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his daughter too or just yours?
have you history of being unfaithful?

Oh my god, leave him TODAY!!

He's controlling you, of course you are allowed to go out, you're allowed to go out past 9pm and even get drunk!

He's playing with your emotions by bringing DD into this.

Leave him, if not for you, then for your daughters sake..

He sounds just as controlling as the last dickhead you were with. LTB.

Plus you don’t need to be “let off” for anything. You have committed a crime ffs!

Sell the ring and buy yourself a life @TipsyPlumUser

first response nails it.

I'm old, and I find the number of posts like this depressing. This wasn't even acceptable back in the 70s, let alone now. Don't young women have any self respect nowadays? I'm baffled at the number of women who would even want to stay with men like this.

This covers everything

He’s abusive. If you stay with him you won’t go out with your work colleagues again as you won’t want him behaving in the same way. That’s exactly what he wants. Bin him.

Please see that this man is controlling. He won’t put your (shared or not) daughter to bed after two years in a relationship. Is he resentful of having to look after her or is he using his weaponised incompetence? Either way, he is being abusive towards you when he won’t let you go out for a few hours for the first time in TWO YEARS!! He is giving you a curfew and then ensuring he makes you feel awful about it so that you never do it again. He won’t change. You do know that don’t you? Please reconsider marriage.

This.

His attitude from the beginning is concerning.

Hes a cunt.
Get rid.
Build up your friendships and have a nice dickhead free life of your own.

It’s not just your past abusive relationship that’s a problem, you have a current abusive relationship to extract yourself from. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. Get rid of him and focus on building a life for yourself and your child.

Let this one go. Sounds like you're in another abusive relationship. You did nothing wrong and he had no reason to be angry with you, so your reaction was acceptable.

If you going out with a friend for the first time in 2 years and coming home at 9pm caused all this fuss then I'd dump him now.

He's as controlling as the last one. Massive red flags. He shouldn't have needed any 'reassurance' before you went out. Why did he want to know if you'd be home at 7pm, when you'd clearly said at least 8pm? Why did he feel the need to pretend you'd 'upset' your DD?

He's a cock - you called it right. Don't apologise and don't continue with the relationship.

He is showing you he is an abuser. Believe him. Take your child and leave him.

You are in another abusive relationship. Don’t let this be the example you given your daughter. He’s a controlling dickhead

first tried to plead about the fact I don’t go out and I thought he could let me off but he kept on
He wouldn’t back down and I said it reminds me a lot of the control I experienced in the past @TipsyPlumUser

You are an adult and as such don't need to plead with anyone and certainly don't need "letting off" for going out and having a few drinks.

You also shouldn't have to let him know everything you're doing whilst you're out, apart from obviously coming home later than previously said, but 9 is so early anyway.

And why was he asking if you're coming home at 7 when you'd said 8?

You are STILL in a controlling relationship. This is abusive and you need to get you and your DD away from him.

Home at 9:00pm? GASP! Whar a dolt he is. He just wants to control you. You need to get out, make some friends and dump him. I hope you had fun out with your coworkers!

I don’t think he was reasonable, but you going off on one would definitely be relationship ending for me.

He texted me saying he didn’t appreciate me shouting or being called a 🍆 and that he’s right to be mad at me.
He’s right to be mad at you, because who wants a relationship with someone who fights like that? Not me anyway!

I can’t see what I did wrong besides lose my 💩 and call him a 🍆- which I have already apologised for.
But what value has your apology anyway? You actually think he fully deserved it, and obviously don’t know that losing your shit is not OK.

Learn to fight with some dignity, it’s so much better for your relationship.

In this case, he is also controlling, and you should end the relationship because of his behaviour.

All this fuss over a couple of drinks, being an hour late and calling him an aubergine.

Jokes aside please leave he sounds bloody awful.

Is your daughter his or just yours?

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Run for the hills
Do NOT marry this man!!!++

I haven’t got any friends due to a past abusive relationship.

It seems your current partner prefers it that way and intends to do everything in his power to ensure you remain friendless.

How long were you single before getting involved with this prick?

I sort of agree with everyone else, except that he's looking after your daughter for you to go? That does change things slightly, you should have been home at 8pm like you said if he wasn't okay to do bedtime with her. Of course this depends on his relationship with her whether that was his concern or whether he was just being a cock.