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To ask what jobs people secretly (or not so secretly) look down on and why?

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ForBreezySloth · 02/07/2025 19:27

We’re always told “all work is valuable” and I do agree in principle, but if we’re honest, most of us have a job or two we side-eye, even if we don’t say it out loud. Is it how people behave in the role? The pay vs attitude? The ethics of the job itself?

AIBU to think it’s okay to admit we have judgements - as long as we’re willing to examine them?

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19ptrialprice · 03/07/2025 00:12

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Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:10

blueshoes · 03/07/2025 00:05

Sez moi. I thought that was obvious.

I dislike people who make rhetorical statements to sound intelligent.

Nothing was rethorical, trust me. What you think is perplexing has no effect on someone else or their views. Drop it like is hot...

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:08

SquishedMallow · 03/07/2025 00:07

Luckily I've already moved on to engaging in proper discussion with other posters 😃

Luckily :)

19ptrialprice · 03/07/2025 00:07

SquishedMallow · 02/07/2025 23:46

No. But I think we have to be careful about using race as a negative descriptor. There's no need for "white" to enter the equation. As I say, most of the richest men aren't actually white. If race (whether it be : black, Asian, white) is used as a slur, none are acceptable. It should be a level playing field. But I'll park it there.

White men have never in the entirety of history been oppressed by a POC. White men have been oppressed by other white men.

SquishedMallow · 03/07/2025 00:07

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:02

Perplexing?! Says who? And...
so what if they are? I dislike when people come with vague descriptions to look intelligent.

Luckily I've already moved on to engaging in proper discussion with other posters 😃

blueshoes · 03/07/2025 00:05

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:02

Perplexing?! Says who? And...
so what if they are? I dislike when people come with vague descriptions to look intelligent.

Sez moi. I thought that was obvious.

I dislike people who make rhetorical statements to sound intelligent.

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:02

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Perplexing?! Says who? And...
so what if they are? I dislike when people come with vague descriptions to look intelligent.

Mustreadabook · 03/07/2025 00:02

Berryslacks · 02/07/2025 20:04

Funnily enough I was thinking about this today. Many of the most important jobs in society caring, cleaning, emptying bins and cleaning the streets, working in a sewerage works or a rubbish tip are looked down on by some people. It would be great if everyone had to do one of these types of jobs for a period of six months. A sort of conscription type system.Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes and all that. I cleaned and did care and bar work before going into teaching. My DH worked labouring in heavy industry for a year before going to University and then into banking. With regards to influencers they do irritate me probably because I don’t really understand them 😂. However on the news today there are 45,000 people employed directly and indirectly in that sort of thing? Better than no job.

I think your statement abput ‘everyone should have to do it for six months’ explains it all. Everyone could or thinks they could do the job, so they feel the people are replaceable. Not important.

SquishedMallow · 03/07/2025 00:02

WunTooThree · 02/07/2025 23:49

That is sad, and I am sorry some people look down on you.
As I see it, pubs (even Spoons) can be a community hub for people.
I have spent hours in a Spoons just drinking tea and doodling. Got me out and it helped my mental health. Staff have always been nice.

People working in wether spoons do far more than pull pints. I've seen kindness, compassion, mental health awareness and assistance, first aid being administered. Because of the cheaper prices, long opening hours and welcoming atmosphere, alcohol dependent and vulnerable people are key features of most people's local wether spoons. Staff have to know how to deal effectively with these vulnerable (and let's face it, sometimes dangerous ) individuals and seem to do it very well indeed

Where I once worked,a patient was in on detox with alcohol induced dementia. He'd been a local at wetherpoons for decades. The staff bought him a card and used to visit. One bar lady bought him in toiletries and snacks and the bar manager was his point of contact. They were far less judgemental than some of the trained professionals.

Respect: you handle some of the most vulnerable and challenging in society (and very well) from what I've seen. That takes skill and compassion.

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Wehavenotlongtolove · 03/07/2025 00:00

I respect people who work. More than people who could be working but choose not to.

blueshoes · 02/07/2025 23:59

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InterestedBeing · 02/07/2025 23:58

Contact creators. Tell me you don't have a job without telling me you don't have a job.

MLMs

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WunTooThree · 02/07/2025 23:57

Missanimosity · 02/07/2025 23:54

Of course, that too! I was thinking more along the lines of comparing with a caring job for example.

Footballers attract money. Carers do not.

SquishedMallow · 02/07/2025 23:55

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You don't have to like my views. But I'm still allowed them. You can judge me all you like. You're also allowed to do that. But once someone has given their opinion, you have disagreed and I accept you disagree (hence my lack of response to your last post ) that's generally where you 'leave it'.

Missanimosity · 02/07/2025 23:54

WunTooThree · 02/07/2025 23:51

Football is also entertainment. Like actors really. They earn lots because they are super talented at what they do. People pay to see them,

Of course, that too! I was thinking more along the lines of comparing with a caring job for example.

blueshoes · 02/07/2025 23:52

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DodoTired · 02/07/2025 23:51

Thermomix and other MLM schemes

WunTooThree · 02/07/2025 23:51

Missanimosity · 02/07/2025 23:49

Well if you think about is effort in versus reward. Footballers require an enormous amount of skill and talent and train intensively all their career. Also they peak in their 20s then they go down, their career is very short. Nurse, with few years in school anybody can do, football very few make it to.play for good money, and out of those who make it even less stay on. Any injury can be catastrophic and the risk of injury is so high. I, for one, admire immensely all athlets that compete on national level.

Football is also entertainment. Like actors really. They earn lots because they are super talented at what they do. People pay to see them,

blueshoes · 02/07/2025 23:50

TempestTost · 02/07/2025 23:47

How many people have been hired to manage DEI stuff for private companies?

Lots. You may not agree with DEI initiatives but they are real and add value to organisational culture and groups of people.

Missanimosity · 02/07/2025 23:49

Arlanymor · 02/07/2025 19:44

Yes this is me - footballers for example versus the people who care for us, keep us alive and safe.

Well if you think about is effort in versus reward. Footballers require an enormous amount of skill and talent and train intensively all their career. Also they peak in their 20s then they go down, their career is very short. Nurse, with few years in school anybody can do, football very few make it to.play for good money, and out of those who make it even less stay on. Any injury can be catastrophic and the risk of injury is so high. I, for one, admire immensely all athlets that compete on national level.

WunTooThree · 02/07/2025 23:49

RightOnTheEdge · 02/07/2025 23:46

I work in a Wetherspoons and a lot of posters on MN look down on my job.

I've seen some vile posts on here about Spoons staff before, some that made me feel like shit.

That is sad, and I am sorry some people look down on you.
As I see it, pubs (even Spoons) can be a community hub for people.
I have spent hours in a Spoons just drinking tea and doodling. Got me out and it helped my mental health. Staff have always been nice.

Masmavi · 02/07/2025 23:49

After my recent experience with several, estate agents.