To dump dog in one of my husbands offices he works from

Surely, it begins and ends with this?

Definitely take him to your ex’s office en route to going away. No arguing with you. Block his number as you leave so he can’t guilt you into picking him up.

Yes to be fair kennels can be traumatic for dogs unless they go to a place that really cares for them. Otherwise they think they’ve been dumped in a cage alone. Sad really

Kennels are awful. There are websites now where you can find suitable dog sitters where they look after them at their home. You can bill the husband for this. Or if you don't want that bother, then yes, absolutely book your holiday and drop him at the office. Don't see why this gobshite should shirk his responsibilities. But if he just kennels him then you'll have to go with the dog-sitter option and insist on (dog) maintenance from ex.

The fact you didn't want him 8 years ago is now irrelevant as you do not wish to rehome home, thus do want him.

The point at which 'I didn't want the dog' was relevant was when the husband became ex and left, that should have been with his dog. That ship has also sailed.

Book a sitter who takes care of dog in your own home or one that takes care of dog in their home - so you don't have him struggling in kennels getting more anxious.

Petition useless ex to contribute to dog costs - that is who you should be playing the 'I didn't want the dog' tune to!

In a similar situation except i’m on own with dog as DH passed away recently.

my local villages have fb groups and often people ask about dog sitters and minders etc so I’ve been thinking about finding someone to have DDog occasionally. Id love to go shopping to seaside town an hour away and not worry about DDog being on his own.

No, I meant with your ex who presumably hasn't seen your dog for some time. So unfair to your dog to put him to your ex.

Do you have any friends that would love a dog for a week? I know a few people who would.

tell DH you are “dumping” dog in one if his offices unless he pays you £X per month for its up keep and to pay for someone to walk and kennel it while you get on with your life

OP can you afford a decent kennels or house/dog sitter while you’re away?

The dog has probably become attached to you but if you don’t / can’t love the dog , perhaps he can be rehomed with someone who wants him.

I am already sad at the thought of this dog lonely in a shelter until someone chooses him

. Be super careful about rehoming him. Either someone you trust or a LEGIT shelter. You don’t want him ending up as bait in dog fighting ring. Sadly does happen. 😢

Please DONT dump him at your exes work or anywhere. It’s a being worthy of respect & trusts you & loves you - even if you don’t love it .

'My son can apparently take him for 3 days at end of month so I can go away with daughter, but now she can’t do those dates.'

Surely just rearrange for when both are free and able?

Forget the ex. You seem to want him to have the dog out of a fairness issus but it won't be fair on the poor dog who will be with someone who doesnt want it. Or, as others have said use home boarding.

He doesn't need rehoming, you love the dog! but you're willing to drop him in an office, you think H will all of a sudden care what happens to him. Haven't you got a friend or family member that can stay at yours or pop in a couple of times a day or take the dog with you

If you just need holiday care then find someone that looks after dogs in their own home for money.

I looked after my friends dog recently (not for money). He has separation anxiety to her apparently. Yet the minute she walked away he swapped his affection to me. Dogs are way more adaptable than we think.

Get a dog sitter like every other person. You let the dog stay when ex left, so now you just have to pay someone to look after him.

It’s not rocket science.

Wouldn't the dog have separation anxiety tho if you left him?

What about a dog sitter, where he'd stay in their home like part of the family? We'd never put our dog in kennels but she stays with a dog sitter a few times a year so we can have a holiday/long weekend away. She also takes our dog out for a walk once a week (we do the other days!), just to keep the familiarity there.

Ex husband claims to be too busy. Not is, just claims. If you say you are going to leave him at his office, you must 100% be prepared to go through with it. Having checked his company will fetch your DH and support you.

Look at home boarding if kennels is a no go. Some people will even come and stay overnight in your home. We’ve used a home boarder for DDog before.

If you don’t want the dog then rehome him properly.

If you do want the dog, but want a break then find a suitable dog sitter. By just dumping the dog at one of your husbands offices then you have no guarantee that husband will care for the dog or that you’ll ever see the dog again. He might just dump the dog at a rescue centre himself.