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Caught neighbour feeding my dogs.

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SmellyNelliey · 01/07/2025 21:33

Just that really, ive 2 dogs and recently the neighbours have put a wooden bench near my fence which is making my frenchie bark.( i do bring him in) but today DH has opened the door and neighbour is hanging over my fence feeding my dogs.my frenchie has lots of allergies and is strictly raw fed. Our other dog is 11years old and on senior food.
We dont actually get on with these neighbours and haven't for the 8 years being here!
YANBU - Should I report this ?

YABU - Or am I over reacting?

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Shenmen · 11/07/2025 12:48

Drew79 · 11/07/2025 12:43

Good luck with silencing an animal. Would you like it if you were owned, then banned from communicating verbally?

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Really? I've owned six dogs in my life and trained all of them not to bark. For more than
10.seconds. just takes time and positive training.

Drew79 · 11/07/2025 12:43

Shenmen · 11/07/2025 12:41

I've never understood selfish dog owners who let their dogs yap.

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Good luck with silencing an animal. Would you like it if you were owned, then banned from communicating verbally?

Shenmen · 11/07/2025 12:41

Drew79 · 02/07/2025 14:34

I've never understood the (selfish) human obsession of feeding animals, wild or pets, when they don't need feeding.

Give them a bollocking

I've never understood selfish dog owners who let their dogs yap.

DaisyChain505 · 02/07/2025 18:12

I was going to say you were not being unreasonable from your original post but after reading your update even more so.

Given the history with this person and that fact they’ve been racist and horrible towards your partner and urinated on your property I would not be letting my dogs in the garden unattended again.

I would be extremely worried that they had put something dangerous in the food and were trying to poison your dogs.

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SmellyNelliey · 02/07/2025 18:03

Its 19° so comfortable for him.
I'd love to be able to start up a conversation with neighbour but it's not that simple unfortunately.
Somebody did ask if he was old man the answer is yes he is and his wife stands by everything he dose.
Dog is brought in if he barks hence why DH opened the door.

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NoelFaraday · 02/07/2025 17:58

You need to supervise your dog whilst he’s in the garden.

Tell your neighbour that he must not be fed as it could cause him health problems and also will encourage him to jump up and bark for attention and very time they go in the garden.

Then invest in a six foot high fence so your dog isn’t a nuisance and they can’t see him.

NotoriousRhubarb · 02/07/2025 17:19

SmellyNelliey · 02/07/2025 16:46

@SummerEve I did say we dont get along with the neighbours. I'm more then greatful for all the responses on the thread.

But you haven’t said if you’ve told your neighbours not to feed your dogs.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 02/07/2025 17:17

LadyGrillingSole · 02/07/2025 16:57

I'm a little worried about a French Bulldog being outside in this heat, actually 🙁

We don't know where OP lives - I'm in Cumbria and it's not got above 20 degrees all weekend.

Flossflower · 02/07/2025 17:06

If your dog barks in the garden bring it in.

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LadyGrillingSole · 02/07/2025 16:57

I'm a little worried about a French Bulldog being outside in this heat, actually 🙁

WhereIsMyJumper · 02/07/2025 16:51

Just…. Talk to them??

SummerEve · 02/07/2025 16:47

SmellyNelliey · 02/07/2025 16:46

@SummerEve I did say we dont get along with the neighbours. I'm more then greatful for all the responses on the thread.

Yes, but without any context whatsoever.

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SmellyNelliey · 02/07/2025 16:46

@SummerEve I did say we dont get along with the neighbours. I'm more then greatful for all the responses on the thread.

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SmellyNelliey · 02/07/2025 16:44

They sit and talk at the bench which there entiledto do ,this is something new so just think dog is curious tbh.

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Changedforhim · 02/07/2025 16:41

SmellyNelliey · 02/07/2025 16:31

Let me just clear somethings up
Neighbour was obviously stood on something as the fence is 6ft.
I wasn't going to report to the police. Hes in a housing association house so I would of reported to them.
There is a back story with Neighbour like peeing on my garden gate,calling my DH racist names. So I was concerned,im 37 weeks pregnant so maybe just my hormones.
Dogs are fine just a upset belly for my frenchie so will leave it.

How does your dog know there’s a bench there if the fence is 6ft ? Is it visible through the fence or is it that they sit and talk on the bench?

MauriceTheMussel · 02/07/2025 16:39

I’d be terrified they’re poisoning your dog if there’s a history of animosity

SummerEve · 02/07/2025 16:38

SmellyNelliey · 02/07/2025 16:31

Let me just clear somethings up
Neighbour was obviously stood on something as the fence is 6ft.
I wasn't going to report to the police. Hes in a housing association house so I would of reported to them.
There is a back story with Neighbour like peeing on my garden gate,calling my DH racist names. So I was concerned,im 37 weeks pregnant so maybe just my hormones.
Dogs are fine just a upset belly for my frenchie so will leave it.

Ah, the inevitable drip feed when the responses aren’t to the OP’s liking.

ShamrockShenanigans · 02/07/2025 16:36

Well the first thing the HA would do would be to ask you if you've told them to stop.

The second thing they may bother to do is to contact your neighbour and tell them to stop.

Although without proof, it's very doubtful.

LandSharksAnonymous · 02/07/2025 16:34

Dog allergies can be serious so I wouldn’t just leave it.

But equally I would be training my dogs not to bark at them. They may well be feeding them to convince the dog they’re nice so it stops barking - no one wants a yappy bastard next door mouthing off every time they sit in their garden.

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SmellyNelliey · 02/07/2025 16:31

Let me just clear somethings up
Neighbour was obviously stood on something as the fence is 6ft.
I wasn't going to report to the police. Hes in a housing association house so I would of reported to them.
There is a back story with Neighbour like peeing on my garden gate,calling my DH racist names. So I was concerned,im 37 weeks pregnant so maybe just my hormones.
Dogs are fine just a upset belly for my frenchie so will leave it.

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Yeahofcourse · 02/07/2025 14:46

You are not being unreasonable to not want them to feed your dogs - even if they didn’t have any special food issues you shouldn’t feed someone else’s animal without their permission.

You are unreasonable for wanting to report them. No one will take that seriously unless they are trying to feed them something poisoned and are intentionally trying to harm the dogs.

If they are trying to befriend your dogs to stop them barking (not unreasonable, that is highly annoying) then give them a little of each dog’s food (perhaps in a tub with a photo of the dog stuck to the outside so they know which is which) so they can make friends without risking the health of either dog.

ShamrockShenanigans · 02/07/2025 14:36

Report it to who?

Don't be ridiculous.

Whether you talk them or not, just tell them your dogs are on special diets and ask them not to feed them again.

Drew79 · 02/07/2025 14:34

I've never understood the (selfish) human obsession of feeding animals, wild or pets, when they don't need feeding.

Give them a bollocking

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 02/07/2025 14:33

Sounds like they're fed up with your dogs barking and are giving them treats to try and shut them up.