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What would you think if a BF said this?

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LuckyAquaExpert · 03/07/2025 22:48

"I'll sort myself out" when I didn't want sex. He said he was excited and wouldn't be able to sleep unless he could get pleasure.

It made my stomach turn but he's saying that it's more considerate of him.

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ItsFridayIminLoveJS · 03/07/2025 23:03

Haven't you ever said that to him.. when you want it and he doesn't? Seems strange it's bothering you.. guess you're only young. Do you live together? Surely this has happened before.. I'd just say.. crack on.. don't wake me up and clean up afterwards.. it's 100% normal... nothing odd about it.. l mean l didn't expect my husband to go without after I'd given birth/ had an operation/ an hysterectomy.. he just got on with it.. and yes some people who are feeling randy or whatever do need sexual relief for sleep/ mental health etc.. orgasms are very healthy.

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LuckyAquaExpert · 03/07/2025 23:01

ShamrockShenanigans · 03/07/2025 22:58

Eh?

So being in a relationship with you means he's never allowed a wank? 😳

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Just meant he's never responded that if I wasn't in the mood

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ShamrockShenanigans · 03/07/2025 22:58

LuckyAquaExpert · 03/07/2025 22:54

No, I just think it's odd as he never mentioned that before. He might just wait until it might suit us both

Eh?

So being in a relationship with you means he's never allowed a wank? 😳

RealEagle · 03/07/2025 22:58

Why would this bother you?

Tangerinenets · 03/07/2025 22:57

Wouldn’t/Doesn’t bother me.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 03/07/2025 22:56

LuckyAquaExpert · 03/07/2025 22:54

No, I just think it's odd as he never mentioned that before. He might just wait until it might suit us both

Nothing odd about it. It suits him now, so he wants to act upon it. I’m quite sure it’ll still suit him when it next suits you.

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LuckyAquaExpert · 03/07/2025 22:55

It somehow made me feel pressured. That's how I read it, wrongly or not

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LuckyAquaExpert · 03/07/2025 22:54

No, I just think it's odd as he never mentioned that before. He might just wait until it might suit us both

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Shelbellsanddoodles · 03/07/2025 22:53

I wouldn't think anything. He's taken your no and dealt with it himself, would you rather he pestered you??

SummerEve · 03/07/2025 22:52

I don’t see the problem?

Ponoka7 · 03/07/2025 22:52

Yeah it's fine, especially if he's going to be sleeping next to you. Isn't it normal to do that, if you are feeling frisky?

skinnyoptionsonly · 03/07/2025 22:52

Stomach turn? Are you phobic of masturbation?

SuffolkUnicorn · 03/07/2025 22:52

Cool beans

failedatlifee · 03/07/2025 22:51

wouldn’t care

Someonelookedatmypostinghistorysoichanged · 03/07/2025 22:51

Night then

Headingtowardsdivorce · 03/07/2025 22:51

I'd think, crack on.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 03/07/2025 22:49

Wouldn’t bother me at all.

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