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To think this woman should be thoroughly ashamed of herself?

84 replies

Tarjet · 03/07/2025 18:42

My son was driving to work at the weekend and was waiting for a car parking space. A woman in a huge Range Rover reversed out of the space at speed and hit my son’s car. He was far enough back to see what was going to happen and blast his horn. She still kept on coming.

The damage was fortunately quite minimal but my son’s little fiesta needs a panel realigned. At the time the woman was hugely apologetic, admitted fault (and when my son rang me I could hear her in the background still apologising).

They exchanged details and she asked if she could pay for the repair without going through insurance - which was perfect as I know even a ‘no fault claim’ bumps your premium up.

Fast forward to today - son messaged her with the repair update (it’s being assessed tomorrow) and she’s now changed her tune and blaming my son for the accident and is now going through the insurance as her car has a dent. Or she said he could pay to have it fixed! The fucking audacity is making my blood boil.

Anything I can do before I explode in anger?

We think there is CCTV at the retail park so that will be my first step I think.

OP posts:
AcquadiP · 03/07/2025 18:57

If your son was waiting for a car parking space, then presumably he was stationary? If so, she reversed into a vehicle that wasn't moving and that immediately puts her at fault. The alternative is she's trying to suggest your son drove into a reversing vehicle (with its reverse lights all lit up.) Unlikely, I would have thought. I'd leave the matter with the insurance company to sort out.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 03/07/2025 18:56

You generally have 48 hours to report an incident to your insurers, even if you don't intend to make a claim.

Never trust a stranger to make good and pay your bills.

LlynTegid · 03/07/2025 18:54

Report to the police. Suggest that a false insurance claim is being made by her.

GodSavetheJean · 03/07/2025 18:51

Dear Lady in Range Rover,

I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt when you requested we avoid reporting to insurance but now you are trying to rip me off, so thankfully I have the CCTV which clearly shows that I was stopped and you reversed into my car. I will proceed with filing a claim with my insurance and reporting this to the police.

Jc2001 · 03/07/2025 18:50

This is always the danger when people say "let's not go through the insurance".

Obviously tell your insurance company everything and don't speak to the woman again. Only communicate thru the insurance company. if you want to reply to her message just say you're taking legal advice and then block her.

Spirallingdownwards · 03/07/2025 18:50

Report it to his insurance company and give them her details. Ensure that he gives full details and plans of the circumstances of her crashing into him by reversing out of a parking space without checking the way was clear.

Judiezones · 03/07/2025 18:47

A similar thing happened to me, a woman reversed out of a parking space into my car, as I was slowly passing. She very reluctantly admitted it was her fault and gave me her details. The insurance companies sorted it out and mine said hers would just cough up because she was definitely at fault.

Coulddowithanap · 03/07/2025 18:46

W0tnow · 03/07/2025 18:44

If you reverse into someone it’s automatically your fault, right?

I believe so

W0tnow · 03/07/2025 18:44

If you reverse into someone it’s automatically your fault, right?