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to believe Rachel Reeves was crying because

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LargeDeviation · 02/07/2025 19:44

  1. she was upset when Lindsay Hoyle told her to keep her answers short

  2. she had an argument with Keir Starmer (possibly about her keeping her job, or about how to handle the inevitable questions about the new £5.5bn per annum black hole) just before PMQs

  3. Keir Starmer refused to say she would keep her job in front of the whole country. If he genuinely wanted her to stay, he would just say 'of course she's going to still be Chancellor' and that would be that.

  4. she is under immense pressure because she knows she will have soon to breach her fiscal rules, she knows she is responsible for many of the decisions that will lead to that, and she knows the how serious the consequences of her failure will be. We have seen recently (even just today) how vicious the bond market can be.

In short, I believe she was crying because of professional pressures (understandable ones, though largely of her own making, and about which I have little sympathy) and not nebulous 'personal' reasons.

If her parent or partner or child or grandparent or pet is ill the natural thing is to just say 'sorry, a close relative is in hospital and my emotions got the better of me'. Everybody would understand. You don't need huge reams of evidence but you need to give the bare bones of an explanation. She is trying to style it out but we can all see through it.

I will apologise if I'm wrong but long experience shows that 'personal reasons' almost always means 'I'm skiving or jobhunting' when a colleague in the workplace uses it to excuse their time off.

I believe it means even less when uttered by a politican.

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MyNameIsX · 02/07/2025 21:06

Maddy70 · 02/07/2025 19:58

She said she has a personal issue. It's non of our business.
Hasn't everyone has a bad day at work from time to time?

FFS.

It’s very much our business - many of us have suffered owing to her incompetence. The personal issue line is horse shit - we all know it.

The sooner she goes, and this abomination of a ‘government’ follow her, the better.

Look at the damage they have caused in 12 months.

Julen7 · 02/07/2025 21:06

justasking111 · 02/07/2025 21:04

Anyone ever noticed that when some MPs reach high office. Their health goes to hell, they age very fast.In this case Reeves, she looks bloated, pale, is it diet, lack of sleep . Whereas others in this case Starmer seem immune so far.

I'd much rather be a back bencher support my constituency, cut and run. Work/life balance.

Run Rachel, resign, check into a spa, have a good summer holiday eat healthily and relax.

I think Starmer has aged too.

OneKeenDeer · 02/07/2025 21:05

If she hadn't had turned up the day after they just managed to quell a rebellion, I'm sure there would have been speculation about why as well?
So realistically she was stuck with a hard choice, as to go and try and save face or not and people speculate anyways.
The misogyny she's facing is horrible,we should be able to have sensible discussions about policies without misogyny. When Kwasi Kwarteng crashed the economy he didn't get anywhere near this amount of anger. I think it's likely it was a personal issue, she's had times when there's been speculation before and put up good performances in the commons as she did yesterday at Treasury questions.

justasking111 · 02/07/2025 21:04

Anyone ever noticed that when some MPs reach high office. Their health goes to hell, they age very fast.In this case Reeves, she looks bloated, pale, is it diet, lack of sleep . Whereas others in this case Starmer seem immune so far.

I'd much rather be a back bencher support my constituency, cut and run. Work/life balance.

Run Rachel, resign, check into a spa, have a good summer holiday eat healthily and relax.

Quirkswork · 02/07/2025 21:03

It was a really hard watch and I don't support Labour. Very horrible position for her to be in with cameras trained on her. It's hard to stop yourself from crying if you really need to so I really felt for her. She's probably extremely tired too.

Hotflushesandchilblains · 02/07/2025 21:03

The government was elected with a mandate. They are trying to carry it out. Whatever you feel about whether it was right or wrong, they are in a horrible situation - not enough money for everything that needs to be done, people ground down by years of services being eroded so that needs are really high, but no one wants to pay more tax when cost of living is so high. Its an impossible situation.

jetlag92 · 02/07/2025 21:02

because there is no way to keep current funding at this level.....

Troubleclef · 02/07/2025 21:01

Extravirginolive · 02/07/2025 20:22

She isn't under any more pressure than any other chancellor before her.

This. I can’t recall seeing any previous chancellors crying.

PandoraSocks · 02/07/2025 20:57

TheNuthatch · 02/07/2025 20:39

How insensitive. Perhaps spare a thought for what the disabled have been through recently before you get the party poppers out?

I am pretty pissed off with the government (but not Labour as a whole).

As the wife and carer of a disabled person we are both still glad the Tories aren't in charge.

The Tories wanted to issue vouchers for disabled people. Tory backbenchers would definitely not have fought tooth and nail to water down proposals. They'd have cheered everything through.

WooleyMunky · 02/07/2025 20:56

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Tartantotty · 02/07/2025 20:50

There have been a couple when I've been near to tears in front of colleagues, but managed to escape to the loo before seen. To be viewed crying by millions must be devastating for her. I have sympathy even though I believe she's not up to the job.

The wooden man - Starmer - should be in the dock. I think he will/should go before she does.

JSMill · 02/07/2025 20:43

244milesnorth · 02/07/2025 20:05

i don’t like the woman’s policies but she looked absolutely broken today I almost didn’t recognise her

she has been made a scapegoat for this crap labour government and don’t get me started on the misogynistic and insulating “Rachel from accounts” comments which sought to pull her down the minute she got into office

I don’t think Rachel from accounts is misogynistic but I totally believe she has been made a scapegoat for the problems the government is having. Starmer, I believe, knows f&@k all about economics or finance and was relying on RR. Unfortunately things aren’t going to plan, so he has turned on her. Allegedly there was a argument between them before PMQs.

mumda · 02/07/2025 20:43

I've got fairly mixed thoughts on this.

Politicians need to be strong. They have to make the hardest decisions and put the country above their own personal feelings and emotions.

Someone should have offered her support to not be on camera. Worst optics for labour as a party that they let her sit there like that. If she was emotional in an uncontrollable then she should have stayed away.

It's not just Mumsnet that will be talking but the entire political world..

Ultimately she's chancellor and has to do the job or walk.

TheNuthatch · 02/07/2025 20:39

placemats · 02/07/2025 20:35

It's Independence Day this Friday. Long live the Labour party 🥳 🎉. One year on and loads to celebrate.

How insensitive. Perhaps spare a thought for what the disabled have been through recently before you get the party poppers out?

Extravirginolive · 02/07/2025 20:37

She did a lot of boasting in the beginning about how good she was going to be, she set herself up to make a fool of herself and this is her doing exactly that.

A load of boasting and crying, and crap in between and it's a barely a year, seriously cringe.

The jokes about a woman chancellor just write themselves now.

placemats · 02/07/2025 20:35

It's Independence Day this Friday. Long live the Labour party 🥳 🎉. One year on and loads to celebrate.

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 02/07/2025 20:34

It’s really depressing how much politicians and ministers get hounded and attacked. Imagine if we lived in a world where people were able to debate policy without descending into these personal attacks. I think a lot of misogyny is at play here.

smallglassbottle · 02/07/2025 20:33

All the politicians seem inadequate and lightweight now. Don't know who on earth might replace her. All of them are out of their depth at a time when it's crucial we start to address the serious issues going on in the country.

And anyone shouting "Reform!" is in for a shock. They're either resigning or messing things up in their local government posts. Hopeless. It'll be the equivalent of Year 12s running the place.

RRs should never have been given the job. Holding an economics degree gives you no more ability to run the economy than a human biology degree means you can work as a physician or surgeon. If this is the calibre of people we have now, then the country is fkd and we'd better prepare for collapse into barbarism.

TwoFeralKids · 02/07/2025 20:33

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 02/07/2025 20:30

This, absolutely.

She's been in an impossible position from the start, as has Starmer tbf. The whole thing is a shit show, but at least this is a government trying to govern, rather than a Boris wank-fest, a Truss spinning eyed loon show, or Rishi Make Me Richer and Shove Me In A Helicopter again mayhem.

More grown up.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 02/07/2025 20:30

Muffsies · 02/07/2025 20:08

I don't care why she was crying. She got emotional, like normal human beings do.

She wasn't lying to us (boris), she wasn't sleeping (mogg), she wasn't looking at porn (parish), she didn't have a temper tantrum (multiple).

There are way more concerning things for me to worry about right now. Why is this on AIBU??

This, absolutely.

She's been in an impossible position from the start, as has Starmer tbf. The whole thing is a shit show, but at least this is a government trying to govern, rather than a Boris wank-fest, a Truss spinning eyed loon show, or Rishi Make Me Richer and Shove Me In A Helicopter again mayhem.

FightingFish · 02/07/2025 20:30

I see she is the same age as me, I’ve cried at work before (although admittedly in the toilets) due to the following:

Teenager misbehaving, playing truant and trying to cope with the stress.

Having hormonal issues.

Horrible, bullying behaviour by a male colleague.

Maybe it is a reason like this!! It makes politicians more relatable.

placemats · 02/07/2025 20:29

Alert to lots of men on this thread (and they're not even hiding it)

placemats · 02/07/2025 20:28

It's a personal reaction that the leader of the opposition Badenoch made political and as Leader of the Opposition, she should apologise. But Badenoch won't.

ImpiusAmabilia · 02/07/2025 20:26

Maddy70 · 02/07/2025 19:58

She said she has a personal issue. It's non of our business.
Hasn't everyone has a bad day at work from time to time?

Exactly this.

Personal = none of your business

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