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Lily Allen ‘can’t remember’ how many abortions she’s had

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blossoming56 · 03/07/2025 08:05

Article in the Fail today about this.
I am pro choice but it did make me a bit uncomfortable. After a while a string of abortions - too many to remember - would surely leave its mark physically and emotionally not mention the cost on the NHS.
Everyone should have a choice but is there not an element of personal responsibility to just take precautions after the first few times?!

OP posts:
vovov · 03/07/2025 11:06

Tandora · 03/07/2025 10:19

Literally none of your business what Lily Allen or any other woman does with their body or fertility.

Lily Allen made it the public’s business by mouthing off about it. If she had kept it to herself, then yes it would have been just her personal business.

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 11:06

Dodeedoo · 03/07/2025 11:02

So are you

Yes, I am.
However you appear to be joining in a specific interaction with me and another pp without realising it.

ThisWayLiesMadness · 03/07/2025 11:05

she is disgusting

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 11:05

Ontheedgeofit · 03/07/2025 11:01

Almost nothing anybody writes on MN affects any of the other posters yet you all bother to type responses. It’s like you are all policing the content with your bitchy responses.

She is opening a conversation…. That’s the whole point of a forum.

...but what is she hoping to achieve with the conversation? Everyone is entitled to their own views on abortion, however starting a judgemental thread specifically on the actions of one person is essentially inviting folk to join in criticising her.

TalkToTheHand123 · 03/07/2025 11:03

It's not a joke subject. Those two should be ashamed of themselves.

Dodeedoo · 03/07/2025 11:02

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 11:00

You are commenting on a post about LA's abortions?

So are you

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 11:01

AmusedTaupePlayer · 03/07/2025 10:59

of abortions

Yes, but what specific side effects are you referring to?
How do you know she didn't experience some of the normal short term side effects?

Ontheedgeofit · 03/07/2025 11:01

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 10:41

In this case it appears to be bitching and judgement of something that doesn't affect her.

Almost nothing anybody writes on MN affects any of the other posters yet you all bother to type responses. It’s like you are all policing the content with your bitchy responses.

She is opening a conversation…. That’s the whole point of a forum.

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 11:00

MyUmberSeal · 03/07/2025 10:59

Um I’ve got no idea about LA abortions, you’ve got the wrong person for that. I’ve never mentioned them and have no idea what you’re talking about.

You are commenting on a post about LA's abortions?

AmusedTaupePlayer · 03/07/2025 10:59

CurlewKate · 03/07/2025 10:59

What side effects?

of abortions

CurlewKate · 03/07/2025 10:59

AmusedTaupePlayer · 03/07/2025 10:56

How does she not suffer from side effects?

What side effects?

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 10:59

AmusedTaupePlayer · 03/07/2025 10:56

How does she not suffer from side effects?

She quite possibly did have short term side effects during/shortly after the process. Early (chemical) abortions are relatively safe, in the grand scheme of things, so what are you referring to?

MyUmberSeal · 03/07/2025 10:59

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 10:57

Calling people twats doesn't make your view any more valid than those you disagree with.
Again, how are LA's abortions affecting you?

Um I’ve got no idea about LA abortions, you’ve got the wrong person for that. I’ve never mentioned them and have no idea what you’re talking about.

Beeloux · 03/07/2025 10:58

HairsprayBabe · 03/07/2025 10:48

@Beeloux I'll do the maths for you.

In the UK, about half of women seeking abortions report that their contraception method failed, according to the BPAS. This means that nearly half of women undergoing abortions in the UK were using contraception at the time they became pregnant. Specifically, a study of women having abortions at BPAS clinics found that over half (51.2%) were using some form of contraception.

When that is broken down 17% comes from the pill, 38% condoms, 2% IUD, 1% implant 3% cap/diaphragm, 2% hormone injection, 1% sterilisation/vasectomy, 1% natural family planning, 1% MAP - the remaining ~% declined to answer.

251,377 is the total number of abortions in the UK in 2022 - that means approximately 12,568 women in the UK had an abortion that year whilst on long term birth control. (injection/iud/implant)

It simply isn't that rare and shocking that it could happen to people multiple times

Out of the 12,568 woman, I wonder how many times that happened on more than one occasion? Very low I imagine. Personally I have only ever fell pregnant when a man finishes inside me, hence why I no longer would allow them to despite being on the implant. If I fell pregnant on the implant I would be doubling up or using a barrier method

Of course it may still happen but the liklehood of someone like LA using abortions as birth control is much more common than a woman falling pregnant on multiple occasions while using the implant or coil.

HairsprayBabe · 03/07/2025 10:57

What side effects? Abortions are very safe and carry very little risk, more risk than not getting pregnant in the first place, be significantly less risk than actually having a baby,

Dodeedoo · 03/07/2025 10:57

MyUmberSeal · 03/07/2025 10:53

There was a thread about Lilly Allen’s abortion interview in the feminism section of MN last night. It’s still going and no one was remotely pissed off about the OP starting the thread. AIBU is wild. What’s the problem.

OP, there are some twats on this thread. A great topic for discussion, whatever side of the fence you sit in the subject, and some interesting responses. Take a look at the other thread and maybe contribute your thoughts there.

Edited

I wonder what some of these posters are like in person? I wonder if they really are the aggressive little twats that they portray themselves to be on here.

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 10:57

MyUmberSeal · 03/07/2025 10:53

There was a thread about Lilly Allen’s abortion interview in the feminism section of MN last night. It’s still going and no one was remotely pissed off about the OP starting the thread. AIBU is wild. What’s the problem.

OP, there are some twats on this thread. A great topic for discussion, whatever side of the fence you sit in the subject, and some interesting responses. Take a look at the other thread and maybe contribute your thoughts there.

Edited

Calling people twats doesn't make your view any more valid than those you disagree with.
Again, how are LA's abortions affecting you?

AmusedTaupePlayer · 03/07/2025 10:56

How does she not suffer from side effects?

Dodeedoo · 03/07/2025 10:56

Itsagreatdaytosavelives · 03/07/2025 08:12

why read the daily mail for your news?

you do you

not my business

Yet here you are judging someone for reading the daily mail. Whether the op reads the daily mail or not is also not your business. Do as you say, you do you.

MyUmberSeal · 03/07/2025 10:53

There was a thread about Lilly Allen’s abortion interview in the feminism section of MN last night. It’s still going and no one was remotely pissed off about the OP starting the thread. AIBU is wild. What’s the problem.

OP, there are some twats on this thread. A great topic for discussion, whatever side of the fence you sit in the subject, and some interesting responses. Take a look at the other thread and maybe contribute your thoughts there.

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 10:50

PalePinkPeony · 03/07/2025 10:49

If you live your life away from society then you haven’t got a clue what is BS or not. If you live a life that involves others daily as the vast majority of us do, then how society acts / policies put in place /how people in power or of influence who are given public air time act, affects us all.

How do LAs abortions affect you exactly? Specifically, not just a vague 'everything affects everything'.

nomas · 03/07/2025 10:50

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 03/07/2025 10:44

Direct quote from article talking about her interview:
"Lily Allen says she "can't remember" how many abortions she's had.
On an episode of her podcast "Miss Me?", the British singer, 40, shared that she used to "get pregnant all the time" and noted that she's had several abortions.
Abortions, I've had a few. But then again, I can't remember exactly how many...I think maybe like, I want to say four or five," Allen said as her co-host Miquita Oliver added that she's also had "about five."
As she recalled one of her experiences, Allen said, "I remember once getting pregnant and the man paying for my abortion, and me thinking it was so romantic."

So, she doesn't REALLY remember how many she had, but she got pregnant "all the time". Sounds like her birth control method was "get an abortion". Sure, her choice, but I can sure judge her on it and find her despicable. She sounds like she is many french fries short a Happy Meal. So surprising.

The key words there are ‘around 4 or 5’.

My point was that OP made it sound like Lily had had dozens or something when she said she should have considered things after the ‘first few times’.

I’ve not had an abortion so can’t comment on what’s too many.

Morgenrot25 · 03/07/2025 10:49

Emerald95 · 03/07/2025 10:46

Ultimately, I would rather any woman have 10 abortions than 10 children she isn't prepared to parent.
To me, that is all there is to it.

Exactly.
Nobody should judge her actions which don't actually affect them one bit.

KateMiskin · 03/07/2025 10:49

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Just to clarify: no. I am not in favour of euthanising old people.

But I don't believe embryos or foetuses are people- that should be clear by now- and the law backs me. I am also absolutely in favour of the recent decriminalising of abortion.

PalePinkPeony · 03/07/2025 10:49

Profpudding · 03/07/2025 10:45

I’m not one of the nosy parkers that you seem to identify with. What a well-rounded happy Group they are enjoy your membership

If you live your life away from society then you haven’t got a clue what is BS or not. If you live a life that involves others daily as the vast majority of us do, then how society acts / policies put in place /how people in power or of influence who are given public air time act, affects us all.