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Neighbours dog woke me up - got told it's my fault for having my windows open??

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Sophiehoney · 02/07/2025 09:13

My neighbours are a retired couple with a very barky dog.
They walk it around our street several times a day, the last walk is around midnight, presumably before they go to bed.
It's very barky and barks all the time on walks, at what? God knows. But I hear it most nights.

Last night it took me ages to fall asleep due to the heat. At 12:15am, just as I was managing to drift off, right in that comfortable place between sleep and awake, it starts right outside my house - BARK BARK BARK BARK. So fucking loud!

I was hot, tired and really pissed off at being jerked awake and I got out of bed, stormed across the room and slammed the windows shut.

I was so annoyed and so hot that it took me until 2am to fall asleep again, and it was a terible sleep in this heat. I get up at 6am and have a full day of work ahead of me.

At 8:15 this morning, as I was leaving with the kids, neighbour comes out of his house with barky-arse dog, barking as usual and I asked him, as politely as I could if he could please do something about the noise at night because it's disturbing us.

He gave a little chuckle and said "well, keep your windows shut, then you won't have to slam them closed" and started to walk away.

I was gobsmacked for a second but then called after him "I shouldn't have to - it was 31° last night, you need to train your dog!" And he just waved a dismissive hand and walked off.

Did I have a right to complain?!

OP posts:
Lou670 · 02/07/2025 16:16

I hate dog owners that are like this and show absolutely no consideration for anyone else. I have two puppies (almost a year old now) and I go to great lengths to have them not barking in my garden at any hour. If they bark then they are sent back in. At that hour of night then surely it's classed as anti social and not within the hours where noise is acceptable. I would report this as it's no different to a party going on at that time.

WeCouldDoBetter · 02/07/2025 15:52

My neighbours dog did this but at 6am or earlier. I was so glad when she moved.

If they can't keep him quiet then they need to walk him at more sociable hour. It has been very hot so most doggies are going out early and late at the moment but after midnight is ridiculous.

I think your kids need to start playing v loudly in the garden at 7am. That might make him rethink.

mydogisthebest · 02/07/2025 15:47

Sophiehoney · 02/07/2025 14:56

You can walk your dog every minute of every day if you like.

My only issue is the noise you make while doing it

I was replying to the poster who said "Nobody needs to walk their dog at midnight. It's extremely antisocial".

Considerate owners often walk their dogs early morning and late evening when it is hot.

We don't make any noise and neither does our dog

Branleuse · 02/07/2025 15:46

are they leaving it to bark for long periods excessively?

One of our dogs is quite barky in the garden if she hears stuff, which we discourage and bring her in, and another dog likes to bark when she goes on a walk to tell everyone how excited she is. Its a bit stressful, but we are working on it.

Of course you shouldnt have to close your windows at night if you dont want to, but on the other hand, if you sleep with your windows open, youre more likely to hear whatever is going on outside, so if youre not someone who sleeps deeply, you need to decide whether its open windows, or a fan.

MyDeftDuck · 02/07/2025 15:44

Yes you do have a right to complain. Keep a record of when it barks and for how long. That way you can supply the council with as much information as you can……….they’ll normally ask for it anyway and that can delay their response to the issue - hope that makes sense.

We have a similar problem with our neighbours who regularly entertain in their garden right next to our bedroom window - a bungalow so we’re on ground floor. The bloke is ok but his batshit crazy, demented, vile girlfriend is a right cow with the mentality to punch first and asks questions later even when she knows she’s in the wrong! Good thing we are retired though I guess.

TheGrimSmile · 02/07/2025 15:43

The council will not be interested in this. And nor should they. It's a non-issue.

TheGrimSmile · 02/07/2025 15:42

Dogs bark. As long as he's not doing it relentlessly, there's not much you can do about it. I get woken up on weekends by noisy drunks arguing and singing in the street. I sometimes get woken by cats fighting and screeching. It's a pain but noise is part of life, unless you live in the middle of nowhere.

BreatheAndFocus · 02/07/2025 15:21

Sophiehoney · 02/07/2025 09:20

No - retired couple. Pretty sure he naps most of the day because he is always awake around midnight and early in the morning.

Sounds like my ex PILs 🙄 They get up at 6am or earlier and bang around completely unnecessarily, then they do nothing all day, have a nap late afternoon, and go to bed at midnight or after.

That’s your issue - them making a noise so late. There’s no need to walk the dog that late, especially if they get up early, and they should have trained it not to bark like that anyway. I bloody hate people who don’t have to work and then make noise at unsociable hours 😡 Fortunately, there are rules around the times you can make noise, so I’d contact your council stating the time more than the barking.

Sunnygin · 02/07/2025 15:09

chocolatemademefat · 02/07/2025 09:20

Give him time to get settled after his last dog walk of the day then get your music on. Loud. Every night until he shooshes his dog.

Yes loud music outside his bedroom window...or better...record his dog barking...and replay it...
.might need to wear earplugs

Sophiehoney · 02/07/2025 14:56

mydogisthebest · 02/07/2025 14:28

Me and DH walked our dog at 6am and then again at 11.45 on Monday as it was so hot. It was still muggy and humid at that time.

You can walk your dog every minute of every day if you like.

My only issue is the noise you make while doing it

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Canshehavewaferthinham · 02/07/2025 14:52

FortyElephants · 02/07/2025 09:22

Nobody needs to walk their dog at midnight. It's extremely antisocial.

My dog (huge guarding breed) walks me home from friends houses and pubs fairly often, sometimes after midnight-but she doesn't make a peep unless someone alarms her first. I'd say it is the barking that's the issue not the walking of the dog itself.

bluecurtains14 · 02/07/2025 14:46

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 02/07/2025 09:15

Contact the council. Fill in the diary..
They do have powers...

And regret it when you want to sell....

MyQuirkyTraybake · 02/07/2025 14:45

Jojimoji · 02/07/2025 09:19

He sounds like a twat.
I have two dogs and have spent a lot of time, money and effort training them.
I can't stand dickhead dog owners with uneducated dogs.

You have every right to complain, but sounds like he's too thick to do anything about it.

Maybe go and stand shouting outside his window when you get up at 6.00 am.

I think it would be better to do something even easier - chuck laxative laced dog treats in to their garden on the sly whenever you hear the dog barking. They'll keep it inside then...after all, he could just train the dog then he wouldn't have to clean up diarrhoea 🤷🏼‍♀️

Digdongdoo · 02/07/2025 14:41

Itallcomesdowntothis · 02/07/2025 14:36

Slamming a window shut at midnight (presumable making noise when that was the porblem in the first place) instead of having an adult conversation is acting like a child. So yes she did.

So you think OP should have gone outside in the middle of the night, and chased this old man down the road to ask him to shut his dog up? Really?

Boakingvombuster · 02/07/2025 14:39

If you have a dog that barks on walks, taking it for walks at midnight is a real dick move.

He's clearly a selfish twat.

user1498572889 · 02/07/2025 14:39

Its really annoying OP. I live along a main road and it never ceases to amaze me at the thoughtlessness of people in the early hours of the morning slamming doors, shouting, bibbing hooters, having very loud phone conversations and barking dogs.

Itallcomesdowntothis · 02/07/2025 14:36

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 02/07/2025 14:13

No she didn't

Slamming a window shut at midnight (presumable making noise when that was the porblem in the first place) instead of having an adult conversation is acting like a child. So yes she did.

Hollyhobbi · 02/07/2025 14:32

Myrobalanna · 02/07/2025 14:28

Dog barking under window at 12.15 am? JAIL.

Anyone bringing up any noise you or your kids might make is being deliberately obtuse.

Selfish neighbours annoy the fuck out of everybody who lives around them. I have some too. We all compare notes in the street and they’re not really tolerated. One woman is more friendly but even she rolls here eyes at them. Who’d want to be that person?

They don’t give a s##% literally. The same neighbour with the barking all hours dog near us rides an electric scooter. He’s in his 50s and fell off the scooter a while ago and broke his arm and a few ribs but didn’t learn his lesson!

JoyDivision79 · 02/07/2025 14:30

Brefugee · 02/07/2025 09:19

yes, only retired people make noise. Families with small children never make a peep.

This is one of those downsides of living among people. I live in the country. If it's not dogs barking at night, it is tractors at all hours. It is how life works.

Get away with yourself.

OP, it's not ok. Get logging every incident with the dog. They need to find a way to shut it up, especially at that time. It's not ok and they sound like dicks.

I wouldn't play games back. I'd be less polite next time. Not rude but even more assertive.

' This is not acceptable neighbour and you need to do something about it ok'.

You can report to the Council, Council's have dog wardens also.

You'll need a collection of incidents obviously.

ManchesterLu · 02/07/2025 14:28

There's no need for dogs to be barking on walks. It needs to be trained better. I used to dog sit for a couple and one of their dogs was like this. Just barked the whole bloody way. It took me just over a week to un-teach the behaviour. Then when I dog sat again, it was back to square one. That was the last time I did it. Dog owners who don't train their pets properly shouldn't have them. End of.

Myrobalanna · 02/07/2025 14:28

Dog barking under window at 12.15 am? JAIL.

Anyone bringing up any noise you or your kids might make is being deliberately obtuse.

Selfish neighbours annoy the fuck out of everybody who lives around them. I have some too. We all compare notes in the street and they’re not really tolerated. One woman is more friendly but even she rolls here eyes at them. Who’d want to be that person?

mydogisthebest · 02/07/2025 14:28

FortyElephants · 02/07/2025 09:22

Nobody needs to walk their dog at midnight. It's extremely antisocial.

Me and DH walked our dog at 6am and then again at 11.45 on Monday as it was so hot. It was still muggy and humid at that time.

Flossflower · 02/07/2025 14:27

Motomum23 · 02/07/2025 09:24

I'd buy a dog whistle and start blowing it at 2am and 3am and 5am and generally every time they arenot actively interacting with their annoying dog!

🤣

bring back the laughing emoji!

I am not keen on most dog (owners) but a few weeks ago we went for a walk with friends and they bought their dog. It was so well behaved. During a two hour walk followed by a pub lunch the dog did not bark once. It did not go up to other people or dogs while it was walking. When we got to the pub a very aggressive dog made such a fuss and pulled at the lead. Our friend’s dog completely ignored this and just sat itself down under the table.
Why can’t all dog owners train their dogs like this?

dynamiccactus · 02/07/2025 14:25

Redpeach · 02/07/2025 14:15

It's not how life works, we should all be trying to reduce noise for others at anti social hours

Some hope. People seem to think that noise pollution is something to aspire to.

dynamiccactus · 02/07/2025 14:25

chocolatemademefat · 02/07/2025 09:20

Give him time to get settled after his last dog walk of the day then get your music on. Loud. Every night until he shooshes his dog.

Do your children play the recorder? Could you get one of them to sit outside their house at 6am and play?

It's a big shame most areas don't have dog wardens anymore but if your area still has one you can report it to them.