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Feeling wounded by DP's comment about a fitness video I sent him.

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ExplosiveDiorEar · 01/07/2025 15:46

Today I achieved a big personal fitness goal I've been working towards for about a year - squatting 1.5x my body weight for five reps.

A woman I train with videoed me doing it. In the video, the gym instructor is stood a step or two behind me, has his hands level with my armpits and is squatting along with me. All very standard practice for spotting someone when they're lifting.

I sent the video to DP.

At the end of the session, the gym instructor gave me a creme egg and was really effusive in his praise. The woman I train with was also full of hearty congratulations. I came away feeling completely pumped and proud.

When I got home, I did a muscle man pose for DP as soon I was through the front door and said "Well, what did you think?" I hoped expected some kind words or congratulations. He knows how hard I've worked for this and has been supportive.

But he just said "Tom's a bit handsy isn't he?"

It completely took the wind out of my sails. I know I'm probably overreacting but I just felt so gutted that's the first thing DP said. No "well done" or "great work", just a comment about the instructor. Even if DP had legitimate concerns about the gym instructor being handsy (which he's not at all), surely he could've saved them until later or tomorrow.

Sorry, I just feel deflated. I'm probably overreacting.

OP posts:
myplace · 01/07/2025 15:51

Wow. AIBU is being particularly spiteful today.

myplace · 01/07/2025 15:51

I’m with you.Tell him he was supposed to be looking at you, not the trainer. How much can he squat?

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 01/07/2025 15:50

I can understand his position. I had a hobby which DH wasn't comfortable with me doing so I gave it up years ago.

SaturdayDream · 01/07/2025 15:49

I know it’s an achievement for you but it isn’t interesting to others.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 01/07/2025 15:49

YABU for having a creme egg in July when it's so hot.