Feeling wounded by DP's comment about a fitness video I sent him.

Oh dear, does he not like you improving yourself then? The correct response should have been 'fuck me, that's bloody impressive!' Because it is!

Try posting “my husband made me watch a video of him doing weights then got annoyed at me when I didn’t say well done, now he’s being arsey with me”

I know what responses you’d get

I think you are massively overreacting!!

This. I wasn't into martial arts, but I showed interest in my late husband's achievements. (He took up Shotokan Karate in his late 50s and got his black belt in his early 60s.)

Yeah, you’d like it.

Is there a fun police gathering on this thread?
OP you did great. I understand you feeling annoyed your DH didn't celebrate it with you but well done! You did it and that's amazing. Yanbu to want the person who loves you to want to share in your excitement.

Anyway, congrats @OP. I can barely manage a side raise with 2 4kg weights. I'd need a forklift to manage 1.5 times my weight!

It's rarely too hot for a creme egg. If you're in my part of Scotland, it's actually cool.

Have some people on this thread got terrible sunburn?! Why so miserable. YANBU OP - well done!

it wss probably a throwaway comment.

as a fellow gym goer, completely get why you needed to video it. 1.5 x your body weight is super impressive. If you don’t mind me asking what was the approximate weight? If you just mentioned the first number that’s enough so you don’t out your body weighr.
i am 73 kg so can’t imagine ever being able to lift 1.5 x my body weight although i have seen smaller women lift 2 x body weight

Jeez there are some nasty responses on here, some of you have spent too much time in the sun. OP YANBU. I have no interest in anything gym related but that's an incredible achievement and it's not surprising you'd want to record it or to share it with your DH. If someone I loved had achieved something important to them I'd be pleased for them even if I had no interest in the thing itself. You were asking for a well done, that's not much to ask. It doesn't sound like your instructor was being handsy at all, as you say, being nearby ready to intervene is standard gym practice, and joke or not I'dve been hurt by your DHs comment too, not the time or the place.

Well done that is a great achievement- glad your PT and training partner were proud of you.

Only you know if this is usual behaviour or if your husband is just being a dick on this occasion. Does your husband train? Is he feeling a bit put out and so is negging you to puff up his male ego. If he doesn’t train/use the gym he probably first understand how to spot (my PT would be behind me, but not with his arms at armpit level)

@didntlikeanyofthesuggestions- I can’t understand a) why you’d want to be with someone who thinks they can police your hobbies and b) why you’d appease such a fragile male ego by giving up your hobby. It was tjeir problem to address - not yours to solve.

I did my 1st 1/2 marathon wife promised to come and film me crossing the line
she missed it completely and turned up 25 minutes late as said “I thought you’d be slow “

whilst a big achievement for me she has zero interest in running

1.5 BW squat is very impressive, excellent work!

DP being a dick for sure.

As an aside though, single spotter behind isn’t great. One each side or inside a rack with safety pins much better.

I know other people have different standards and may think I’m being OTT, but this would honestly make me question whether I want to remain in this relationship. Your partner should be your biggest cheerleader, celebrate your achievements and encourage you.

The fact that not only has he not done that but he’s also more preoccupied by the personal trainer tells me he’s massively insecure, either about you getting in shape or about other men or both.

I’d guess his insecurities will show more the fitter you get if he’s like this now. I wouldn’t be surprised if he starts putting you down more.

He sounds like a dickhead, frankly.

Congratulations!

Just because you wish to live life with the grit and strength of a limp lettuce leaf, doesn't mean the OP should. I could manufacture drones for the Iranian army in my spare time and DH wouldn't give a shite so long as it made me happy (and freed up more time for him to watch yet more football...)

Squatting 1.5x your BW is massive, OP. I AM DELIGHTED FOR YOU.

It’s 16c in sunderland, not all of the UK is boiling hot. Definitely crème egg weather if OP
is in the more northern counties 😆

Well done OP

i wonder if the next thread about a husband sharing his fitness updates or cycling distances will be as supportive or will revert to the usual “his hobbies are his business”

In fairness I used to have a weekend hobby doing that.

Fantastic, well done, that's amazing!! Does he have no idea about how to lift, or how trainers spot you when you're working out? He's a jealous unsupportive prick.

Id feel the same as you OP. Hypothetically that is as there's no way I could lift that!! Well done!

Did you say anything to him immediately after his comment?

He’s a jealous man-child! Hope he grows up soon! 🚩

Are you very drunk or did you hit your head? Because it's not remotely funny and if it's really cracking you up, you might want to get checked over.

Well done OP that is an amazing achievement you should be so chuffed !!!

I think maybe partner is a wee bit insecure - does he have hobbies interests goals ?

Loving the idea of a cream egg reward !