Why did my PT ghost me? Did I cross a line?

It sounds like he has boundaries to me and he didn’t want to give OP the opportunity to start a back and forth conversation which is what it sounds like she was trying to do.

He hasn't learnt the niceties of responding to your message with a "happy to have you back when you are ready".

I think he was probably out of his depth with your CV - unless his previous job was in recruitment. That or when it came to it he just couldn’t be bothered to look.

Good luck with the job hunting. Agency work can be a good way to get some broad experience and get your face known in a few workplaces. It might boost your confidence too.

This is stupid and I see it a lot. Do you just stand there blankly or not text back when someone hasn't asked you a question then? Obviously you haven't heard of social etiquette.

It’s his business at the end of the day. He will be focusing his time on people who are trying to book.

I am sorry @ThatAmberSquid that you experienced bullying in your previous workplace. When things like that happen to us we do begin to doubt ourselves. Please don’t feel foolish for posting.I would also have expected a brief reply to the text you sent. So you are not alone in that view. I think he was a bit rude not to reply very briefly. The best of luck in finding a new job soon OP with nice people.

No response to a message and the cv is rude. Just because there is no question doesn’t mean you just ignore. Lack of people skills seems to be running rife. If he doesn’t respond to that message, I’d be unlikely to go back to him tbh.

OP, I’m sure you’re fine! You’ll make it worse thinking too much about it. I completely understand it and it’s common (myself included) but please relax.

Maybe his day job is in recruitment, and he saw your CV, thought he couldn't make a big enough commission so decided you're not longer a good prospect. Also the talk of how you're running out of money and can't use him as much.

He's running a business. Unfortunately the friendly chat etc was just part of his sales pitch. So as soon as you stop throwing money at it he's not interested.

Exactly this. He didn't ignore it. There wasn't anything for him to respond to. He is waiting to hear from you when you are able to afford another session.

Just book a session if you want one.

Its very easy to do that, blur boundaries. Spend a lot of time together, get on well etc. You have to remember even if you get on well and share things when you are paying someone you are not their friend, you can be friendly but it is impossible to be friends with someone you pay..imo

He probably has adhd and forgot to reply. Just re-book if you want

I think you’re probably reading too much into it.
He’s probably got a lot of clients and may have read the message before heading into a meeting and just forgot to acknowledge it. Yes it’s a bit slack/rude but I wouldn’t worry about it and if you want to book in future just go ahead and do it.

He might be embarrassed re CV. He might not been able to help as he promised.

Definitely address the workplace bullying trauma. And when your financial circumstances permit, go back to your PT if working out with him was genuinely doing you good, but remembering that you're a client paying for his services rather than a friend to confide in. In your vulnerable state, that's a boundary worth maintaining at the moment.

Sorry you’re feeling a bit raw OP. Hopefully these responses have helped you see you’re ok. It takes longer than you think to get over bumps in the road, take it one step at a time and try not to veer off course.

He’s been a bit hopeless here, not responding in a professional manner. But I agree with PPs that he hasn’t ghosted you, he’s simply refocused to current clients.

Some of the responses here have been unnecessarily harsh OP! You’ve done nothing wrong at all, you haven’t crossed any lines whatsoever, it was a professional relationship and if anything his compliments and dating chat were a bit inappropriate.

Exactly.

I think he was crossing the line asking you to send your CV. I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that unless I was confident about exactly what he was going to do with it and who he was forwarding it to.

Have I got this timeline correct?

You mentioned during your last session you might need to cut/stop sessions. PT suggests he could look at your cv,

you send cv

very shortly after, you email to say you can't afford sessions?

If that's correct I can see why he hasn't replied to your cv email. He wasn't helping with your cv out of the goodness of his heart, he was hoping that finding you work would keep you being able to afford his sessions. As you've now told him you can't afford them he's not going to help a non client find work.

I think the unprofessional red flags were wafting around long before the text in question. He seemed very overfamilar in his comments and conversation. I think this makes his behaviour seem incongruent because of the change of vibe. The lack of response is a bit rude but it might be the case that he thinks you are ghosting him with vague talks about booking sessions, in the future, and therefore investing energy in paying clients, in the here and now.

I'd have expected a reply, just an acknowledgement.

Agree it’s a trauma response but op needs to realise that.

You’ve told yourself a huge convoluted story about why he’s not replied rather than him just being flaky. You’ve also overexplained it in your post which is often a trauma response, if I explain in minute detail I’ll not get in trouble.

you are tying yourself in knots/overthinking it. Which does seem to point to a lack of self worth and getting validation externally. Terribly common of course but a chance to recognise and “do the work”.