I don’t dislike her. She’s been in their lives since they were very small (me and exDH divorced over 10 years ago). We share them 50/50 - she’s a good step mum and the kids like her a lot. All good
But - they both have a tendency to take over anytime we have to attend anything. My particular bugbear is parents evenings where the teachers will often to talk to ex and step mum and just ignore me. I’m not exactly a wallflower but it happens constantly.
When one of the D.C. was in hospital this year I had to keep reminding the doctors that actually I was “mum” and they could address their questions to me.
We went to the sixth form for DS and same thing, teachers just addressing those two, and not me.
I introduce myself as their mother so I’m not sure why this is happening ? Probably because the are a pair so easier to look at them and discuss
I’d just like one parents evening which isn’t the ex DH and step mum show tbh