To think DH may have done this with a bit too much aggression?

This could just be an accident. Sports accidents happen.

It's his reaction afterwards that is more concerning.

You kicked his foot, which he was also kicking at the same time? I mean, you sound like you are twisting this to be abusive, I'm not surprised he's pissed off.

Try rereading OPs posts.

I hate to say it because I often hate the over dramatisation on here but I had a friend who was playing football with her partner and kids (uk) and he tackled her and sprained her ankle.

I didn’t think anything of it at the time but months later he went on to seriously attack her and now I often find myself thinking why didn’t I see it, were there signs, and that feels to me like something I should’ve noticed. Idk if you’re in America football is different so maybe it’s nothing but it just reminded me of it.

The main part of it that makes me think it was part of the abuse was that he was so unsympathetic, making out like she was milking it when she was limping on the school run. He was also verbally abusive to her which I asked her about but she’d just say oh that’s how we are. Hopefully in your case it’s nothing but I still feel guilty like I should’ve done something.

He has got to work plus sort out the kids
So do lots of people. He needs to get a grip and behave like an adult. Why is he being rude to you and mumbling and complaining?

He has got to work plus sort out the kids, so I can see it’s frustrating

he is having to take responsibility for his own actions - its called consequences. As a father and grown adult its long overdue though

Any level of aggression is too much aggression.

From your description I can see how that injury could happen by accident but the other information you have given is quite worrying. A history of passive aggression, he thought you should keep moving after you were injured, showing no remorse, being an arse about extra responsibilities this morning because you are incapacitated.

The man is a run if the mill arsehole at best but more likely, and worryingly, a domestic abuser.

But that was not a competitive sport. They were playing football WITH CHILDREN.

There was no reason for that level of force in those circumstances. Apart from the fact he could bear tge idea if his dwife ‘taking the ball’ or winning that pass and this was more important fir him that her welfare.

OP, just wanted to offer another perspective. Me and DH do sports together. We once did a tough mudder, and there was one obstacle where he really misjudged how far ahead I was and the short story is, all 90kgs of him landed hard on my head!
I was very dazed and I had horrible neck pain for weeks. Accidents do of course happen. However - DH was falling over himself with apologies and also remorse, my goodness the guilt he felt. He couldn’t talk to people about it without welling up for the first couple of days. He was incredibly attentive; we both pulled out of the rest of the race, and he took such good care of me - not just that day but whilst I recovered. I sometimes joke I could’ve asked anything of him those subsequent weeks and he’d have done it - that was my chance for the designer handbag haha.

Jokes aside - this is how a partner acts when they hurt someone accidentally. That’s ignoring the fact you believe your own DH used excessive force too, which is even worse. His behaviour towards you, after landing you in A&E, is despicable. Listen to your friend - he is vile!

What is he like generally? Kind? Supportive? Loving? What is he like as a partner?

I don’t know how to emphasise this enough - this is not not not not normal. At all.

Sounds like he used it as an opportunity to be physically aggressive to you but blame it on the game.

At the risk of using the LTB, why are you still with him? He sounds horrible.

See how often he asks if the injury is hurting you. And see if he apologises again, and offers to do whatever it takes to help you to rest. Even if the kick was an accident, which is possible, he should be doing absolutely everything to help while you recover. And if he doesn't, have a think about his lack of care for you and consider whether you deserve more.

Open your eyes.

listen to what others are saying

listen to your gut

take your time

If I injured anyone (let alone my partner!) by accident, I would be so mortified and apologise repeatedly and effusively and feel So upset I’d caused pain. I would be waiting in that person hand foot and finger

That’s how a decent person would react.

Now compare that to how your husband has reacted.

Accidents happen. Appalling arseholes also happen. You’ve got both to deal with.

If you think, even 1%, that he did this on purpose or added extra oomph as a result of his .....resentment. You need to leave. The situation is toxic.

He sounds like my ex and he really hurt me once and didn't give a damn. A month later he strangled me until I blacked out. I should have left at the first strike. He could have killed me.

I play contact sports. I don’t play contact sports with men who are double my size.

If I were having a kickaround in the park with DS and his friends and some of the other parents, I would expect the men playing to be aware that they are playing with women and children, and not tackle aggressively.

Accidents can absolutely happen, and an injury like yours could be completely accidental even with men checking the power and aggression they use when playing football to allow for the power difference when playing with a woman. If you're both going for a loose ball or someone is about to shoot and the defender manages to stick a foot in and nick the ball away when you're not expecting it or they're on your blindside you could easily kick someone full force without even knowing they were in your vicinity until it's too late. That is a risk anyone takes in competitive sport.

But the reaction is absolutely telling and probably indicates that he knows he was wrong and is trying to minimize it by getting you on the "accidents happen" message rather than apologizing profusely.

If I accidentally fractured someones leg in my 5 a side game, where everyone accepts it's at full pace, I would feel fucking awful and would be showing more concern than he is and those people are essentially strangers to me.

Except it’s also clear they we’re playing with kids too. And he would never have use that level of ‘force’ with one of the children.

He has no reason to not do the same with the OP. Who clearly isn’t playing regularly. Didn’t wear shin pads (even though I’m struggling to see how they have protected her foot) etc etc…

It’s always up to the stronger player to adjust their game. Just like the stronger walker adjust their pace to the slowest one when going hill walking, No excuse.

It's still a fracture OP. Ligament pulls away from the bone through pulling some bone with it.

His lack of apology and remorse is very telling here. He is usually passive-aggressive towards you and this display of outright physical aggression during a game of football with children is a clear indication that he isn't bothered that he has injured you. If it really was an accident, he would be really upset to see his wife in so much pain requiring a visit to A&E and getting a fracture diagnosis.

He doesn't care and his only concern is for himself as he now needs to pick up more care for the children and household tasks that you can't manage.

This should be a wake up call. I don't think that he is a safe person for you to have in your life.

Your gut feeling is right, his attitude and behaviour spilled over into aggression and that isn’t accidental. What a total arsehole.

Posts like this are dangerous.

And btw YY about the fact he is abusive.
He hit you on purpose.
It doesn’t matter it was in the context of a game. It’s just a nice cover up fir him.
He hit you. He hurt you so he could ‘win’. He sent you to hospital. He broke a bone (regardless of the type of fracture), tore some ligaments.

Don’t minimise what he did.

OP, your husband is physically and emotionally abusing you. If he acted like this towards one of the children, you'd have a visit from social services. This may still happen, as I am sure his behavior set off all sorts of alarm bells at the hospital.

Not only did he fracture one of your bones, he is not even sorry, is complaining about having to take care of his own children and he has no sympathy for your injury that he caused.

Please leave this man as soon as you can safely do so. This will only get worse. It's also bad for the children to see their mom getting abused and as the children get older, they will be at risk too.

Please, take this seriously OP, even if you can't leave right away.

It sounds like he doesn’t respect you very much