Dance class or documentary- AIBU to be furious?

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Inkyblue123 · 02/07/2025 13:17

last weekend my DD was at her usual dance class in a local church hall. Is a paid for session, not open to the general public and parents usually drop kids off and wait outside or run errands, we do not sit in.
A new mum came along with her child for a trial. Fine. But when I came back 5 mins before the class ended I found her in the hall filming the entire class, not just her child but everyone. No idea how long she had been recording.
I politely said she shouldn’t be filming other people’s kids. She got really aggressive saying “I’m sending it to Granny”. As if I care. She didn’t care how intrusive it was. Or weather anyone else was comfortable.
i found her attitude really entitled and dismissive. While it’s nice share videos , not every moment needs to be recordered or shared. Kids deserve space to play and learn without permanent digital traces. It’s about consent, respect and privacy. AIBU to think she’s massively over stepped or is this the way of the world and I need to get over it?

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Bingbangboo · 02/07/2025 13:23

Was the class leader aware she was filming? Very unusual if they were aware and allowed it to continue, for commercial confidentiality reasons if nothing else.
I think a quick clip centred on their own child to send to granny which incidentally includes other children is fine, but deliberately filming all children, or the entire duration of the class, is not.
Speak to the class teacher.

DeliciouslyBaked · 02/07/2025 13:23

The dance teacher should have dealt with it really but are you sure she was actually filming the other children? We are only allowed to film at the end of term performance and everyone has to sign a consent. Even then, I make sure that I zoom in so that im only filming my child. In future, id raise it with the teacher rather than the parent directly.

Edit to add that - yes, your point about playing without digital traces is well made but my DC's grandparents are 500miles away and filming them is the only chance they might have to see her dance. So just as you don't care about that, the other mum obviously doesnt care about your stance on digital traces.

whynotmereally · 02/07/2025 13:21

Did the teacher know they were filming? Is there a policy regarding this?
I wouldn’t be impressed but I’d assume she was mostly filming her child.

ThinWomansBrain · 02/07/2025 13:21

What did the person that teaches or organises the class say?
They are running a business, they should be aware of the need for safeguarding and GDPR

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