To think DH may have done this with a bit too much aggression?

OP, football is a contact sport and injuries happen very often, especially if you were wearing normal trainers, no shin pads etc. I think many of the posters here have clearly never trained or played football in their life.

Was it a 50/50 ball and you’ve come off worse? You say you kicked back for the ball too, so it sounds like it was a loose ball for either player to go for.

Or did he fly into you? Does he usually play with men and has maybe let this lead his style of play?

If it were me, I’d be looking at the bigger picture in terms of how he is generally. The attitude afterwards is an issue in particular; he should be apologetic, annoyed with himself, cringing at his forcefulness, lifting and laying you etc.

You kicked his foot, which he was also kicking at the same time? I mean, you sound like you are twisting this to be abusive, I'm not surprised he's pissed off.

My Dh would be absolutely mortified if he hurt me, he would be crying his eyes out if that meant I had to attend A&E with my injury. He would be waiting on me hand and foot, taking care of everything and not muttering one fucking word of complaint about any of it.

That is what you cannot see. You have been conditioned by his behaviour to downplay what has happened to you. Plus you are the broken appliance, great when you are functioning but not great when you cannot perform your duties, your role, your function in the household.

I can't imagine people would call him vile if they believed it was an accident. I think you need to speak to the other adults there to get a perspective on this. He could be gasslighting you whilst people around clearly see he is abusing you.

I agree.

An avulsion fracture can take a few weeks to heal.

That was awful! He could at the very least show remorse but is behaving as though it's nothing.

My husband once made gravy in the meat dish on the stove, picked it up, swerved and knocked some boiling liquid onto my foot. That was an accident! He was extremely remorseful. I got a blister but nobody died, it was soon over.

Your injury, the tackling, was aggressive. You're not a footballer.

Your dh did that in purpose and is showing no remorse. Worse he is now making it that it’s somehow your fault he has to manage the dcs in the morning!

Come on. It’s not frustrating to have to deal with the dcs in the am on your own when you’re the reason why your dwife can’t help!
Its normal.

The fact he is now grumpy, moaning etc…. Aka his NORMAL SELF tells you all you need to know.
He doesn’t care about you. He doesn’t respect you.
He won’t ket you have the rest you need either.

He’s an abusive cunt. That’s it. He saw an opportunity to physically assault you, under the guise of a ‘game’, and he took it. And now he’s furious with you that you’re injured because of his actions.

Is that what you think love is?

Very much this @CatandaTiddle I don’t think you’re quite as oblivious to this appalling man’s actions as you subsequently have tried to appear, or you wouldn’t have posted.

My husband would never forgive himself if he hurt one of us.

@CatandaTiddle- you are still minimising his actions. What reaction did you expect? Whilst avulusion fractures are treated like a sprain (in most cases) there can be complications like misalignment during the healing process and/or ongoing joint/ligament pain and weakness.

He showed no remorse, is not supporting you at home and is acting like an abuser. It will be a child next - he’s a godawful man and you are enabling jom
by accepting his treatment of you. Listen to that person who called him vile - that’s the beginning of your support network.

DH is often passive aggressive towards me.
He has made up somewhat with tea, dinner made etc - but this morning it’s back to being pretty rude, mumbling, complaining while I’m hobbling about.

It sounds like he saw a covert opportunity to hurt you, and took it, thinking it would be masked by ‘playing football’.

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Don’t start defending him now..

He didn't apologise?! I can see how he may have got carried away, misjudged a tackle and injured you, but a loving partner would be really apologetic and feel awful in this situation.

If my DP accidentally injured me he would be absolutely mortified and apologetic and incredibly upset.

Your husband sounds deranged, frankly, and you're encouraging it by downplaying his behaviour.

Also "this morning it’s back to being pretty rude, mumbling, complaining while I’m hobbling about. He has got to work plus sort out the kids, so I can see it’s frustrating." boo hoo hoo poor man has to parent his own children for a change.

You are really downplaying how fucking terrible this is. You shouldn't have laughed it off you should be telling him to stay the fuck away from you for the rest of your lives

Frankly, this.

He used excessive force and really hurt you. Normal men would definitely tone it down playing with women let alone their wife! And to not even apologise. My DH would be absolutely beside himself with remorse. Yours sounds like a psychopath.

Why did you start this thread op...? If everything is ay ok...you wouldn't have felt the need to ask others their opinion surely?

Bloody hell OP you're really minimising this. Your husband tackled you so hard that you broke a bone. Yes sometimes stuff like this happens, however the fact that he's a man and you're a woman (unless you're a professional footballer) means he should have taken it a bit easy. And the fact you're posting about it, and another member of the team was shocked, probably mean that although he might not have set out to break a bone, actually he wasn't being careful at all not to hurt you.

Also his reaction is way off, for most people if they hurt someone accidentally they are absolutely mortified and would be running around trying to do everything they can to make their life easier. Your husband cooked dinner? And is now being rude because he has to look after his own kids (how awful for him!) due to an injury that he caused?

You are really downplaying how fucking terrible this is. You shouldn't have laughed it off you should be telling him to stay the fuck away from you for the rest of your lives

To think DH may have done this with a bit too much aggression?

Well, we don't really know without more detail.... Did he push you over deliberately? Did he run into you without seeing you? Did he aim a ball / racket at you and hit you on purpose??

I play a fast paced and competitive sport with DH and he has run into me (unintentionally) a couple of times and almost taken me out! That being said, he is massively apologetic asking if I'm ok a million times afterwards and he would never, ever hurt me deliberately! Also I accept that playing a sport where men and women are playing together is not always a great idea as the men I play with are all bigger built and stronger than the women so if an accident does happen, the results are usually a bit worse than another woman running in to you!

An avulsion fracture is when a ligament or tendon pulls away from a bone and takes part of the bone with it. It is called a fracture cos that's what it is. I've had physio for mine. I am 9 months post accident and it still hasn't properly healed.

You describe your husband's actions as overly aggressive.
You say a witness called your husband's actions "vile"
You say he is passive aggressive towards you.
You tell us he is unsympathetic to your broken bone (caused by his actions)whining and moaning about doing his part in family life.
Your actual title of the thread mentions
" DH, too much aggression"

With all due respect OP what answers were you expecting?

We are reading your words. If you were to read these words from another MN what conclusions would you be drawing?

I have an avulsion fracture. Must have been some force he used. What an arse.

If it was an accident and he feels terrible about it that’s one thing - but it doesn’t sound like it was or that he does - at best it may be seen as extremely reckless. At worst, he’s an abuser and he will continue to get worse. Using a “game” as a cover for using excessive physical force and fracturing your bones is very concerning. Don’t laugh it off.