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I hate anti-vaxxers

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An89 · 04/07/2025 02:33

How can anyone in this day and age be an anti-vaxxer? London and West mids currently suffering from a meassls outbreak. DS is under 1 so cannot yet have vaccine, I know of someone whose 10momth old contracted measels as they were too young for vaccine.
Ridiculous that reckless and tardy parents are putting all our children at risk. Actually terrible.

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TaggieO · 06/07/2025 23:27

AnxiousOCDMum · 06/07/2025 23:18

Exactly. Given that peanuts are deadly allergic to some, those who believe everyone should vaccinate themselves to protect those vulnerable absolutely should advocate for all peanuts to be banned - what compelling reason would there to be to not ban peanuts? Is a bag of peanuts worth a life? And what next - eggs, dairy, sesame….

For what it’s worth my son is actually allergic to nuts and must carry an epi pen. I don’t expect people to stop eating nuts. I believe the onus is on us to keep him safe to the best of our ability.

The lies are absolutely ridiculous. Your son is allergic enough to nuts to need an epi pen. Right. Is this the child that’s so healthy he’s only ever needed a single dose of calpol, or are we supposed to believe he’s the one who’s only ever needed a single dose of antibiotics? 🤣 Or is he the one that’s so healthy he’s only ever needed a single dose of antibiotics but you also claim is vaccine injured…..?

Assuming what you have said was true about him needing an epi-pen: so, it’s fine for him to be injected with a substance to protect him if he comes into contact with nuts, but not for him to be a injected with a substance to protect him if he comes into contact with a potentially fatal disease…..?

AnxiousOCDMum · 06/07/2025 23:18

SapphireSeptember · 06/07/2025 22:49

Utter rubbish. Diseases don't tend to kill everyone who catches it (I survived COVID, but I'd had three vaccines and have what I consider a very good immune system, but still felt dreadful for a week.) I seem to fight off colds before they even begin sometimes, but the third time I get it. Meanwhile, in the real world... Measles used to kill a hell of a lot more people than it does now. I am not risking it. Anyone having a bad reaction to vaccines is a shame, but things like that happen. Some people are deadly allergic to things like peanuts, there aren't anti peanut groups (that I'm aware of) trying to get people to stop eating peanuts.
www.gov.uk/government/publications/measles-deaths-by-age-group-from-1980-to-2013-ons-data/measles-notifications-and-deaths-in-england-and-wales-1940-to-2013

Exactly. Given that peanuts are deadly allergic to some, those who believe everyone should vaccinate themselves to protect those vulnerable absolutely should advocate for all peanuts to be banned - what compelling reason would there to be to not ban peanuts? Is a bag of peanuts worth a life? And what next - eggs, dairy, sesame….

For what it’s worth my son is actually allergic to nuts and must carry an epi pen. I don’t expect people to stop eating nuts. I believe the onus is on us to keep him safe to the best of our ability.

40weeksmummy · 06/07/2025 22:57

SapphireSeptember · 06/07/2025 22:54

Just googled and it's £75 per dose, so £150 as you need two. Lots of people can't afford that!

Yes, especially if you have 2 or more kids .I believe there are some hidden fees in this, my friend spent more than a month looking for cheapest option , £94 for a shot.

SapphireSeptember · 06/07/2025 22:54

40weeksmummy · 06/07/2025 22:48

You can do it privately, however veeeery expensive and two shots needed.

Just googled and it's £75 per dose, so £150 as you need two. Lots of people can't afford that!

SapphireSeptember · 06/07/2025 22:49

AnxiousOCDMum · 04/07/2025 22:31

I said measles is a detox for the body which clearly it is if it wipes the immune system memory.

and in all honesty, we wouldn’t be here today if it was as deadly as they make out it is now.

Utter rubbish. Diseases don't tend to kill everyone who catches it (I survived COVID, but I'd had three vaccines and have what I consider a very good immune system, but still felt dreadful for a week.) I seem to fight off colds before they even begin sometimes, but the third time I get it. Meanwhile, in the real world... Measles used to kill a hell of a lot more people than it does now. I am not risking it. Anyone having a bad reaction to vaccines is a shame, but things like that happen. Some people are deadly allergic to things like peanuts, there aren't anti peanut groups (that I'm aware of) trying to get people to stop eating peanuts.
www.gov.uk/government/publications/measles-deaths-by-age-group-from-1980-to-2013-ons-data/measles-notifications-and-deaths-in-england-and-wales-1940-to-2013

40weeksmummy · 06/07/2025 22:48

Fundayout2025 · 06/07/2025 22:39

Do the NHS do chickenpox vaccines now? Wasn't an option when my kids were young

You can do it privately, however veeeery expensive and two shots needed.

Aparecium · 06/07/2025 22:45

dogcatkitten · 06/07/2025 21:43

You didn't vaccinate your first child and you were lucky and they didn't catch it now they are old enough they might not get xyz badly of they get it. But your baby catches it from your first child and dies, just get them vaccinated as soon as possible.

And if they catch it as an adult, they are even more likely to be seriously affected.

Fundayout2025 · 06/07/2025 22:39

1dayatatime · 06/07/2025 22:30

@cardibach

Sorry- typo / brain fried after hosting a children's birthday party today!

Should have read:

"It amazes me how so many parents rushed to get their children COVID vaccines yet failed to get children vaccinated against chickenpox "

Do the NHS do chickenpox vaccines now? Wasn't an option when my kids were young

1dayatatime · 06/07/2025 22:30

@cardibach

Sorry- typo / brain fried after hosting a children's birthday party today!

Should have read:

"It amazes me how so many parents rushed to get their children COVID vaccines yet failed to get children vaccinated against chickenpox "

cardibach · 06/07/2025 22:21

@1dayatatime
It amazes me how so many parents rushed to get their children COVID vaccines yet failed to get children vaccinated against COVID
Sorry? I don’t understand what this means.

1dayatatime · 06/07/2025 22:15

@JohnnysMama

"I can see that the lives of children who have been harmed by vaccines don’t seem to matter much or be acknowledged in this thread. Some children do die or suffer severe, life-altering reactions from vaccines — this is a fact."

Yes it is that some children do die or suffer severe life altering reactions from vaccines. But equally it is a fact that some children do die or suffer severe altering reactions from viruses such as mumps, measles, polio or even chickenpox that could have been prevented with a vaccine.

What you have to look at is what is the risk probability of suffering a severe/ life threatening reaction to the vaccine versus what is the risk probability of sufferers a severe/ life threatening reaction to the actual virus.

For nearly all childhood vaccines the risk probability of the actual virus is far far greater than the vaccine. And you can easily get the data on this. The one exception I would make was giving children covid vaccines when the under 21s were at a very low risk from COVID whereas the risk probability of giving children a very new vaccine was quite high.

It amazes me how so many parents rushed to get their children COVID vaccines yet failed to get children vaccinated against COVID.

If COVID vaccines for children was such a great idea then why is it no longer recommended?

dogcatkitten · 06/07/2025 21:43

You didn't vaccinate your first child and you were lucky and they didn't catch it now they are old enough they might not get xyz badly of they get it. But your baby catches it from your first child and dies, just get them vaccinated as soon as possible.

MessageMystery · 06/07/2025 21:25

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

Of course they are you ignoramus.

Aparecium · 06/07/2025 21:23

I can see that the lives of children who have been harmed by vaccines don’t seem to matter much or be acknowledged in this thread.

Of course they matter! None of us want anyone to lose their child or for a child to be harmed - that's the whole point of vaccinating.

Some children do die or suffer severe, life-altering reactions from vaccines — this is a fact.
Although these cases are often dismissed as a minimal fraction, for a mother who loses her child, it is not minimal.

Undeniable. But the fact that it's a minimal fraction is important. All medicines have potential side effects and dangers. And we are a society. None of us live entirely independently of each other. None of our decisions are made in a bubble.

Stop hating mothers who choose not to vaccinate.**

Not hating. Judging.

Vaccinate your kids and they’ll be fine.

Not true. As I posted earlier, my fully-immunised dc caught mumps in a preventable mini-epidemic. I also know a teenager who had measles as a healthy 6yp, and became T1 diabetic 6 weeks later. He, too, was fully immunised.

I don't hate the parents who chose not to vaccinate their children, despite the harm their choices did to my dc, but I certainly judge them.

Be vigilant and protect those who can’t yet be vaccinated due to age or medical reasons, until they can receive their shots and stop this pro vax bully culture.

Vigilant! How? People with viral illnesses are highly infectious before they show symptoms! Or do you propose we bring back quarantine for all their siblings and contacts?

SnakesAndArrows · 06/07/2025 21:11

AnxiousOCDMum · 06/07/2025 19:20

Not going to get dragged back into this but I just wanted to point out if you’re having chemo, you’re told to not have contact with anyone who’s recently had MMR or any live vaccine because they SHED. Someone recently vaccinated could pass on measles and end uo passing it no differently to someone unvaccinated who had the wild strain (although as I said, in recent outbreaks it’s been the vaccine strain that is circulating).

You surely can’t be claiming that measles outbreaks are being caused by the vaccines?

bruffin · 06/07/2025 21:11

My DS had his first febrile seizure within weeks of his MMR. He went on to have over 25 right up to the age of 13. It was obvious that it wasnt caused by MMR as my DSIS and DM and even my DGM had abnormal history of Febrile Seizures , we now know my family have milder form of GEFS+.
Back in the late 60s when my DSIS had FS neither she nor I were allowed to have the measles vaccine in the catch up programme. We both caught measles , i was really ill for a couple of weeks. Measles ruins the immune system for upto 3 years and i was very ill with chronic tonsilitis over the next two years with weeks off school, i eventually had my tonsils out.

firef1y · 06/07/2025 20:33

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

They are my concern when they affect my children.
I had to make the decision on whether to risk vaccinating, knowing that a high temperature could put him in to a life threatening status seizure or risk him getting measles etc. (This was at the height of the autism conspiracy stuff).
He ended up having to stay in hospital for 24hrs after the vaccinations

Sabire9 · 06/07/2025 20:27

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

They are if they increase the chance of your own child getting severely ill or dying.

Bikergran · 06/07/2025 20:20

Ineedcoffee2021 · 04/07/2025 03:04

others medical choices are none of your concern

Yes they bloody are when they are putting others at risk.

bruffin · 06/07/2025 20:19

AnxiousOCDMum · 06/07/2025 19:20

Not going to get dragged back into this but I just wanted to point out if you’re having chemo, you’re told to not have contact with anyone who’s recently had MMR or any live vaccine because they SHED. Someone recently vaccinated could pass on measles and end uo passing it no differently to someone unvaccinated who had the wild strain (although as I said, in recent outbreaks it’s been the vaccine strain that is circulating).

The chance of getting an illness from shedding is incredibly rare, unlike when the wild disease is rampant, but somehow it is seen as much more dangerous, really doesnt make sense.

AnxiousOCDMum · 06/07/2025 19:20

MrsSunshine2b · 06/07/2025 16:59

So forget immunocompromised kids then? The mothers who watch their kids go through chemo and then lose them to whooping cough or measles because the tiny chance of having an adverse reaction outweighed the fairly large chance of catching a communicable disease in someone else's tiny mind, they don't matter I suppose?

Or are they supposed to live in a bubble?

Call ahead when they have to visit the hospital to check that no idiot has suddenly changed their mind about trusting the NHS and taken their sick child to infect everyone else in A & E?

Not going to get dragged back into this but I just wanted to point out if you’re having chemo, you’re told to not have contact with anyone who’s recently had MMR or any live vaccine because they SHED. Someone recently vaccinated could pass on measles and end uo passing it no differently to someone unvaccinated who had the wild strain (although as I said, in recent outbreaks it’s been the vaccine strain that is circulating).

MrsSunshine2b · 06/07/2025 16:59

JohnnysMama · 06/07/2025 13:01

I can see that the lives of children who have been harmed by vaccines don’t seem to matter much or be acknowledged in this thread. Some children do die or suffer severe, life-altering reactions from vaccines — this is a fact.
Although these cases are often dismissed as a minimal fraction, for a mother who loses her child, it is not minimal.
Stop hating mothers who choose not to vaccinate.
Vaccinate your kids and they’ll be fine. Be vigilant and protect those who can’t yet be vaccinated due to age or medical reasons, until they can receive their shots and stop this pro vax bully culture.

So forget immunocompromised kids then? The mothers who watch their kids go through chemo and then lose them to whooping cough or measles because the tiny chance of having an adverse reaction outweighed the fairly large chance of catching a communicable disease in someone else's tiny mind, they don't matter I suppose?

Or are they supposed to live in a bubble?

Call ahead when they have to visit the hospital to check that no idiot has suddenly changed their mind about trusting the NHS and taken their sick child to infect everyone else in A & E?

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 06/07/2025 14:44

Mustardmummy23 · 04/07/2025 04:01

@Ineedcoffee2021 what if your child got measles, gave it to a newborn baby and that baby died?

I think it’s clear they don’t give a shit.

RafaistheKingofClay · 06/07/2025 14:40

Pipsquiggle · 05/07/2025 07:04

@RafaistheKingofClay what a crock of shit you are sprouting.

Happy to say I am wrong if you can produce peer reviewed evidence and data that proves your 'theory'

Which bit. I’ve said lots of things. Most of it is probably settled science among experts in that field.

RafaistheKingofClay · 06/07/2025 14:38

cakeorwine · 06/07/2025 13:52

And the more you know about something, the more you know that you don't know.

I have a good science background and medical background - but I know that the more I know about immunology, the more I don't know - as that was not my area of expertise. People who have spent years in immunology are the people who I trust to have the expert knowledge.

And being an expert immunologist does not make someone an expert in say cancer. As an expert immunologist would tell you.

Which is why people from one area of medicine/science are careful when they interpret papers from other areas of medicine/science. Because you need to know what you don’t know before you start.