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Ex trying to get me to sign child arrangement agreement.

27 replies

VenusJupiter · 03/07/2025 09:21

I'm leaving the father of my child for emotional and mental abuse ( at times physically intimidating too).
He says if I leave then I need to sign a 50 50 childcare agreement. I plan not to do this.
I guess I'm allowing him to make me feel guilty?

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TomatoSandwiches · 03/07/2025 09:49

Don't sign anything, you are not legally obligated to do so, chose a day(s) and times that you can make available but if he wants formal access then he can apply through the courts.
Make sure you only contact him through text and email, that way you have a written record of his communication.

Motomum23 · 03/07/2025 09:37

You don't need to sign anything of the sort. You need to arrange child access in a way that is best for the child - whatever that may be. It's often 50/50 but not always.