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To dump dog in one of my husbands offices he works from

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Fatfoot · 01/07/2025 21:07

I will preface this with he is a lovely dog, well trained and behaved.
but I never wanted a dog, and said it, but got overruled.

Fast forward 8 years.

Husband has left me, children have left home , and I am tied to him.

I love him, but want the freedom that the rest of family have

Haven’t been on holiday for 3 years - husband was away just for example for 79 days last year.

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TammyJones · 01/07/2025 21:41

Fatfoot · 01/07/2025 21:31

He went in kennels for a week and I now has separation anxiety

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Well then you can’t go on holiday.
Your ex isn’t going to help.
Dogs are a tie.
or what about a holiday with your dog?
Not sure what you want from this thread as you’ve dismissed every suggestion given.

SamDeanCas · 01/07/2025 21:37

Get someone to come and house sit him in your own homes worked wonders with my rescue dog who has separation anxiety, get your exdh to pay

nomoreforks · 01/07/2025 21:34

I would say to ex-husband - can you please have dog when I am on holiday or I will need to rehome him? Let your children know. He needs to step up if he wanted a dog. Dogs are a lifetime commitment.

Terrribletwos · 01/07/2025 21:33

Fatfoot · 01/07/2025 21:31

He went in kennels for a week and I now has separation anxiety

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So now you have a dog problem and if dog went to your ex maybe it would suffer with separation anxiety at his too?

godmum56 · 01/07/2025 21:33

just rehome the poor bloody dog

potatosconelover · 01/07/2025 21:32

Sign up for Borrow My Doggy. I did it before I got my own dog. There will be someone nearby who wants to walk and hang out with your dog. If you want to go on holiday you could also look at rover.com and pawshake.co.uk, I’ve used both of those. It doesn’t solve you being the sole person in charge of the dog, but if you don’t want to rehome then these woils
give you some options.

nongnangning · 01/07/2025 21:32

I had a dog share - me and an ex boyfriend - for a few years. It worked surprisingly well. Obviously, your ex should in principle be your sharing partner. But if he won’t is there another friend or family member who would be interested? (and do you think the dog would take to this?)

godmum56 · 01/07/2025 21:32

MemorableLlama · 01/07/2025 21:22

Poor dog 😔

this.

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Fatfoot · 01/07/2025 21:31

Troubleclef · 01/07/2025 21:27

What is wrong with putting him in a kennels while you go on holiday. Obvious solution surely

He went in kennels for a week and I now has separation anxiety

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mimbleandlittlemy · 01/07/2025 21:31

Rover.com is good - had two excellent dog sitters from them. Find someone who will either home stay or that the dog can go to. Suggest Ex pays bill. You get a break.

Createausername1970 · 01/07/2025 21:30

Say this to ex and grown up kids. Point out you are looking after and paying for dog you didn't want so can they all please assist you to find a dog sitter or suitable kennels and assist with the cost, as it is not unreasonable for you to want to have a break too.

Terrribletwos · 01/07/2025 21:29

Well really that's just the reality of having a dog, nothing to do with your husband ultimately as he doesn't want to know. I can understand the frustration but you have to remove him as a possible solution to your problem and then work from that.

HenDoNot · 01/07/2025 21:28

If it’s just for a holiday, then put the dog in kennels or leave him with a home boarding or dog sitting business like most people do when they go on holiday. Confused

Uuuo · 01/07/2025 21:27

If this is a temporary thing. You need to talk to him and check he will actually do this, but also if this is a couple of days or a week or two why not a friendly kennels?

Troubleclef · 01/07/2025 21:27

What is wrong with putting him in a kennels while you go on holiday. Obvious solution surely

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Fatfoot · 01/07/2025 21:25

Sorry I should clarify more as just read my post back.

I don’t want to dump him forever, just want to go away for a bit as struggling which my family know.

But they are all to busy to commit to taking him.

My son can apparently take him for 3 days at end of month so I can go away with daughter, but now she can’t do those dates.

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MemorableLlama · 01/07/2025 21:22

Poor dog 😔

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Fatfoot · 01/07/2025 21:21

TheOccupier · 01/07/2025 21:15

Why didn't he take HIS dog when he left?

I never actually asked him that!

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Terrribletwos · 01/07/2025 21:20

Fatfoot · 01/07/2025 21:18

I don’t want to regime him!

i love him, but don’t see why I should have to be the full time caretaker.

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But as you say your ex doesn't want the dog and dumped it on you so what alternative do you have? You can't make him want the dog.

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 01/07/2025 21:19

Drop ddog at a friend or relative of his..

Terrribletwos · 01/07/2025 21:18

TheOccupier · 01/07/2025 21:15

Why didn't he take HIS dog when he left?

Cos he's too busy.

I know you feel aggrieved but ultimately your suggestion would be taking it out on the dog really. So getting it rehomed would be the only solution. What else is there if you want freedom cos obviously your ex doesn't want the dog.

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Fatfoot · 01/07/2025 21:18

EmBear91 · 01/07/2025 21:14

It’s not the dogs fault. Don’t “dump” him anywhere. If you don’t want to look after him anymore, go through the process of rehoming. There will be plenty of people who are in a position to look after a dog/want to.

I don’t want to regime him!

i love him, but don’t see why I should have to be the full time caretaker.

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InterestedDad37 · 01/07/2025 21:17

I'm totally with the OP. You said you didn't want it, and were overruled. His dog his responsibity.
If he asks you to take it back, tell him you know it's ruff, but he's barking up the wrong tree 😀🐕🌳

Autumn1990 · 01/07/2025 21:16

Option 3 is there someone you know or know through a friend who would also like a dog on a part time basis and then you can share the dog and go away on holiday.

TheOccupier · 01/07/2025 21:15

Why didn't he take HIS dog when he left?