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I hate anti-vaxxers

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An89 · 04/07/2025 02:33

How can anyone in this day and age be an anti-vaxxer? London and West mids currently suffering from a meassls outbreak. DS is under 1 so cannot yet have vaccine, I know of someone whose 10momth old contracted measels as they were too young for vaccine.
Ridiculous that reckless and tardy parents are putting all our children at risk. Actually terrible.

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GAJLY · 04/07/2025 08:29

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 04/07/2025 07:57

What about people like me who have suffered an adverse reaction to a previous (psychotropic) medication, and are now injured permanently with a movement disorder .. so I am now sensitive to medication side effects more?

Would that be deemed to be an anti vaxxer? I'm not anti medication per se, just as a result of what happened to me previously. I actually get very anxious at taking any new drugs 😞

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I agree everything has a possible side effect. I worked an event for thymidimide victims. My heart broke for them all, all because it was too new. My children are all vaccinated but we didn't take the covid ones because it was too new. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Noseyoldcow · 04/07/2025 08:29

GarlicMetre · 04/07/2025 03:33

Absolutely this. Some countries don't allow unvaccinated children to attend school & nursery, unless they've got an exemption certificate. I think they're sensible.

Also, I keep hearing the Covid Cough out and about. I've managed to put a rapid distance between myself and the coughers so far, but am really fucked off that everyone's merrily going around 'living with it', spreading their spiky germs. I had my jab last winter, but it will have worn off by now and catching Covid's quite likely to kill me.

Off subject slightly, but if you are concerned about catching covid, you can get a booster jab from some chemists. Costs vary, but I paid around £100. As a vulnerable person (though not, in my eyes any more vulnerable than me!) my husband was invited to have a spring booster vaccine on the nhs. But as I wasn’t, I paid to have it privately.

Holluschickie · 04/07/2025 08:28

Totally agree with you, OP.
And schools should only allow vaccinated children.
I say this as an Asian. Everyone in my family is vaccinated though.

ParmaVioletTea · 04/07/2025 08:27

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

Not at all. There is a communal responsibility to do what we can to keep others safe.

Your attitude is ignorant & selfish.

Kaybee50 · 04/07/2025 08:25

Many years ago I worked on a Meningitis helpline. Sadly I spoke to many parents who had children that were unvaccinated and went on to contract meningococcal meningitis / septicaemia - some of these children died (a few were found dead in their beds) or were left with devastating after effects including amputations. Many of these conversations were harrowing. Consequently my children were vaccinated.

GAJLY · 04/07/2025 08:25

DreamingofTimbuktuagain · 04/07/2025 07:35

Even if they are correct ( unlikely) surely they’d prefer an autistic child than a dead one?

You would think that, but some people don't think that way.

RampantIvy · 04/07/2025 08:25

When DD started university 6 years ago there was an outbreak of mumps among many university students because these young people were due to be vaccinated at the height of the Andrew Wakefield scandal.

Purplebunnie · 04/07/2025 08:23

GentleSheep · 04/07/2025 06:21

I'm from the generation when people actually had these nasty diseases because there was no vaccine. Everyone should be getting their child vaccinated as soon as possible, after all they are the ones who will suffer the effects and won't thank their parents later on for not doing so! Measles is exceptionally contagious and is very unpleasant to have, it can cause deafness and in some cases kill. So unnecessary to put a child through that.

My godmother was deaf because she contracted measles and came from the generation where there wasn't so much provision for deaf people as there is now. Also polio, do we want that out there again?

ParmaVioletTea · 04/07/2025 08:23

Totally agree @An89

I had to deal with a student who had measles (at 21) because their parents hadn't had them vaccinated. The student was undiagnosed for about a week as the measles presented as flu. The student was in a large class of largely young women, with a lot of female staff. If any of then had been pregnant and caught measles, it could have been quite tragic.

And we had to rearrange assessments etc so this student's illness had an impact on another 4 or 5 students' workload & schedules.

PParents who don't vaccinate their children are deeply deeply selfish.

And it just goes to show that having children does not make anyone a better person - sometimes, it makes people far more selfish.

beezlebubnicky · 04/07/2025 08:21

The person who mentioned about getting cancer young and the covid vaccine, it's much more likely it's either bad luck or possibly to do with covid itself. There is a massive body of research showing how covid messes with the immune system and that it's potentially oncogenic, and most of us have had it multiple times by now. Who knows how cancer rates will be affected in future and the long term impacts of so many infections. But the covid vaccine does a great job usually of preventing serious illness and keeping you out of hospital.

Also, measles is so scary. Aside from causing death or disability, it can give you immune amnesia, which wipes the body's ability to recognise illnesses it has previously been exposed to, including ones you've been vaccinated for. Anti-vaxers disgust me.

Fundayout2025 · 04/07/2025 08:20

RampantIvy · 04/07/2025 08:11

Yes. Unfortunately there is a minority of people who just cannot build up or gain immunity from certain diseases. Again, it is up to responsible parents to vaccinate their children to create the herd immunity to protect the more vulnerable members of society like yourself.

Well I'm hardly vulnerable now am I. Having actually had measleles I'm sure I have immunity from that infection

user2848502016 · 04/07/2025 08:20

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

Yes they are though when you have children under 1 who cannot be vaccinated and are at risk of catching measles.

I got measles at 11 months caught from an unvaccinated older child, I was really sick.
This was back in the 80s, measles could have been eradicated by now if people just vaccinated their kids.

For the OP - it could be worth calling your HV/GP because sometimes they will give the MMR early if you’re in an area with a measles outbreak.

RampantIvy · 04/07/2025 08:18

ThejoyofNC · 04/07/2025 07:01

I would never vaccinate any child of mine. Hate all you want.

Did you fail GCSE biology as well?

Do you never, ever use the NHS because you know better?

Genevieva · 04/07/2025 08:18

PhilippaGeorgiou · 04/07/2025 07:53

Lets not get into blaming immigrants for yet another thing - our vaccine take up for both MMR1 and MMR2 coverage rates are below the 95% target recommended by the World Health Organization.

But I do kind of agree with you - though if we are requiring vaccination of immigrants we should also require it of our own people, unless there are clear medical reasons for not doing it. There is an alternative to forcing people to do so. Make vaccination contingent on access to things. Your free chilcare is only available if your child is vaccinated. Allow venues and services to say that they require evidence of vaccination before children can attend. Then people are free to make their own choices, but at the same time they cannot complain if others choices to protect the group mean that they are denied things.

It’s certainly not a blame thing. It’s a natural consequence of globalisation. We have to get yellow fever vaccines before visiting certain countries, so it’s not unreasonable to require MMR to come here.

sashh · 04/07/2025 08:18

eacapade1982 · 04/07/2025 07:29

My kids have had all their vaccines other than covid. I didn't see the point of it ax they had already had covid 3 times by the time they were offered it and probably had equivalent immunity from infection. Anyone think I'm selfish for this?

Er how did they get Covid three times if they had immunity?

Genevieva · 04/07/2025 08:17

NotSmallButFunSize · 04/07/2025 07:29

It's given to anyone who is in an at risk group - family in countries where it is endemic, frequent travel there or contacts who travel.

It's not just a London thing - diversity exists outside of the M25

The difference is that in London it is on the automatic childhood vaccine register. There may be other cities that also do this. In the rest of the U.K. you have to request it and prove your child’s eligibility (parent born in a country on the high prevalence list for example). If not you have to pay for it. I know because when my eldest child reached 14 and still hadn’t received it I enquired and was told it wasn’t offered to everyone anymore. I wanted my child to have it so was willing to pay, then I was told that we were eligible for it free of charge based on where my husband was born.

Scottyme · 04/07/2025 08:16

Many doctors and nurses I know, refuse to get vaccinated or choose only have some vaccinations, for one reason or another. If you go to your GP surgery or Hospital, do you actively ask their vaccination status before they treat you?

You cannot say a medical consultant is ignorant or uneducated in this field. Quite the contrary.

btw I and my children have had all our vaccinations

ghjglhkl · 04/07/2025 08:15

Herd immunity is so important.

DC have had all their major childhood vaccinations.

I was always very pro-vax, then got myocarditis (it did happen to a lot of women) and a clotting disorder from a Covid Vaccine. Not an anti-vaxxer, I got it willingly. Devastating at a personal level (heart failure, massive amounts of treatment and it doesn't get better). Also very sad that Covid vaccines and the suppression of side effects gave anti-vaxxers ammo to use against vaccinations for severe childhood disease.

BeachPossum · 04/07/2025 08:14

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

Until your baby catches measles and dies because someone else's decision to risk their own kids' lives has real world consequences for other children too.

cakeorwine · 04/07/2025 08:11

ThejoyofNC · 04/07/2025 07:01

I would never vaccinate any child of mine. Hate all you want.

Is that "never" - say on a scale of 1 - 10, where 10 is never under any circumstances would you vaccinate and 1 is absolutely, I would always vaccinate no matter what - what number would you give yourself on that scale?

bluecurtains14 · 04/07/2025 08:11

Katrinawaves · 04/07/2025 07:40

I know a surprising number of people who haven’t vaccinated their children. None are immigrants or poorly educated. Off the top of my head:

  • a lawyer who thought her kids immune system wasn’t developed enough at 8 weeks for vaccinations so the child at 5 hadn’t had any
  • another lawyer whose wife was vehemently anti vax whose kid nearly died of measles
  • a very prosperous celeb couple who hadn’t vaccinated any of their 3 children all of primary school age because they also thought 8 weeks was too young and then never got round to it
  • a new age person who also would bath her children in tap water (really!) and used only bottled water. Her child was about 7
it is appalling irresponsible IMHO

They might not be poorly educated, but they are dim.

RampantIvy · 04/07/2025 08:11

Fundayout2025 · 04/07/2025 08:07

I also caught measles badly as a kid which left me partially deaf. But I WAS VACCINATED. People seem to forget it doesn't work on everyone. So by that theory if Id have passed on measles to someone else as a kid half the people on here would be baying for my parents blood and calling them all-sorts of names

My DD has had 4 doses of MMR now as each time she's been pregnant she shows no immunity to rubella in the blood tests so they jab her again after the birth.

Yes. Unfortunately there is a minority of people who just cannot build up or gain immunity from certain diseases. Again, it is up to responsible parents to vaccinate their children to create the herd immunity to protect the more vulnerable members of society like yourself.

Lonxy · 04/07/2025 08:11

I imagine that many of the people who claim to be anti vaccinations have benefited from being vaccinated as a child. They are now choosing to not pass on disease-preventing, potentially lifesaving, free privilege to their own children.
They also do not seem to be able to understand/cognitively process that through not vaccinating, they are sabotaging the very system (herd immunity) that has given them the sense that it is safe to leave their children unvaccinated. In the risk/benefit evaluation they are not confronted with the raw, stark reality and consequences of outbreaks of disease as parents were prior to the development of preventative measures.

overwork · 04/07/2025 08:10

I know a man who doesn’t speak to his parents. They believed the autism-MMR ‘link’. He caught mumps, which caused orchitis, and now he and his partner are having to go through fertility treatment as it effected his fertility. He blames them entirely, says their stupid decisions have ruined his whole future.

Oneearringlost · 04/07/2025 08:09

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:21

My only concern is me and my family honestly
I wont do stuff to my body or my kids body for anyone elses feelies

See my post 7.54