AIBU we leave on holiday tomorrow morning and …

Do you usually pack for everyone? As in, are they expecting you to do it?

If not, just leave them to it. My husband is like this, he is a last minute person but in fairness he manages to get all packed in record time solo so it doesn’t make any difference to me.

It takes my DH 5 minutes to pack a bag! He would start packing at 7.45 and finish way before 8.00!

In my house we do a ‘right, everyone needs to just focus on getting this done now’ and then everyone has to spend 30 mins sorting whatever needs sorting. Other uses include the ‘blitz tidy.’

The expectation is it’s good enough after 30 mins and everyone can stop what they’re doing for that amount of time (or are incentivized to do it quicker). If stuff gets forgotten then tough.

We also make it clear who’s on the shared stuff duty - I have packed the suncream, towels and cards. I have not touched your specific toothpaste or vitamins.

This. And it will mean you won’t leavd at 8am - but much, much later

They've still got ages! If no-one is packed when you go to bed give them a friendly reminder that you're leaving at 8am tomorrow.

How does it take you so long to pack? If i was leaving at 8 tomorrow I'd start packing at 7.30. Especially for a UK holiday.

Teenagers are genetically programmed to pack at midnight.

Agreed. The only person getting stressed now is you. The holiday will be spoiled for everyone if they don't have their stuff. You will never get away at 8am.
I wouldn't do it for them but I would yell at everyone to get packed tonight.

If they're not ready at 8, get in the car, tell them you are off, and drive to the nearest coffee shop. See what happens.

I can tell you now that you will not be leaving at 8am tomorrow morning. And you will be stressed to the eyeballs when you do eventually leave. I feel itchy just thinking about it.

I normally pack just before I go to bed or the morning before.

As long as you're packed I'd leave them to it

If you're the driver just leave at the appointed time whether they're packed and in the car or not.

Just go and they can make their own way or stay home.

I wish someone would do this. I've done it to late DH (no kids) because he was being an absolute ARSE the night before so I went by train without him. Had a lovely time.

How are you going to enforce the 8am leave time though? Surely they’ll just make you late

Brace yourself for the fact that they will not be ready at 8am tomorrow. Will you drive off without them? Or have a god almighty row while you wait for them to pack and then leave at 9.30? This would piss me off no end. I think I'd be going on my own.

Boy Teen and dh are like this. I do one reminder around 8pm the night before and well if they forget stuff then though shit.

DH and older teens, just leave them to it. They are not toddlers.

I agree with this. You don't necessarily have to do it for them but do sternly remind everyone what time your need to leave tomorrow and ensure everyone gets up and stays sorting themselves out right now.

As tempting as it is to just leave them the reality won't be as fun. You'll start the day with everyone stressed and upset and if they go away with less too few clothes/lack of toiletries/the wrong charger cables etc it will only kill the holiday fun because you'll still have an upset and stressed family and waste time trying to solve the problems.

It's just not a hill I would want to die on.

I suspect you’re driving and they know that you don’t have to leave at 8am. Obviously if you were flying it’d be different, because a plane ain’t waiting for you if you’re late!

Prepare to be still sitting around at 8.20am tomorrow waiting for them to get sorted.

This is my family and they do my head in! I'm always packed the day before. DH and DS say casually, 'Oh yeah, I'll do it when I get up. It'll only take 5 minutes' and then they always fanny about the next day, whilst I'm getting wound up and we end up leaving about an hour later than I wanted to (on UK breaks) and they get annoyed and say, 'What's it matter what time we left?'

It matters. And if they'd packed the night before we could have got up, had a leisurely breakfast and left on time with no stress or arguments.

I wouldn’t even give them a warning, they presumably know they’re going on holiday tomorrow? If you’re packed, crack on with a relaxing evening and leave them to sort themselves out.

I will guarantee that during the holiday, someone (not you) will ask " Have we brought any painkillers/plasters/shampoo/cards".

Depends on if you go away a lot. Both me and partner are used to travel and can pack quickly ( toilet bag ready to go at all times).

Luckily It’s uk so everyone knows what the fashion and weather is likely to be. Maybe different if you ae doing stuff.you normally wouldn’t and need to remember kit.

I’dve more pissed off with no one helping with the self catering aspect. Are they putting in buts or expecting you to remember all their essential food requirements?

Fuck them. You are not the household project manager . If they are able bodied and old enough ( which it sounds like they are) then they have to deal with consequences.
Harsh but fair and I bet they won’t make that mistake again.

Just get it sorted now or tomorrow will start with drama.