To think DH may have done this with a bit too much aggression?

It is his reaction afterwards - DS used to make me play football with me and occasionally he would forget his strength (he is 99th centile) and my comparative weakness and he would feel remorse (and mine was not anywhere near as bad) Because that is what you should feel. His utter lack of caring he hurt you that badly is awful

Hear hear.

He's really done a number on you, OP. He has caused a fracture and is now moaning about having to pick up the extra work. A team member has been shocked at what he did yet you are wondering whether you're unreasonable.

If you have a daughter and if she came to you as an adult and said, "My husband has broken my bone and is moaning about the extra work he's caused. He's not apologised" then what would you say? I know what I'd say!

That's unfortunately what I thought, it was his opportunity to give you a good thump with an excuse. Physical abuse under the veil of an accident (although he wouldn't have "accidentally" hurt anyone else because he had control)

The lack of remorse or apology proves this. Really sorry OP. I think you should really consider speaking to woman's aid about the passive aggression and this incident.

You are kidding yourself.
He took the opportunity to really hurt you and was seen doing it too.

Give Womens aid a call.
Abusive men do this.

DH is often passive aggressive towards me.

He has made up somewhat with tea, dinner made etc - but this morning it’s back to being pretty rude, mumbling, complaining while I’m hobbling about.

No he didn’t feel any remorse!! Don’t think he said sorry at all - that’s a good point. His response was - I think you should keep it moving while I was sitting out on the floor!!

He does sound a bit "vile" to me. He puts his wants and whims over your needs and generally treats you like crap. It's probably not pleasant for the children either. You may say that some of the time he's lovely etc. etc. etc. and that's probably true. But a delicious sandwich made of all your favourite ingredients and condiments and then slathered in shite is still disgusting and inedible, even if the shite technically only comprises 15% of the sandwich.

He has got to work plus sort out the kids, so I can see it’s frustrating.

Stop making excuses for him. Going to the job that pays for him to live and caring for the children he decided to have isn't a huge hardship. Quite a lot of other people, probably including you, do similar every day without making their partners/families miserable.

I don't think the broken bone is the core issue, but I hope you heal quickly and feel better soon.

With the extra information, it sounds more like recklessness and or stupidity rather than intentional injury, although a bit of common sense would have avoided this - it sounds like you were both very competitively going for the ball. Only you know if this is a pattern of behaviour on your husband's part.

However his behaviour afterwards is what is concerning. If my partner had done something similar by accident he would have been visibly horrified and contrite, and it would be weeks before he stopped trying to make it up to me.

Is your husband usually uncaring if you are unwell/ needing support?

To think DH may have done this with too much aggression?

Bit of an odd question to ask, I'd say. Who could possibly know? We weren't there. Do you think you went in with too much aggression? How much aggression would be acceptable? Accidents are what tend to happen when men play contact sports with women, because men are stronger and heavier and taller. They kick and punch a lot harder than women can.

You expected him to say sorry and be contrite for having hurt you, and some men would behave like that. Others might feel it was an accident and not his fault and not feel the need to apologise. Which sort is he? If he normally apologises and he hasn't this time, clearly something's going on.

You say he's often often passive-aggressive — so not actually aggressive? I wonder whether he's carrying resentment towards you.

Don't know, OP. I can hear you're pissed off but tbh there seems to be something much more complicated going on than just a badly-timed kick in a game of soccer.

Having seen the updates, I think , probably, the injury is a genuine accident, the result of over enthusiasm on both sides.

However, a response that is anything but omg I'm so sorry, I will be at your beck and call until you're back on your feet, is a real problem.

You DO have a fracture OP! Either stop minimising this, or read up on what your fracture actually is! A small piece of your bone has been pulled (broken) away from another piece of bone!

If your dh was really sorry then it could be explained by over zealousness to win .. however you’ve already described him as passive aggressive, rude, grumpy. Others have described the tackle as vile! Surely this tells you something about your ‘d’h??!!

JUST WOW!

I don’t think a loving kind man would behave the way that your husband behaves.

You are worth a lot more than that.

I’ve had to have surgery for an avulsion fracture - not fun.

Accidents happen but he should have apologies and care.

It’s not even the injury though, it’s the behaviour afterwards. Even if he wasn’t involved, he should be nice to you if you are hurt!!!
And he WAS involved.

Everything is wrong here.

Open your eyes to him.

I could possibly accept that he didn't realise how much stronger he is (my husband doesn't know his own strength) but the fact that he isn't really sorry or showing proper remorse is a massive worry. That does suggest that he wasn't reining his strength in the way a man should do if he's doing something like this with a woman. Also, you know him and you took the hit, and you think he was being too aggressive about it. So yes... this is bad.

I literally write in the post you quoted that his reaction afterwards is the concern. Literally right there for you.

She also said that she went in hard for the ball too, because she really wanted to win it.

Plenty of shin pads come with ankle wrap support.

Obviously I agree that the stronger player needs to adjust when it’s a kickabout with the family, but I think these “leave this abuser” posts are jumping the gun, given the tiny amount of info the OP has actually provided. As I said, though, his reaction after the injury is the bigger concern here. That’s not normal at all.

So why did the adult witness use the word “vile” to describe it?

Op you are describing the behavior someone who dislikes you.

An on looker describing his behaviour as vile is a huge red flag. Along with the force of the tackle and his short lived and token making amends gestures. Shortly followed by resentment. .

You are in a bad situation here.

I’m a football mum and even my super competitive preteen knows not to tackle me or a young child the way he would one of his peers on the pitch. The fact that he’s been so blasé about your injury makes it so much worse. A normal human (male or female) would feel incredibly guilt and be apologetic and trying to help. The fact that he’s aggressive anyway…… put the pieces all together OP and it doesn’t paint a very good picture.

It’s not about the injury, sure those can happen, although one would think in a fun family game that’s not premier league you wouldn’t be going hell for leather against your wife. It’s about his reaction afterwards. If you injure your spouse, you apologise, you support their recovery.

If you can’t see the red flags here, that’s concerning.

i hope you are realising that’s really shit of him. Sit down put your foot up and say snap out of this grump, you played a physical game aggressively against your smaller wife and injured me. I think I didn’t hear your abject apologies? Did I fail to notice them somehow? I certainly haven’t failed to notice what a shitty mood you’re in. If I tell our friends you are in a royal snit at having to juggle things BECAUSE YOU GAVE ME A FRACTURE do you know what they will think of you?? Given the complete lack of apology I’ve heard from you I think I think that of you so I may as well tell everyone. Now get parenting with less whining, I am resting so I can heal.

Well OP described it as competitive so I'm going on her account and that she was desperate to get the ball and kicked hard, so they weren't playing walking football, but even in a kick about it can happen.

If I think no one is near me and I go to take a shot or play a cross field pass or clear a ball and I don't realise someone on my blindside is there or I simply misjudge the pace I'm going to get to a ball because I'm not 25 any more you could easily injure someone completely accidentally by kicking them very forcefully. Same way you could leather someone in tennis or badminton with a racket if you get your angles wrong or someone moves in a way you don't expect.

Accidents can and do happen so I wouldn't judge the OH completely based on the result of the incident when it's still not clear the exact circumstances and I haven't seen it. I don't think he's a cunt just because he caused the injury when the OP herself can't really say anything about intent and isn't clear herself on how the injury was caused when they both went for the ball. A perfectly loving husband could cause such an injury completely innocently.

I think he's a cunt because having caused the injury he doesn't give a fuck and that's quite telling with regards to his attitude to causing his partner significant injury and pain.

Cousin landed wrong in netball and got avulsion fracture. They happen. This is entirely separate to the passive aggression

This isn't a voting thing @CatandaTiddle
He "accidentally" seriously injured you. And then has the audacity to be a dick about you being in pain.
I suspect there is much more abuse in your relationship.
BTW I has a avulsion fracture on my ankle 5 years ago and it's never been the same, despite physio and an exercise program

Edited as RTFT

It is a break when the ligament was torn off the bone it broke a chunk of bone off with it.
Avulsion fractures are much worse than a simple break and takes much longer to heal and then theres the damage to the ligament, your minimizing your injury. You need physio.
If the dr is saying you can walk on it in 2 days I'd be asking for a second opinion as avulsion fractures often need surgery to heal properly