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To ask what jobs people secretly (or not so secretly) look down on and why?

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ForBreezySloth · 02/07/2025 19:27

We’re always told “all work is valuable” and I do agree in principle, but if we’re honest, most of us have a job or two we side-eye, even if we don’t say it out loud. Is it how people behave in the role? The pay vs attitude? The ethics of the job itself?

AIBU to think it’s okay to admit we have judgements - as long as we’re willing to examine them?

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Boiledtodeath · 03/07/2025 00:28

Debt collectors and parking wardens. I get it someone’s go to do these jobs or it would be mayhem but you do have to wonder why someone would choose such a job.

HonkyDonkey · 03/07/2025 00:27

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blueshoes · 03/07/2025 00:20

It is not necessary to create revenue to be of value. Whilst one can question the motives of companies who have DEI initiatives, it does not mean it does not help to create a more inclusive environment for people who have less of a voice.

I am not as cynical as you.

You asked why companies would manufacture jobs that do not create clear value for the company. You even included regulation.

DEI is an example of how that happens. It does not actually matter if no direct value is created because there has been an expectation of some kind of intangible and often difficult to measure value either generated from within due to cultural ideas, or imposed from without.

It's no accident that these kinds of roles (not just DEI stuff, but also things like safety, for example, or more and more indeirect roles in public organisations, certain types of workplace consultants) have multiplied exponentially over the years as university grads in humanities and social sciences have proliferated.

RosesAndHellebores · 03/07/2025 00:25

I respect anyone who does an honest days work. However, I look down on anyone who pierces the ears of babies and children for a living.

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:24

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:22

Disgusting, did you tell where to shove his bible?

Although is not the profession, is the human who said that. They are everywhere.

Multiplenames3 · 03/07/2025 00:23

ScrewedByFunding · 02/07/2025 21:18

I was semi expecting this (I'm a childminder) but then was pleasantly surprised when it didn't crop up in the first dew dozen posts.

Then I got to your post and realised, yep! There it is. Cheers!

I spend my day caring and cleaning and cuddling and teaching little ones so their mums and dads can go to work and realise people look down on me for that is charming.

And no I dont believe you yourself dont think it, it's always easy to say 'of course I dont think this, other people do though.'

Of all the things I have ever paid someone to do for me, this is the most important thing ever. Looking after my child and helping them develop. So I think people who work in childcare are amazing - all the people I've met at my daughter's nursery have been.

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:22

LancashireButterPie · 03/07/2025 00:21

Pastor in an evangelical Church. After one offered to pray for me, because my child is Gay 🤬

Disgusting, did you tell where to shove his bible?

LancashireButterPie · 03/07/2025 00:21

Pastor in an evangelical Church. After one offered to pray for me, because my child is Gay 🤬

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:21

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Nope, you are! Nevermind!

TempestTost · 03/07/2025 00:21

19ptrialprice · 03/07/2025 00:07

White men have never in the entirety of history been oppressed by a POC. White men have been oppressed by other white men.

Um, .... what?

Have you never read any history?

Burntt · 03/07/2025 00:20

career landlords. I know someone who makes money off people in HMOs, the conditions of the houses are bare minimum to be legal. Always seeking ways to “maximise profit” while “reducing costs”. The tenants who pay insane rents suffer. And because all HMO landlords are seeking profit there is no other options. while he gets a nice big house in a nice area and always extending or doing part of it up. Using his work contractors cheep (I suspect free as put through the books). Flexible hours and minimal effort. He thinks he’s the dogs bollocks and his worth is tied to his money. Looks down on the people who are HMO tenants.

my sons carer lives in an HMO. He works so insanely hard on minimum wage in a very challenging and emotional job. His help has saved my sanity and my family from imploding. When younger I would have looked down on carers as I was raised to see such jobs as easy and jobs for the uneducated. I’m educated and caring for my son alone almost broke me. Carers are fucking saints

TesChique · 03/07/2025 00:20

OP

Check the 20 threads a day that pop up on Bonnie Blue.

Theres your answer.

KrystalKrystal · 03/07/2025 00:20

Bus drivers. I used to be a physiotherapist but after a car accident I could no longer return to a physically demanding job. I love driving and became a bus driver five years ago. The shock I've received from many people, as if I've "lowered" myself. Especially my ex-MIL who burst into laughter and kept saying "a bus driver, really, I can't imagine you as one" yet both of her sons have been bus drivers for many years! Anyway I really love my job, earn a good salary and met my current partner there.

Bus drivers are essential to society, as we keep the public transport system running. Wish I could drive HGV but I can't load and unload the heavy items 😂

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:20

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Jeez, talking aboug leaps. Why did you put intellient in inverted commas? That was not my intention, people are allowed opinions and if they don't allign with yours, agree to disagree, respect the difference and drop it. No subtle meaning, no rethorical statements, no emotional "intelligence" answer. Exactly what it says. Carry on with your sighing though! Bloody hell, internet makes people show them true selves.

blueshoes · 03/07/2025 00:20

TempestTost · 03/07/2025 00:17

They don't create revenue. They are hired either because people think they do something worthwhile, or more often, because companies get other kinds of financial benefits through meeting targets set by outside groups, or sometimes in order to present a certain image to the public.

It is not necessary to create revenue to be of value. Whilst one can question the motives of companies who have DEI initiatives, it does not mean it does not help to create a more inclusive environment for people who have less of a voice.

I am not as cynical as you.

19ptrialprice · 03/07/2025 00:19

Missanimosity · 03/07/2025 00:10

Nothing was rethorical, trust me. What you think is perplexing has no effect on someone else or their views. Drop it like is hot...

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Drop it like is hot? What does that mean?

SquishedMallow · 03/07/2025 00:17

LancashireButterPie · 03/07/2025 00:15

My ex boyfriend was a junior Dr who worked in his brother's taxi firm in the evening to help it get off the ground. He said the difference in the way people treated him depending on which role he was doing, was a total education.

I can imagine this. I think there was a TV show once where there was a role swap and the conclusions support what you are saying in your example (I can't for the life of me remember the name of it though) sad really isn't it ? How some people are seen as "lesser" due to perceived lack of "importance"

TempestTost · 03/07/2025 00:17

blueshoes · 02/07/2025 23:50

Lots. You may not agree with DEI initiatives but they are real and add value to organisational culture and groups of people.

They don't create revenue. They are hired either because people think they do something worthwhile, or more often, because companies get other kinds of financial benefits through meeting targets set by outside groups, or sometimes in order to present a certain image to the public.

blueshoes · 03/07/2025 00:15

CampanulaMila · 03/07/2025 00:13

I would very harshly judge anyone I met who worked for the arms trade.

This is an interesting one. The arms trade is the defence industry by another name. You don't agree with defence?

LancashireButterPie · 03/07/2025 00:15

My ex boyfriend was a junior Dr who worked in his brother's taxi firm in the evening to help it get off the ground. He said the difference in the way people treated him depending on which role he was doing, was a total education.

19ptrialprice · 03/07/2025 00:15

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CampanulaMila · 03/07/2025 00:13

I would very harshly judge anyone I met who worked for the arms trade.

stayathomer · 03/07/2025 00:13

Yes this is me - footballers for example versus the people who care for us, keep us alive and safe.

Totally this too, I think nurses and caters and all the people who contribute to a hospital enabling people to be helped should be on amazing salaries

blueshoes · 03/07/2025 00:12

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Dullasfuck · 02/07/2025 19:40

Not look down on as such but I'm mystified why bankers and the like earn so much money when their impact is minimal when other professions which are much worse paid, such as childcare, teachers, cleaners, have a tangible benefit but are paid less.

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Since I moved into a male-dominated profession (85% men in this multinational), I realised that jobs coded female, anything involving nurturing, caring, cleaning etc. are paid like shit and the conditions are awful. It’s actually really simple. I came from one of those caring professions. I’m not saying that banking is still all men but traditionally so and the culture and conditions will have persisted to some extent.