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I hate anti-vaxxers

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An89 · 04/07/2025 02:33

How can anyone in this day and age be an anti-vaxxer? London and West mids currently suffering from a meassls outbreak. DS is under 1 so cannot yet have vaccine, I know of someone whose 10momth old contracted measels as they were too young for vaccine.
Ridiculous that reckless and tardy parents are putting all our children at risk. Actually terrible.

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AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 11:45

Tryonemoretime · 04/07/2025 11:23

I obviously didn't word my pp very well. I'll try again.
Bearing in mind the millions of Covid vaccinations given out world wide, few people have had a bad reaction to the Covid vaccination. Unfortunately, I'm one of them. For the vast majority of people, the vaccination safely prevents them having Covid or mitigates it and it also helps with herd immunity.
If I hadn't had a bad reaction to the last 2 Covid vaccinations, I'd have happily had further vaccinations - partly to help protect me from having Covid badly, and partly to aid herd immunity. (I had Covid before my vaccination and have been left with Long Covid. If I could safely have the vaccination, I'd certainly want to help others avoid Long Covid. It's affected my life and the lives of my family, too.)

Thank you for explaining. My point still is, that there is no way of determining whether you can safely have the vaccine or not. There have been many reports of adverse affects, some leading to death. It’s entirely reasonable for someone to not want to take that risk.

TheNoonBell · 04/07/2025 11:45

Slightyamusedandsilly · 04/07/2025 10:16

I do not think the unvaxxed make up 1 in 4. There honestly aren't that many idiots around.

I don't have anyone in my social circle that is anti vaxx. I only met ONE fool (at work) who was anti vaxx and he also believed in the 5G idiocy.

You want to opt out of society. Opt out.

You'd be surprised, COVID vaccination is 75% of UK adults, there are many silently unjabbed as well a small vocal minority which is what you term antivaxers.

You do not propose opting out, you propose locking out which is an entirely different thing.

Bettycrocker7 · 04/07/2025 11:44

I am deaf because I caught measles at 6 months old. Obviously, from an unvaccinated person. It's completely impacted my life from education, career, relationships. People are selfish twats.

Samiloff · 04/07/2025 11:39

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

That’s not true. Infectious diseases are only kept under control and epidemics prevented if the take-up of vaccines is at a certain level.
From the World Health Organisation:
"The percentage of people who need to be immune in order to achieve herd immunity varies with each disease. For example, herd immunity against measles requires about 95% of a population to be vaccinated. The remaining 5% will be protected by the fact that measles will not spread among those who are vaccinated. For polio, the threshold is about 80%."

5128gap · 04/07/2025 11:34

No, I don't hate anti vaxxers. I hate the aggressive, belligerent and small minded attitudes of some on here, but I don't think these individuals tell the whole story. Many anti vaxxers are refusing due to fear and suspicion. Sometimes based in a historical context where their demographic was experimented on, or where they believe research has not taken account of health issues effecting people from their group. This is understandable and isn't addressed by scolding, shaming and hating, but by reassurance from trusted sources.

ukathleticscoach · 04/07/2025 11:29

Flu or covid vaccinations could be seen as a matter of choice for your children.

Anyone not giving their child the standard childhood vaccinations is a different matter.

Its ok to practice your uneducated google conspiracy theories on yourself but to impose them on your children is abuse in my opinion and putting the general population at risk.

Dancinghedgehog23 · 04/07/2025 11:28

My mother was left deaf and partially sighted due to contracting measles as a child. This impacted her entire life and she felt passionately about vaccinations.
I also have a friend who for medical reasons hasn’t been vaccinated, she benefits from societies herd immunity. To be honest if I knew any of my friends were anti-vax I wouldn’t be able to continue that friendship. Purely because after watching my mums struggles I wouldn’t be able to understand them putting their own children at risk.

user1473878824 · 04/07/2025 11:25

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

When it comes to infectious diseases and the loss of herd immunity, yes they fucking are.

Epli · 04/07/2025 11:24

Stressedoutmama123 · 04/07/2025 11:14

I once heard that if you choose to not vaccinate that if you get ill from that disease that you should then foot the bill rather than the nhs.

While half of me agrees, the other half says where does it stop, not eating enough veg / smoking / drinking all these things affect health and could be payable too.

The issue is that usually adults (who ironically come from generations with high vaccination rates) make those decisions for their children. If it was about vaccines that are given in adult age I would agree.

Tryonemoretime · 04/07/2025 11:23

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 10:18

Sorry what? You wish you could have another Covid vaccine despite the fact that it affected your heart and you’ve been medically advised to not have it, but you would like others to take it for you despite them having the same risk? How does that make you any less selfish than an anti vaxxer?

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I obviously didn't word my pp very well. I'll try again.
Bearing in mind the millions of Covid vaccinations given out world wide, few people have had a bad reaction to the Covid vaccination. Unfortunately, I'm one of them. For the vast majority of people, the vaccination safely prevents them having Covid or mitigates it and it also helps with herd immunity.
If I hadn't had a bad reaction to the last 2 Covid vaccinations, I'd have happily had further vaccinations - partly to help protect me from having Covid badly, and partly to aid herd immunity. (I had Covid before my vaccination and have been left with Long Covid. If I could safely have the vaccination, I'd certainly want to help others avoid Long Covid. It's affected my life and the lives of my family, too.)

Stressedoutmama123 · 04/07/2025 11:14

I once heard that if you choose to not vaccinate that if you get ill from that disease that you should then foot the bill rather than the nhs.

While half of me agrees, the other half says where does it stop, not eating enough veg / smoking / drinking all these things affect health and could be payable too.

VintageKefir · 04/07/2025 11:13

The only reason people can say "I care only about my family and that's why I won't vaccinate" is because most people don't and herd immunity is still working. If everyone decided the same... We would be back to hundreds of thousands of cases and hundreds of deaths a year (+ thousands of lifetime effects of he illness). And that's just measels.

Having a choice to not vaccinate (without need to have x kids so at least few survive to adulthood) is one of the biggest misguided privileges there is imho.

BigDahliaFan · 04/07/2025 11:12

sleepwouldbenice · 04/07/2025 03:09

Nope
The idiocy impacts us all

This nails it.

Surroundedbyfools · 04/07/2025 11:11

I know it’s ridiculous, my absolute hate is when ppl say my kids haven’t had any vaccines and they r fine. Yes. They’ve luckily not caught anything coz the rest of us have vaccinated our kids ! Stupidity at its best

Candlemidnight · 04/07/2025 11:05

Slightyamusedandsilly · 04/07/2025 10:17

No, they're not.

no no no..... they study at Google University, and thats where they get their PhD from!

I mean, a few days in front of the internet and we are all experts

G5000 · 04/07/2025 11:04

If DD got it she wouldnt be going out

And how would you organise that, considering that measles is contagious 4 days before the rash appears?

Livpool · 04/07/2025 11:04

Tiredofwhataboutery · 04/07/2025 04:51

Personally I’d do what other countries do and say no funded childcare until dc are vaccinated.

Agree with this.

in Liverpool there is a measles outbreak- my DS has been vaccinated but hearing people who are anti-vaxxers is enlightening and depressing at the same time.

My Nan nearing died from diphtheria and my dad’s cousin caught whooping cough as a baby from her older brother (before it was vaccinated against) and became disabled due to lack of oxygen. It’s horrible that anti-vaxxers want us back in that place. Maybe they don’t understand how debilitating and deadly these formerly eradicated diseases were.

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 11:04

LakieLady · 04/07/2025 10:33

I got chicken pox when I was 36, and suffered repeated attacks of shingles and post-herpetic neuralgia for around 10 years afterwards. I don't know if that will have given me immunity, but I'll look into it and if it doesn't, I'll be having the vaccine when I'm eligible in a few weeks time.

Shingles is really fucking painful, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

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You can still get shingles even if you’ve had the vaccine. Given you have had shingles so many times already, you are likely immuno compromised in some way so I would be very careful

housesellin · 04/07/2025 11:03

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:21

My only concern is me and my family honestly
I wont do stuff to my body or my kids body for anyone elses feelies

You’re a bad mum, just as long as you’re ok with the fact you have truly let your children down. I’d be horrified to know someone like you. Your poor circle.

bigvig · 04/07/2025 11:00

shash1982 · 04/07/2025 10:33

Some people can be so ignorant it's actually scary.

Anti vaxxers benefit from the rest of us in society who get vaccinated against serious diseases but they'd be the first to seek nhs treatment if they or their children came down with polio, mumps etc.
It's this 'I'm alright Jack' selfish attitude that gets me, to keep the members of society who are unable to get vaccinated safe via herd immunity everyone needs to do their bit to contribute.

If I found out another kid was not vaccinated due to the parents choice to believe conspiracy theories and not due to medical reasons then they can stay the hell away from me and mine.

I think the UK should follow other countries examples and not allow unvaccinated children to attend school, nursery etc unless they had an exemption certificate.
You make your choice but it shouldn't impact on the rest of society negatively.

Sorry but this is bollocks. I won't have the flu etc jab because it makes no sense - other than financially for drug companies. How can you protect against a mutating virus. For that same reason I never had the covid jab. I haven't had a day off sick for over 15 years. Never go to the doctors. Everyone I know who has the flu jab gets flu every year (and talks about how much worst it would be if they hadn't had the jab). Everyone I know who got the covid jab got covid really badly and two have had heart problems.

When the Polio vaccine etc came in people who took it took it hoping they would be protected - not that the whole society would somehow be protected. Dead virus vaccines I'm ok with - and all my children have had these. Gene therapy vaccines (MRNA) not in a million years. Plus you do know most cases of measles etc in the UK are brought in from outside or are vaccine related strains.

Plus why are vaccines the only drugs we cannot sue manufacturers for if they go wrong or if there is negligence?

Notreallyme27 · 04/07/2025 11:00

Mustardmummy23 · 04/07/2025 04:01

@Ineedcoffee2021 what if your child got measles, gave it to a newborn baby and that baby died?

She probably won’t care, and just sit happily with the knowledge that her own child is less likely to be infected with a fatal disease precisely because other parents did bother vaccinating their children. It’s an unspeakably selfish, entitled attitude to have.

SarfLondonLad · 04/07/2025 10:59

You can't fight stupidity. Why even bother to try.
If they want to inflict suffering on their children (& themselves) by ignoring modern medical advances, fine. More for the rest of us who can use our intelligence.

Holluschickie · 04/07/2025 10:58

Davethebroom · 04/07/2025 10:56

Do you see how us both using silly examples and false equivalence is pointless?

Am I supposed to say yes I think drink driving is a good idea otherwise my point about state overreach in reation to health policy is inconsistent?

You believe in state overreach in some areas- drunk driving- and not others, despite the fact that communicable diseases kill far more children worldwide? Yes, that's inconsistent.

Gobbychops · 04/07/2025 10:58

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:21

My only concern is me and my family honestly
I wont do stuff to my body or my kids body for anyone elses feelies

Surely if you have any concern for your own family you’d vaccinate them against a disease that is known to cause disability and even death.

Iheartmysmart · 04/07/2025 10:58

DS is fully vaccinated but I’m not. My parents were far from anti vax but one of my childhood vaccines put me in intensive care on a ventilator and they honestly thought I’d die. After that I didn’t have any childhood vaccines. Both my siblings are fully vaccinated.