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Rachel Reeves crying in the House of Commons

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IdaGlossop · 02/07/2025 17:50

AIBU to think it's possible to feel sympathy for Rachel Reeves for being visibly upset at Prime Minister's Question Time today, even if you revile Labour and its policies?

Lots of misogyny on Twitter - the UK is a laughing stock because of the behaviour of menopausal women in the Commons (including an example of Stella Creasy with her baby in a sling asleep and another of Angela Rayner flashing); women can't hack it etc etc.

I can only imagine it must feel dreadful to know the world has watched you in distress and that the financial markets have reacted because of fears of government instability. The phrase 'bring your whole self to work' is a piece of HR speak I can't abide but what we saw today was Rachel Reeves doing just that. Despite my sympathy for her, it would have been better all round for the upset part of her to have stayed in her Downing Street flat.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 03/07/2025 10:53

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 10:48

Caught lying at work about work, no.

Think of all the working people you have encountered in your life. How many have cried in front you when you were their client?
I don’t mean crying with a colleague but in a client facing role.
How many may have had affairs, questionable morals (I don’t mean illegal or unethical practices) - you would have no idea because it is not relevant.

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Actually I’ve had both teachers and medical staff shed a tear in my presence occasionally, and a lawyer, and a social worker. All appropriate and actually quite touching given the reasons for their emotions.

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 10:51

Jellycatspyjamas · 03/07/2025 10:50

Well in fairness he was also caught lying at work, to the queen no less. If only he’d shed a tear in the Commons…

I have never said that was acceptable.

Jellycatspyjamas · 03/07/2025 10:50

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 10:48

Caught lying at work about work, no.

Think of all the working people you have encountered in your life. How many have cried in front you when you were their client?
I don’t mean crying with a colleague but in a client facing role.
How many may have had affairs, questionable morals (I don’t mean illegal or unethical practices) - you would have no idea because it is not relevant.

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Well in fairness he was also caught lying at work, to the queen no less. If only he’d shed a tear in the Commons…

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 10:48

KeepTalkingBeth · 03/07/2025 10:41

So did i get thet right.... ?

Showing emotion at work = no no no

Consistent cheating and dishonesty in every relationship in your personal life, been caught lying several times at work = nothing to see here, crack on with the top job Boris

Caught lying at work about work, no.

Think of all the working people you have encountered in your life. How many have cried in front you when you were their client?
I don’t mean crying with a colleague but in a client facing role.
How many may have had affairs, questionable morals (I don’t mean illegal or unethical practices) - you would have no idea because it is not relevant.

KeepTalkingBeth · 03/07/2025 10:41

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 10:24

Unfortunately, crying publicly at work impacts your work - staff cannot cry in front of patients, clients, customers. And in this case it impacted the markets, as she is the treasurer for this country.

Sleeping around and having multiple children with multiple women does not whether you are doctor, solicitor, teacher, waiter, pilot, politician etc, (provided you get enough sleep between all the shagging, of course)

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So did i get thet right.... ?

Showing emotion at work = no no no

Consistent cheating and dishonesty in every relationship in your personal life, been caught lying several times at work = nothing to see here, crack on with the top job Boris

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 10:37

Jellycatspyjamas · 03/07/2025 10:31

So a woman showing human emotion at work utterly undermines her professional reputation but a man showing a complete lack of integrity and responsibility doesn’t.

Sure if you want to think of it that way 🙄.
Comments like this are a backwards step for feminism.

It wouldn’t matter if a woman was shagging around either. Or a male politician crying in the Commons. Or male or female politician swearing and ranting - whatever way they display their behaviour due to personal issues.

nahthatsnotforme · 03/07/2025 10:34

Jellycatspyjamas · 03/07/2025 10:31

So a woman showing human emotion at work utterly undermines her professional reputation but a man showing a complete lack of integrity and responsibility doesn’t.

Reeves let herself down in the workplace… in the HoC where she was in full view of the worlds press as our Chancellor.

Not the same as shagging around in your time off.

Jellycatspyjamas · 03/07/2025 10:31

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 10:24

Unfortunately, crying publicly at work impacts your work - staff cannot cry in front of patients, clients, customers. And in this case it impacted the markets, as she is the treasurer for this country.

Sleeping around and having multiple children with multiple women does not whether you are doctor, solicitor, teacher, waiter, pilot, politician etc, (provided you get enough sleep between all the shagging, of course)

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So a woman showing human emotion at work utterly undermines her professional reputation but a man showing a complete lack of integrity and responsibility doesn’t.

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 10:24

ThursdayLastWeek · 03/07/2025 09:54

This is how I feel about it too

Unfortunately, crying publicly at work impacts your work - staff cannot cry in front of patients, clients, customers. And in this case it impacted the markets, as she is the treasurer for this country.

Sleeping around and having multiple children with multiple women does not whether you are doctor, solicitor, teacher, waiter, pilot, politician etc, (provided you get enough sleep between all the shagging, of course)

beguilingeyes · 03/07/2025 10:07

RefreshingMist · 02/07/2025 18:01

I don't get how she faces such condemnation for being a human yet people like Boris can sleep around with impunity.

Boris has a posh voice and a penis. It's an untouchable combination.

nahthatsnotforme · 03/07/2025 10:04

CruCru · 03/07/2025 08:29

The HoC is a bear pit - often a very unpleasant one. It would have been peculiar for Badenoch not to bring it up - she is there to oppose the government.

It isn’t as though crying in the HoC is something that had no consequences.

As much as I have no sympathy for Reeves I agree Badenoch was out of order. She’s there to challenge their politics, not make personal remarks.

They all behave like children in the HoC. No professionalism or personal integrity. They make me cringe.

ThursdayLastWeek · 03/07/2025 09:54

RefreshingMist · 02/07/2025 18:01

I don't get how she faces such condemnation for being a human yet people like Boris can sleep around with impunity.

This is how I feel about it too

TheignT · 03/07/2025 09:48

edwinbear · 02/07/2025 22:12

The only ‘personal’ issue she has, is that it’s suddenly dawned on her, that having a degree in economics and having worked as a Junior Analyst on the Japanese desk for a couple of years does not qualify you for being Chancellor. I can’t work out if it was arrogance or naivety that led her to believe she could do the job. Being Chancellor isn’t a role where you can ‘fake it, until you make it’.

She made such a huge fuss of her sheer brilliance, how she’s pioneering women and in just a year, has completely humiliated herself - she’s a proud woman and she knows the history books won’t be kind to her. That’s what she’s crying about.

How do you know what personal issues she has?

TheignT · 03/07/2025 09:47

Sidebeforeself · 02/07/2025 19:40

Remember when he cried when the first Covid jab was given? Nobody believed him.

Was that when it was hard to tell if he was crying or trying to hide that he was laughing?

CruCru · 03/07/2025 08:29

Lavendersong · 02/07/2025 20:18

I think Kemi is an absolute bitch for highlighting Rachel’s distress in front of everyone

The HoC is a bear pit - often a very unpleasant one. It would have been peculiar for Badenoch not to bring it up - she is there to oppose the government.

It isn’t as though crying in the HoC is something that had no consequences.

CruCru · 03/07/2025 08:23

The thing is, everyone knew Boris was a shit. He threw a bunch of people under the bus when it suited him.

Starmer is just as bad, only for some reason
people didn’t expect it.

pestowithwalnuts · 03/07/2025 08:11

I don't feel sorry for her.
And I don't buy this ' it's a personal issue ' either
If it's a family problem then she should have stayed out of the commens

ButterCrackers · 03/07/2025 07:37

She should get on with her job without her private problems getting in the way. If she can’t separate private and professional life then she should step down or take leave from her post. Imagine if a surgeon was blubbering, or a train driver etc If she’s not fit for work then she should get a doctor’s note and have time off.

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 06:59

To add, I am not convinced her upset is related to politics - it’s such a tough game and they berate and shut each other down constantly. Any perceived weakness is exploited, so I find it hard to imagine she is crying about this u-turn or that her answers were too long.

If it is personal, then I do feel sorry for her but I still think of the personal stories I have read and heard about people crying with worry about their loss of WFA and PIP and the sympathy wanes a little.

Coolasfeck · 03/07/2025 06:53

ContactNightmare · 02/07/2025 21:58

I don’t rate Reeves but she was elected. Lying about her qualifications doesn’t seem to be issue, the issue is competence at political games, which she is bad at. Being Chancellor is a lot more than being an economist, after all many Chancellors aren’t the faintest bit qualified. The issue is she took on the job and did not realise that she couldn’t just come in and do whatever she felt was appropriate, but she had to sell it to her own party to survive. She did not seem to get that from the start.

Well now she knows why you don’t need to be an economist. You need other skills, which she doesn’t have.

Neither Reeves, Starmer, Kendal or their advisors have the required skills to successfully carry out their roles.

As you said getting all ‘A’ at Oxford in Economics isn’t necessary in their roles. They need strong leadership skills which none of them have.

They need a strategy and vision, and to be able to clearly communicate a narrative aligned to their vision. They just do ‘random stuff’. None of it seems to be for any overriding purpose so their own backbenchers and wider country are confused as to why they’ve chosen a particular action.

Who is setting strategy? Who is in charge of communications? Who is advising?

allamberedover · 03/07/2025 06:37

She didn't cry throughout. She looked as though she had been crying and she looked as though she was desperately trying not to cry.
I think it's possible to see one tear.
She didn't sit there blubbing.
I presume she was very upset and had to decide whether she should not appear or whether she could hold it together.
It's ridiculous to compare it to a work situation where you could just excuse yourself and leave the room.

TheignT · 03/07/2025 06:15

ddbb · 02/07/2025 19:44

You can have your perfectly valid opinion, but she is representing us on the world stage. She’s not in some random workplace. She’s our fucking chancellor. Macron got smashed in the face by his own wife and carried on like nothing had happened.

I think that's more disturbing.

noworklifebalance · 03/07/2025 06:08

Jellycatspyjamas · 02/07/2025 23:17

Any reduction in state support is going to be hard, no matter what group are involved. No one wants to lose something they perceive to get for nothing be that child benefit, WFA, disability benefits, UC, inheritance tax relief. Everyone wants something for nothing and there’s a host of imaginary people lining up to pay for it. Except there isn’t. Everyone believes their particular circumstances mean they are most vulnerable in any situation where costs need to be cut.

So really, unless you can’t tell me where you would make reductions in the welfare budget, which is over 23% of government spending, I’m not going to worry too much. The reality is everyone thinks they are most in need, everyone has reasons why their piece of the pie should remain intact, and everyone has someone else that should pay for it. No one has any concrete ideas about how we stop 50% of the population being reliant on the state.

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Classic MN reading comprehension.
I did not say it didn’t to be done in some way. I said she and her colleagues lacked complete empathy in the way they did it.
I don’t need to tell you where I would make reductions because that’s not my job.
However, they have since managed to find a way of reducing spend on WFA without affecting those just above the pension credit level.

This has been done with a complete lack of empathy or forethought. Silly sound bites such as not taxing working people and then raising employer contribution NI - are people who run business not working people? And how could they possibly think it could not affect working people?
The spiteful rhetoric around private schools and their gilded paper, as if the pupils are not real children and their parents are not working tax payers.

They have been smug and unempathetic throughout.
Unfortunately, RR has come across as unprofessional- if it is a personal she should have excused herself from the commons. You don’t sit at a work meeting crying throughout.

TesChique · 03/07/2025 00:16

LaurieFairyCake · 02/07/2025 19:15

I’m happy she cried. And I think anyone saying she can’t hack it because she cried and ought to have covered up emotion is validating misogyny.

Crying does not mean you can’t make rational decisions.

Crying simply means your emotions are showing.

We need to change the narrative, not just pretend to be more repressed.

Fuck that shit 💩

This is all lovely but life, especially in a high stakes role like the one she does, simply doesnt work that way.

High office demands a thick skin and nerves of steel, an unshakeable presence that says no matter how catastrophic the backdrop, I will get the job done.

Rachel Reeves is shaken, almost broken, that much was painfully clear and on a human level i empathise deeply - but therefore confidence in her ability to oversee the country's economy, and also the economy itself - is shaken. That is bad.

💫BrInG YoUr AuThEnTiC sElF💫 just
Does. Not. Work. Here.

NaySaidThe · 02/07/2025 23:37

Will she be too late for this years I’m a celeb?