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I hate anti-vaxxers

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An89 · 04/07/2025 02:33

How can anyone in this day and age be an anti-vaxxer? London and West mids currently suffering from a meassls outbreak. DS is under 1 so cannot yet have vaccine, I know of someone whose 10momth old contracted measels as they were too young for vaccine.
Ridiculous that reckless and tardy parents are putting all our children at risk. Actually terrible.

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AnxiousOCDMum · 05/07/2025 10:06

Abhannmor · 05/07/2025 09:46

Ebola is a terrible disease @TaggieO . Yes I wonder how many people would refuse an Ebola vaccine , should one become available. Few enough I'd imagine. Even if RFKjr went there to spread misinformation as he did in Samoa.

People seem more comfortable with treatment, especially oral , eg with antibiotics, than with vaccines? But then we don't like it when the GP says ' exercise more and eat a bit less , you'll be grand ' . We'd rather she prescribed some tablet perhaps.

@TaggieO I never claimed to be anti-vax fyi, I have explained why I have ceased vaccinations for now.

For the illnesses we routinely vaccinate against, I don’t feel it’s a risk worth taking.

If a new deadlier disease emerged and became rampant, then there’s a chance I would reconsider.

For what it’s worth, I’m also one of those people who would rather excercise more, eat well etc. I have 3 kids - thankfully 1 has had calpol once, 2 have had antibiotics once each - eldest is 13. We really only go to the doctors if the situation really warrants it.

Abhannmor · 05/07/2025 09:46

Ebola is a terrible disease @TaggieO . Yes I wonder how many people would refuse an Ebola vaccine , should one become available. Few enough I'd imagine. Even if RFKjr went there to spread misinformation as he did in Samoa.

People seem more comfortable with treatment, especially oral , eg with antibiotics, than with vaccines? But then we don't like it when the GP says ' exercise more and eat a bit less , you'll be grand ' . We'd rather she prescribed some tablet perhaps.

Futurehappiness · 05/07/2025 09:41

AnxiousOCDMum · 05/07/2025 00:01

@Futurehappiness im sure I could find sources and medical studies but I’m not trying to convince anyone to not vaccinate. I completely understand why people vaccinate, after all, I did use to. I equally understand those that choose not to, as I now have my reasons not to.

Also you are free to interpret the extract as you wish. I interpret it differently and I’m also basing this on the fact that my own mother, father, grandparents, great grandparents, aunties, uncles etc etc etc caught most, if not all, of these childhood diseases without any complications. I also know of 2 babies who caught measles while I was pregnant and are thankfully fine. I was told of 2 cases involving rubella in pregnancy with not great outcomes sadly, but I can also see how rubella is a mild illness in itself and it would be better to allow everyone to catch it and develop naturally immunity.

I do appreciate that there are always complications and they are always incredibly sad. I’m not trying to minimise these cases.

Ultimately my belief is we are all trying our best. No mother wants harm to come to their child or other children.

Edited

So you haven't got any sources to support what you are saying; no credible ones anyway. And you will never convince me against vaccination. Nobody is claiming that vaccination is absolutely 100% risk free (what in life is?), just that for the vast majority of people the risks of serious side effects are tiny and far outweighed by the risks of contracting the diseases themselves.

You state that your older family members caught these diseases without complications, as an argument that they were not serious - the same can be stated about vaccination, that in the majority of cases there are no complications. Why do you think it is OK to run one risk but not the other, statistically far smaller, risk?

Then you go on to state that 2 cases of rubella in pregnancy had 'not very good outcomes sadly', yet your answer is to allow everyone to catch it despite the fact that this would put other pregnant womens' babies at risk?!! You say that we are all trying to do our best and that 'no mother wants harm to come to their child' yet you advocate directly putting other mothers' children at risk by letting rubella do its worst?

You have your personal and family experience, I have my own. I am old enough to have been a child in the 1960s when many of the vaccinations were being rolled out. One thing that is striking is that of my remaining early childhood memories, many of them are about the vaccines and immunisations I & my siblings, cousins & friends had as children, what i was told about them, what they were for, having the vaccinations themselves. It must have been talked about a lot by the adults around us, for me to pick up on it the way I did. That is probably very revealing in itself about how seriously they were taken at the time & what a boon they were.

Aparecium · 05/07/2025 09:28

I was told of 2 cases involving rubella in pregnancy with not great outcomes sadly, but I can also see how rubella is a mild illness in itself and it would be better to allow everyone to catch it and develop naturally immunity.

Why do you think the rubella vaccine was developed in the first place? Because allowing everyone to catch it and develop naturally immunity was not working! Babies were born with preventable congenital defects because their mothers contracted rubella during pregnancy.

I was immunised against rubella at secondary school, even though I had already had it. But immunising just girls at 13 was still harming unborn babies as many girls slipped through the net, and the virus still spread among boys, exposing these unvaccinated women. Which is why all children are now immunised against rubella well before puberty.

cakeorwine · 05/07/2025 09:10

That's interesting research about "measles amnesia" - essentially the measles virus affects the memory cells of the immune system - but it does produce immunity to measles afterwards.

However, you are at much more increased risk of developing other diseases as your immunity has been wiped out

"Scientists have known for decades that even after they recover, children who have been infected with measles are significantly more likely to fall ill and die from other causes. In fact, a study from 1995 found that vaccinating against the virus reduces the overall likelihood of death by between 30% and 86% in the years afterwards."

Non-specific beneficial effect of measles immunisation: analysis of mortality studies from developing countries

Objective : To examine whether the reduction in mortality after standard titre measles immunisation in developing countries can be explained simply by the prevention of acute measles and its long term consequences. Design : An analysis of all studies...

https://www.bmj.com/content/311/7003/481?source=post_page---------------------------

cakeorwine · 05/07/2025 08:59

Pipsquiggle · 05/07/2025 07:04

@RafaistheKingofClay what a crock of shit you are sprouting.

Happy to say I am wrong if you can produce peer reviewed evidence and data that proves your 'theory'

You mean "measles and immune amnesia"

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20211112-the-people-with-immune-amnesia

Enter "immune amnesia", a mysterious phenomenon that's been with us for millennia, though it was only discovered in 2012. Essentially, when you're infected with measles, your immune system abruptly forgets every pathogen it's ever encountered before – every cold, every bout of flu, every exposure to bacteria or viruses in the environment, every vaccination. The loss is near-total and permanent. Once the measles infection is over, current evidence suggests that your body has to re-learn what's good and what's bad almost from scratch.

I never knew that.

Measles: The race to understand 'immune amnesia'

Scientists have known for years that measles can alter the immune system – but the latest evidence suggests it's less of a mild tweaking, and more of a total reset.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20211112-the-people-with-immune-amnesia

cakeorwine · 05/07/2025 08:52

Being vaccinated does carry a risk of reaction to the vaccines.with some potentially rare bur serious consequences.

Being unvaccinated - and having a population that is also unvaccinated - carries a risk of disease with serious consequences.The risk might well be greater to people in certain medical groups or ages.

Either way, there's a risk - but the risk from being unvaccinated is normally much greater than the risk from being vaccinated.

And as harsh as it sounds, someone who did get iseriously ill from vaccine damage would probably have been much much more likely to have got seriously ill or even die if they had been unvaccinated and then developed a disease.

GRex · 05/07/2025 08:09

Fundayout2025 · 05/07/2025 07:41

. It really bloody annoys me reading that trope above. . " If your kid was dead / damaged from measles)" stating that it's easily preventable.

How the hell do you imagine my parents would feel if they kept being told they could've prevented the measles that left me partially deaf? ?

All parents screw up; some in big ways and some in little ways. It's a shame that they have to carry guilt, but maybe they would simply feel like they should speak out in anti vax groups to try to prevent others making the same mistake.

Fundayout2025 · 05/07/2025 07:41

Teanbiscuits33 · 04/07/2025 22:54

Would you not be more anxious if your children caught measles and died/became disabled when it could have been prevented by a vaccine that has an excellent safety record? I’d bet my life you’d be very regretful.

. It really bloody annoys me reading that trope above. . " If your kid was dead / damaged from measles)" stating that it's easily preventable.

How the hell do you imagine my parents would feel if they kept being told they could've prevented the measles that left me partially deaf? ?

TaggieO · 05/07/2025 07:33

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 22:40

50 million dying was 2.7% of the population - that doesn’t equate to the many dying and leaving the few.

And before you start, no of course I wouldn’t want 2.7% of the worlds population wiped out. Hopefully with better sanitation and control measures we wouldn’t see those numbers again.

The spread of covid has already shown that there is absolutely not the control measures in place to stop a pandemic before it kills millions of people, and Covid was a walk in the park compared to the Spanish flu. You keep blathering on about sanitation measures - I’m not sure you know what that means. The developed world has had electricity and running water and sewage systems for over 100 years. The importance of hand hygiene was discovered in the 19th century. None of these are new ideas and people have continued to die en masse since their introduction. To definitely prevent the transmission of a virus, you would need to wash your hands every single time they came into contact with ANYTHING. Please do tell me how you feel it’s practical to introduce that in modern society.

Ebola has a death rate of 50% to 90%. There is currently no cure. It’s being kept at bay by the fact that outbreaks sp far have been in rural and impoverished areas so there’s little travel to and from affected regions. If that does get out, we will likely see a vaccine before a cure. Are you telling me that you’d prefer your children die writhing in pain and bleeding from their eyes, ears and mouths as the virus dissolves their organs like acid rather than protect them from it with the vaccine? Let me repeat - UP TO NINETY PERCENT FATALITIES.

ApiratesaysYarrr · 05/07/2025 07:32

bigvig · 04/07/2025 11:00

Sorry but this is bollocks. I won't have the flu etc jab because it makes no sense - other than financially for drug companies. How can you protect against a mutating virus. For that same reason I never had the covid jab. I haven't had a day off sick for over 15 years. Never go to the doctors. Everyone I know who has the flu jab gets flu every year (and talks about how much worst it would be if they hadn't had the jab). Everyone I know who got the covid jab got covid really badly and two have had heart problems.

When the Polio vaccine etc came in people who took it took it hoping they would be protected - not that the whole society would somehow be protected. Dead virus vaccines I'm ok with - and all my children have had these. Gene therapy vaccines (MRNA) not in a million years. Plus you do know most cases of measles etc in the UK are brought in from outside or are vaccine related strains.

Plus why are vaccines the only drugs we cannot sue manufacturers for if they go wrong or if there is negligence?

I'm a dr. Pretty much all the staff at my hospital (so thousands of people) had COVID vaccinations, and most of them had flu vaccine as well, as that's always been a thing in the NHS for decades. No staff member suffered any complications, although when the first COVID vaccinations came out, there were a few people who seemed to develop fever and all over body aches and feeling terrible for 24hrs afterwards, but this wasn't COVID. None of my colleagues have flu every year. I've met people who claim to have flu when they just have a rotten cold, but there are loads of other respiratory viruses that make people ill.

"Plus why are vaccines the only drugs we cannot sue manufacturers for if they go wrong or if there is negligence?"

You are completely wrong on this point.

Vaccine Damage Payment

A Vaccine Damage Payment is a one-off tax-free payment of £120,000 if you're severely disabled as a result of vaccination against certain diseases - what you'll get, eligibility and applying.

https://www.gov.uk/vaccine-damage-payment

Pipsquiggle · 05/07/2025 07:13

I think people who decide not to immunise their DC, should not get access to nurseries, schools, libraries, hospitals etc but should also pay higher tax as there is a fiscal element to their stupid decisions.
They put pressure on the NHS plus the people infected may need long term support.

Pipsquiggle · 05/07/2025 07:04

@RafaistheKingofClay what a crock of shit you are sprouting.

Happy to say I am wrong if you can produce peer reviewed evidence and data that proves your 'theory'

40weeksmummy · 05/07/2025 06:18

An89 · 04/07/2025 02:33

How can anyone in this day and age be an anti-vaxxer? London and West mids currently suffering from a meassls outbreak. DS is under 1 so cannot yet have vaccine, I know of someone whose 10momth old contracted measels as they were too young for vaccine.
Ridiculous that reckless and tardy parents are putting all our children at risk. Actually terrible.

Agree! Kids without routine vaccinations shouldn't be allowed to join state schools.

sashh · 05/07/2025 04:14

JorgyPorgy · 04/07/2025 10:36

No one likes needles but it’s part of modern medicine, so that can’t be an excuse. If you became diabetic you’d be grateful for needles

Sorry but you don't understand a needle phobia.

I have a friend with a needle phobia, I have been with her to support her having blood tests.

The phlebotomists always say, "Oh you will be fine with me it won't hurt".

Then my friend sits in the chair, starts sweating, her blood sugar drops and suddenly she is cold and shivering.

She ends up covered in silver blankets with a fan on her. They won't let her leave until her BP is normal.

When she had to have an operation the hospital staff let me go with her as far as the anaesthetic room where she 'went under' sobbing in to my chest.

Velmy · 05/07/2025 03:36

I have a good friend, smart, well educated, professional guy. Left wing. His baby niece received her vaccinations. It was later discovered that she had a number of serious health conditions. She lived for a few extremely difficult years before sadly passing away just before COVID.

He became convinced that vaccines were responsible for everything and developed a deep-seated mistrust of mainstream medical advice. The pandemic was obviously very difficult for him. He was never combative with it, but he would occasionally share anti-vax stuff on social media, or get into long debates.

It was heartbreaking, because you could see that it came from a place of genuine good intentions; he just didn't want anyone else to suffer the pain that his family had been through, and he couldn't fathom why people were dismissing him or treating him like a nutter. In his mind, he wasn't some terminally online weirdo who'd 'done his research' on YouTube; he was a guy it had actually happened to.

I'm so opposed to anti-vax, we agreed never to discuss it for the sake of our friendship. But I totally and completely understand how his experience put him on that path, and I don't think less of him for it.

The social media anti-vax movement though, I treat with total distain. I have a pretty wide international circle on my SM due to work, hobbies, friends and family. Across such a broad spectrum, it was only ever the thickest, most uneducated, unsuccessful people I knew peddling it, and they were all selling the exact same lies.

I don't believe in coincidences of that size.

VoulezVouz · 05/07/2025 02:36

AnxiousOCDMum · 05/07/2025 00:01

@Futurehappiness im sure I could find sources and medical studies but I’m not trying to convince anyone to not vaccinate. I completely understand why people vaccinate, after all, I did use to. I equally understand those that choose not to, as I now have my reasons not to.

Also you are free to interpret the extract as you wish. I interpret it differently and I’m also basing this on the fact that my own mother, father, grandparents, great grandparents, aunties, uncles etc etc etc caught most, if not all, of these childhood diseases without any complications. I also know of 2 babies who caught measles while I was pregnant and are thankfully fine. I was told of 2 cases involving rubella in pregnancy with not great outcomes sadly, but I can also see how rubella is a mild illness in itself and it would be better to allow everyone to catch it and develop naturally immunity.

I do appreciate that there are always complications and they are always incredibly sad. I’m not trying to minimise these cases.

Ultimately my belief is we are all trying our best. No mother wants harm to come to their child or other children.

Edited

You can’t even find just one source?

And if the world worked as you envision, far less children would make it to adulthood.

IndigoBluey · 05/07/2025 02:31

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:21

My only concern is me and my family honestly
I wont do stuff to my body or my kids body for anyone elses feelies

Crikey, this is genuinely one of the most unintelligent views I’ve come across. So your only concern is yourself and your family but you’re relying on other people being vaccinated to protect you and your family? I would welcome your thoughts behind that reasoning!

Robinredd · 05/07/2025 02:12

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:21

My only concern is me and my family honestly
I wont do stuff to my body or my kids body for anyone elses feelies

I'd expect nothing less from an anti-vaxxer.

Our kids are keeping your kids safe.

Comtesse · 05/07/2025 02:07

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 19:17

While the vaccines may offer some protection we can’t disregard things like plumbing and sanitation playing a vital role in the reduction of preventable deaths.

Truthfully, I don’t believe true herd immunity exists. If it doesn’t work in nature, it won’t work artificially either. Not long term anyway.

It seems you understand that viruses mutate and no matter how clever science is, nature will find a way around it. Which is why we have these epidemics sometimes. Which is why we have antibiotic resistance. Etc.

In the end, I think there will always be viruses in circulation - the focus should be on supporting the body to deal with them. For most, they are natures way of priming and detoxing the immune system. Sadly, some will always have complications. I don’t think the answer is to try and stop these viruses artificially, but to understand them and support the body through them, because if you really understand the laws of nature, you will know you can’t.

What a load of BS. I am old enough that I have had whooping cough, German measles, measles, mumps, chickenpox, even scarlet fever. They were horrible.

My aunt had polio as a child. The first time she walked without callipers was down the aisle at her wedding.

Anyone who doesn’t vaccine their kids is incredibly foolhardy. None of this “let’s just support the body once you’ve caught it”. That didn’t work very well for eradicating polio or smallpox or TB.

MrsSunshine2b · 05/07/2025 01:45

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 22:51

Also what about the deaths that are caused by vaccine derived strains? Do we jail the nurse? The drug company? The recipient?

No, we recognise that everything carries a risk but the risk of not doing something can be greater than the risk of doing it, as in the case of vaccines.

MrsSunshine2b · 05/07/2025 01:43

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 22:50

Technically the babies should have inherited temporary immunity from their mums until around 9 months of age. Especially if breastfed.

Babies get some protection from their mother's immunity and breastfeeding, but it's not even close to a failsafe.

ARichtGoodDram · 05/07/2025 01:19

and in all honesty, we wouldn’t be here today if it was as deadly as they make out it is now

Do a few family trees and see how many mothers lost multiple children to measles and you'll see how deadly it is.

My Gr-Granny had 3 surviving children. That's how we're here today in my family.

She lost nine - 7 to measles and 2 to TB. Four of the children she lost to measles died within a week of each other.

Psvfaa · 05/07/2025 01:16

I'm 110% pro-vaxx. But what about bodily autonomy?

ARichtGoodDram · 05/07/2025 01:16

Something I noticed recently after trips to Birmingham for hospital appointments for DD - there are no posters advertising the gelatine free MMR.

Where I live up near the Scotland/england border there are posters in the Drs surgery and hospitals really promoting that there is that option.