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Why did my PT ghost me? Did I cross a line?

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ThatAmberSquid · 02/07/2025 10:23

So, I started seeing a personal trainer a few months ago. I’d left my job due to bullying and was trying to get my life back on track, starting with getting fit again - I’d put on quite a lot of weight due to stress eating. He is fairly new to personal training but also does a lot of work with wellbeing/mental health in the workplace so I thought that would be a great fit because he’d have an understanding of what I’d been through. The sessions seemed to go well and I thought we were getting on really well. I should say, he is a really attractive guy but I didn’t think of him in that way because I’m about ten years older than him and quite unfit at the moment. The conversations we had did get quite personal - he brought up a date he’d been on and we talked about dating disasters etc. He has also complimented me on my appearance quite a few times but I just took that as being a salesy thing that PT’s do. Anyway, my savings are starting to dwindle a bit and I’ve not had much luck on the job front so I mentioned this in our last session in case I needed to cut down on the amount of time I was seeing him. He said as he’d worked in recruitment to send him my CV and he’d take a look - which I did. Got no acknowledgement back. I then decided that I might need to take a break for a while because of finances so I messaged him and explained, saying hopefully I’d be able to book something in a few weeks. Got no response. I’m quite flabbergasted at how rude and unprofessional this is. If I were trying to build my reputation as a PT I would be really keen to keep my clients. I obviously can’t book a session now as it would be embarrassing and I think I’d also find it embarrassing if I were to bump in to him at the gym (which is likely). It’s also made me wonder what kind of vibes I was giving off and if he thought I was some kind of scary cougar! Don’t know if i am being unreasonable/oversensitive about this but would appreciate any feedback.

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cherrycherrypickin · 02/07/2025 10:54

Your text wasn't a question though so didn't need a reply. Not sure why that means you can't book again.

Zempy · 02/07/2025 10:50

Agree with PP I don’t know why you are reading so much into this. It would barely register for me.

workshy46 · 02/07/2025 10:49

V much doubt he thought you were looking for a freebie ..probably couldn't think of something to say but if you got on well and thought they were good I would have no issues booking again when finances allow. He should have replied though

ThatAmberSquid · 02/07/2025 10:44

No, I think I’m just sick of how rude people seem to be. Case in point here.

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andfinallyhereweare · 02/07/2025 10:38

Total non event… do you often relate others actions to your worth?/shame? He didn’t reply that’s all that’s happened… why you can’t book again is beyond me or be embarrassed when you see him? Just act as all is normal as it is as nothings happened at all

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 02/07/2025 10:25

He may have thought you were looking for a freebie.