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I hate anti-vaxxers

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An89 · 04/07/2025 02:33

How can anyone in this day and age be an anti-vaxxer? London and West mids currently suffering from a meassls outbreak. DS is under 1 so cannot yet have vaccine, I know of someone whose 10momth old contracted measels as they were too young for vaccine.
Ridiculous that reckless and tardy parents are putting all our children at risk. Actually terrible.

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cakeorwine · 04/07/2025 13:25

DS has just gone travelling and he's had the recommended vaccines for the area he's going.

I wonder if people who are opposed to vaccines are prepared to take the risks when travelling to foreign countries with different public health systems and that are potentially less sanitary than the UK?

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 04/07/2025 13:10

mellymoop · 04/07/2025 03:11

I think the public health response to Covid has created a lot more vaccine sceptics.

I think this is probably true. I was grateful for the vaccine and last year also paid for a booster jab, but I’m aware that many people did have reactions and there was quite a lot of hysteria around it at the time where people felt forced to take a booster when their body hadn’t reacted well to the first one.

I also think that the circumstances of lockdown with people being isolated from society and more attached to the internet meant that a lot more people got caught up in conspiracy theories.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 04/07/2025 12:56

JorgyPorgy · 04/07/2025 10:36

No one likes needles but it’s part of modern medicine, so that can’t be an excuse. If you became diabetic you’d be grateful for needles

Oh here we go, someone who doesn’t understand the difference between not liking something and a genuine phobia. They were out in force in 2021.

As the Covid jab won’t prevent me getting it or spreading it and there’s no herd immunity then the only person I’m possibly affecting is myself.

I am absolutely not anti vax but choose not to put myself through unnecessary vaccinations when they won’t affect other people. There’s a huge difference between measles, polio etc. and the Covid vaccine

GAJLY · 04/07/2025 12:55

I know that there's currently a big drive trying to get the Muslim community vaccinated here. Because they think they all have pork gelatin in, they have never been vaccinated. They used to, but most newer vaccinations don't have pork in them now.

Strongcuppaplease · 04/07/2025 12:39

DogCrew · 04/07/2025 03:23

What’s the alternative though, forcing people to have vaccinations? I don’t think that’s a road we want to go down.

We just need to keep educating people about the consequences of not having them and being honest about the risks so that conspiracy theories have less chance of spreading. I think we need to have the ‘frightening’ adverts on tv and social media showing what not vaccinating can do but I also believe people should be able to choose.

Our kids are vaccinated for everything except for flu or Covid and I want to keep that right to choose.

I know some people who don’t vaccinate with right wing and left wing views so it’s not just a political thing.

Education and transparency are key.

I agree with this. Education is key about what these diseases can do as is honesty about limitations of vaccines, inc. how long they last. E.g. some countries provide a booster to older children for whooping cough as that wanes over time. A number vaccinate against chickenpox. I guess it’s a balancing act on cost etc, but there’s a tendency to look at hospitalisations and deaths only, or let kids get more ill than they need to as a weird rite of passage here. We let a novel virus rip through kids here before many of them were even eligible for vaccination and hugely reduced our vaccine offer and eligibility quickly in relation to other countries.

The last ONS survey (2024) on long covid in kids showed that an average of 1,000 children per week got long covid in England, yet they’re told to attend when contagious. As well as the impacts on kids, they also don’t live in a bubble and literally hundreds of thousands of people have lost their health and had to stop working due to long covid.

My kids are vaccinated. However, I don’t believe in forced vaccination or forced infection.

Promo981 · 04/07/2025 12:38

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:15

You know you would interact daily with unvaxxed people

Literally the only place i see this hate for the unvaxxed is online, IRL, people dont give a shit

Im glad we all have a choice as to what we put in our bodies

Do you not understand how vaccines work for contagious diseases. Herd immunity is our friend.

nixon1976 · 04/07/2025 12:34

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/07/2025 06:53

Same. I have to provide copies of my kids' vaccination records before I can access anything for them that I have paid for through my taxes.

My only complaint is that chicken pox isn't one of the standard ones. My poor DS really suffered.

Same for me, but where I am chickenpox is covered. We weren't here when my kids were little so when we moved they had to have all vaccines 100% up to date before they could step foot in school, nursery, holiday camp and even university. Mine had had chickenpox but we either had to prove this through doctors' notes or get the vaccine

lifeonmars100 · 04/07/2025 12:24

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 12:12

Recent detection: In 2022 and 2023, vaccine-derived poliovirus type 2 (VDPV2) was detected in sewage samples from London and other areas, leading to a vaccine-catch-up campaign for children in London.

^ the risk at the moment comes from the vaccine.

The following is from www.gov.k and I hope you find it reasurring re the possiblity of polio infection from water sources in the UK.

The detection of a VDPV2 suggests it is likely there has been some spread between closely-linked individuals in North and East London and that they are now shedding the type 2 poliovirus strain in their faeces. The virus has only been detected in sewage samples and no associated cases of paralysis have been reported – but investigations will aim to establish if any community transmission is occurring.
The last case of wild polio contracted in the UK was confirmed in 1984. The UK was declared polio-free in 2003.
Dr Vanessa Saliba, Consultant Epidemiologist at UKHSA said:
"Vaccine-derived poliovirus is rare and the risk to the public overall is extremely low"

SuburbanSprawl · 04/07/2025 12:24

others medical choices are none of your concern

I think of it like seatbelts. It may be that you don't think your kids should wear seatbelts. But as a society, we don't feel you have the right to be that lacklustre about caring for your kids, so we insist on seatbelts for all kids, whether you like it or not. The idea is that no kids should be put at risk by their parents.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 04/07/2025 12:21

GAJLY · 04/07/2025 08:29

I agree everything has a possible side effect. I worked an event for thymidimide victims. My heart broke for them all, all because it was too new. My children are all vaccinated but we didn't take the covid ones because it was too new. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Thank you. I was injured by just a week on a first generation typical antipsychotic called Pericyazine that was prescribed off label for severe anxiety and insomnia after a head injury.

My movement disorder called tardive dyskinesia is a bit like Tourette's and Parkinson's disease combined, and is horrible. The impact on my life can't be understated, and I rue the day I took thd drugs a decade ago.

If I'd known how I was able to metabolise the stuff, I'd have never taken the drug. A pharmacogenetics test that I paid for subsequently showed I can't safely take anything like antipsychotics.

If vaccines save lives, that is marvellous. I'm not against any of this at all. I'm just sad for those who are harmed by the drugs meant to help. Until you have lived with this type of medication induced injury, you don't understand how awful it is 😭💔

VintageKefir · 04/07/2025 12:18

I remember when I came to UK not long after there was measles outbreak in my area. I had to check 3x if it really talked about UK. Couldn't comprehend developed country having these issues having grown up in post com country with no vaccine - no state school unless medical exempt...

LarkspurLane · 04/07/2025 12:12

ThejoyofNC · 04/07/2025 07:01

I would never vaccinate any child of mine. Hate all you want.

Your own children are at so much more risk from this than strangers on the internet.

At least think of them when you are making medical choices.

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 12:12

lifeonmars100 · 04/07/2025 11:50

unvaccinated individuals put others at risk, end of. Maybe look at how smallpox was erradicated to help you understand what a boon vaccinations are. Smallpox was eradicated through a global, decades-long effort focused on vaccination and surveillance-containment strategies, culminating in the disease's official declaration as eradicated in 1980. The success of the eradication campaign was largely due to the discovery of the smallpox vaccine by Edward Jenner in 1796 and the subsequent implementation of widespread vaccination programs and targeted containment strategies. Now have a think about polio, Cases of polio in the UK fell dramatically when routine vaccination was introduced in the mid-1950s. There hasn't been a case of polio caught in the UK since the mid-90s. But the infection is still found in some parts of the world, and there remains a very small risk it could be brought back to the UK. I had the polio vaccine when I was very small and I can remember seeing children older than me who had contracted polio and who had damaged limbs. Parents were beyond grateful when the vaccine was developed.

Recent detection: In 2022 and 2023, vaccine-derived poliovirus type 2 (VDPV2) was detected in sewage samples from London and other areas, leading to a vaccine-catch-up campaign for children in London.

^ the risk at the moment comes from the vaccine.

BigDahliaFan · 04/07/2025 12:10

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Cakeandusername · 04/07/2025 12:07

I think people are so removed from seeing people with long term implications of catching these diseases.
My grandma has measles as a child and poor sight and a turned eye, affected her all her life, she was so self conscious wouldn’t have photo taken plus needed thick glasses. You also used to see people dragging their leg with built up shoes from contracting polio.
My dc is currently abroad at a summer camp working and all staff and kids need to be vaccinated.

lifeonmars100 · 04/07/2025 12:05

VirginaGirl · 04/07/2025 09:19

Same. My brother had Whooping Cough so badly that my mother thought he might die.

When my youngest son was admitted to Kings College Hospital as a baby for an infection, the first question they asked us was whether his immunisations all up to date? I was very relieved that they were, and so were they.

There was no whooping cough vaccine when I was a child and I think I was about 6 when I caught it and was seriously unwell. Luckily I did not have to be hospitalised but I can still remember how unpleasant and scary it was. Why risk putting your child through a nasty illness at best and something that could really damage them at worst. I caught it again in winter 2024 and was ill for a month and left weak and tired for quite a while afterwards.

TheNoonBell · 04/07/2025 11:56

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 04/07/2025 11:48

We just need to keep these people away from normal society.
No NHS, No schools, No care homes, no you can't use the library / police / local pool.

If they don't want to join in and take care of society by getting standard vaccines - fine. Fuck off then.

As long as we don't need to pay taxes and are not subject to your laws then that's fine.

ErrolTheDragon · 04/07/2025 11:56

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 11:45

Thank you for explaining. My point still is, that there is no way of determining whether you can safely have the vaccine or not. There have been many reports of adverse affects, some leading to death. It’s entirely reasonable for someone to not want to take that risk.

What is known, however, is that the risk of vaccines is less than the risk of the diseases themselves. There’s no way of determining whether your kid can ‘safely’ have measles etc if there’s an epidemic.

Tadahhh · 04/07/2025 11:56

Papering · 04/07/2025 07:07

I have a life long autoimmune condition provoked by the Rubella vaccine. I could argue it the other way. I am pro vaccine by the way. I am currently researching a family from the 1840s who lost infant children to whooping cough and measles.

I think more people would vaccinate if the NHS were honest that in some rare cases vaccines do cause unforeseen side effects.

I also have auto immune disease, and a link between vaccines and the increase in cases is being researched. I have chosen to vaccinate as the more immediate consequences are far worse from out of control disease.

lifeonmars100 · 04/07/2025 11:50

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

unvaccinated individuals put others at risk, end of. Maybe look at how smallpox was erradicated to help you understand what a boon vaccinations are. Smallpox was eradicated through a global, decades-long effort focused on vaccination and surveillance-containment strategies, culminating in the disease's official declaration as eradicated in 1980. The success of the eradication campaign was largely due to the discovery of the smallpox vaccine by Edward Jenner in 1796 and the subsequent implementation of widespread vaccination programs and targeted containment strategies. Now have a think about polio, Cases of polio in the UK fell dramatically when routine vaccination was introduced in the mid-1950s. There hasn't been a case of polio caught in the UK since the mid-90s. But the infection is still found in some parts of the world, and there remains a very small risk it could be brought back to the UK. I had the polio vaccine when I was very small and I can remember seeing children older than me who had contracted polio and who had damaged limbs. Parents were beyond grateful when the vaccine was developed.

Bettycrocker7 · 04/07/2025 11:50

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

How dare you, the unvaccinated person who gave me measles at 6 months old and robbed me of my hearing is absolutely my concern you fool.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 04/07/2025 11:48

We just need to keep these people away from normal society.
No NHS, No schools, No care homes, no you can't use the library / police / local pool.

If they don't want to join in and take care of society by getting standard vaccines - fine. Fuck off then.

sashh · 04/07/2025 11:48

Alaboutme · 04/07/2025 10:36

My sister has never had any vaccinations. Not even as a kid.
Mum simply said she forgot.
I have im all upto date every jab going was stabbed in me.

My sister never gets ill very healthy no problems doesn't suffer with anything.
I think she's had about 3 colds in 40 year.
Never suffered any bout of mental health issues either.

Me i suffer with alsorts of problems.
Constant migraine tintus pains catch a cold from anyone eye floaters anxiety de realization mental health is in the pot etc.
It dose make me think did i need half the jabs.

Im not against it as its needed but it dose make me wonder.

Why do you think there is a difference in yours and your sister's health?

The same could be said about my brother and I, he has never been in hospital, never had more thana cold.

I have a list of chronic conditions as long as your arm.

The only difference between out vaccinations is that I had rubella and he didn't (it was only given to girls at the time).

abouttogetlynched · 04/07/2025 11:45

I don’t hate them per se, I just hate how preachy (& a bit stupid) they are… fine if they want to believe the conspiracy bull shit (although some of it could actually turn out to be true), but why do they need everyone to know their thoughts feelings so much? Like posting aggressive stuff on social media constantly. You don’t see ‘pro-vaxxers’ going on and on about their viewpoint and using derogatory language, they just seem more live and let live than anti vax morons.

SaltedPotato · 04/07/2025 11:45

I think there's still negativity and false information circulating about MMR and links to autism. My son had the MMR and he's on the way to being diagnosed but I guarantee he was always going to be this way, vaccine or not. I flagged up concerns with my HV at 8m before he had the jabs. I had them too and I'm not autistic