine to waste" category, on the grounds that any minimum wage worker who thinks an open bottle of soap might be useful must work in a dump anyway, so fuck them.

And "hope that helps" is as bad a rhetorical device as "as you were".

indignantpigmy · 04/07/2025 12:37

Once in Mauritius in a 5 star hotel, only saying so no one can claim it was a skanky dive, I put a child's jumper in the bin as it had a hole in it. The room cleaner spotted it and asked if he could have it for his son, I explained there was a hole in it but he still wanted it. When we departed I left behind any clothes that my child was about to grow out of and wouldn't need again.

Now I don't think twice about leaving a partially used bottle of conditioner or clothing that won't be worn again, last time I left behind a pair of sandals that I had only worn once on holiday as I found them uncomfortable. The clothing/shoes are only things that I would bring home and take to the charity shop. The staff have the choice of binning, keeping, or passing on.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/07/2025 12:36

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:01

You’re describing specific targeted redistribution and travelling with items that are wanted and needed. It’s incomparable to discarded used beauty products

You have missed the point. Which is, that people in real, dire poverty, will so often be only too grateful for our first-world ‘leftovers’.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 04/07/2025 12:33

I would leave things such as toiletries, cleaning equipment or unopened long life foodstuffs in self catering accommodation unless instructions specifically said not to.

BadWoIf · 04/07/2025 12:32

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 11:35

You must book into some right dumps, leaving partially used products in the hall for other guests to snaffle.
I suppose in your scenario were guests book in that sort of hotel, and have inadequate product,some guests need someone else’s discarded product dregs

Fortunately I’ve ever been in such a position or such a place

Bit rude @Zone2NorthLondon ...

Snugs10 · 04/07/2025 12:31

Zov · 04/07/2025 12:03

That's the thing - Those items were UNOPENED. Who on earth wants someone's skanky half used leftover sanitary products and toiletries?

Confused Grim. 💀

Read my post I said both opened and unopened items.

Snugs10 · 04/07/2025 12:29

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 12:01

You’re describing specific targeted redistribution and travelling with items that are wanted and needed. It’s incomparable to discarded used beauty products

A lot of women are more than grateful in the North African countries we visit beauty products are coverted especially ones bought in from the UK

BadWoIf · 04/07/2025 12:28

Zov · 04/07/2025 12:03

That's the thing - Those items were UNOPENED. Who on earth wants someone's skanky half used leftover sanitary products and toiletries?

Confused Grim. 💀

I'm guessing you don't work in a secondary school! If you did, you'd find that the girls' toilets have boxes of sanitary towels and tampons for the girls to help themselves to. They aren't presented with an unopened pack each, but take a single sanitary towel and/or tampon as required, and so the contents of each box is used by multiple girls.

Do you think this is grim too? If so, how would you provide sanitary products to girls who are experiencing period poverty/get their period unexpectedly/have forgotten to bring in their own supplies?

Avidreader12 · 04/07/2025 12:27

Youth hostels, back pack places positively encouraged this everywhere I stayed had a shelf for left overs food, toiletries with signs saying help yourself. People get so hung up about this judging by this thread if it’s not your thing don’t reuse only buy new but by saying everyone would be offended is a pretty big assumption.

Snugs10 · 04/07/2025 12:26

honeylulu · 04/07/2025 11:36

You are clearly better informed than me. I was just sharing my own experience. I left stuff in response to being asked. I promise I wasn't just dumping my old crap where it wasn't wanted.

Just checked - Morocco trip was 2010 and Tunisia was 2013 so possibly my limited experience may be long out of date.

I can assure you people in Morocco are poor and especially if working in budget hotels or tours. They are more than grateful for items left used and unused especially since the pandemic. We are in touch with several people who we know are often in dire need. Maybe those that work in top hotels are OK as they often get generous tips but budget hotels we stay in items donated are more than welcome.

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 04/07/2025 12:21

It depends on where you are. For example in Cambodia, Laos, Myanmar etc then they would be really grateful.

Whereas in Thailand and places in Europe it could be seen as insulting.

It depends on the culture.

Manxexile · 04/07/2025 12:20

helpmepleasewiththis · 04/07/2025 09:15

I am due to leave for home after a weeks holiday and remember that my DM always used to do this. Things like unused shampoo, sanitary products etc. is this still a thing or would they find it insulting?

Yes - they'll find it insulting.

MissiliaAmori · 04/07/2025 12:20

When I worked as a housekeeper in a UK hotel I was always chuffed when stuff was left for us. Didn't find it insulting at all. Tips were unexpected but appreciated. The best thing was to find that the guests had stripped the bed!

It's hard, poorly paid and often revolting work, so anything that acknowledges the housekeeping staff is appreciated.

Snugs10 · 04/07/2025 12:20

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 04/07/2025 11:21

Exactly. A dd working in Ethiopia used regularly to take back a suitcase of still good but no longer wanted e.g. men’s shirts, and all sorts. They were all very happily received. Returning once for their orthodox Christmas (6th Jan) she took really nice soap for the women, since the only affordable stuff locally wasn’t at all nice, and not cheap either.

Returning once to Haiti she took a whole large suitcase full of 2nd hand children’s shoes, given by friends and family, for the many children who couldn’t go to school because they had no shoes. Might add that at check in she told BA staff what was in the case, and they waived the hefty excess baggage charge.

Some MNers evidently have absolutely no idea.

We go to Egypt often and we normally take an extra suitcase each of items for the locals we are friendly with. Also leave toiletries etc when we leave. Also as we have been going since 2014 to same area friends store items for us. Often when arrive we sort through them and give them a selection.

Fatiguedwithlife · 04/07/2025 12:17

InterestedBeing · 04/07/2025 09:25

It's so offensive to even think that cleaning staff would want your toiletries and sanitary products I don't even know where to start.

I’d have them. No need to be insulted on someone else’s behalf.

GreenFields07 · 04/07/2025 12:14

Zone2NorthLondon · 04/07/2025 11:35

You must book into some right dumps, leaving partially used products in the hall for other guests to snaffle.
I suppose in your scenario were guests book in that sort of hotel, and have inadequate product,some guests need someone else’s discarded product dregs

Fortunately I’ve ever been in such a position or such a place

Yes fortunately for you, you've never been in that position.
Cant broaden your mind to actually understand that not everyone has that luxury? Plenty of PPs sharing their experience of being maids in foreign countries who say these products are gratefully received.
It might be the only chance they have to get a decent shampoo to wash their hair with, or sanitary products that they wouldnt normally be able to buy.
You should be grateful not to be in that position, but im guessing you have no experience of being a maid in a foreign country.