To think DH may have done this with a bit too much aggression?

Why on earth didn't he apologise?!! That's awful behaviour

An avulsion fracture IS a proper fracture.

How does your dc feel about this op?

Toxic boys sticking together 🙄😡

An ‘accident’ that OP said he would never let happen with a child = no accident.
An ‘accident’ that shows no remorse, guilt, self horror = no accident.

Now fuck off back to the far end of fuck .. and stay there, where you belong.

What?! HE said you'd should keep it moving while he was sitting down?

Was he going to hurt you agan if you didn't move? This doesn't sound good at all

Whatever the exact cause of the accident, the point is that you are immobilised and in pain and your husband does not seem to care about you very much.And there are no prizes or whingeing permits available for dealing with kids whilst working. Millions do that every day.

Well I don't see an accidental injury as abuse - my husband could quite easily injure me like that by accident in similar circumstances. He's a big man and completely unaware of his own size and strength. He probably wouldn't participate in a game of football like the one you mentioned for that reason.

However should he accidentally injure me in any way, under any circumstances, his reaction would be completely different because he would be hysterical with remorse and regret. I actually think it would be more painful for him than for me and he would probably never get over his horror at doing something like that to me. Never mind doing a bit of extra childcare, he would move heaven and Earth to ensure I would be treated like a Queen during my recovery and probably for a long time afterwards. I would receive any present I wanted and wouldn't have to lift a finger. Accidents can happen. It's your husband's reaction that's the worrying part.

Was it Extreme Twister? The one with the Krav Maga options?

Hope you feel better soon. He needs to stick to ludo or snakes and ladders.

Yeah my XH (note X) used to 'play rough' , threw a cricket ball (threw not bowled) at my face, hit me in the mouth and I lost my front bottom tooth. Any excuse to hurt me under the guise of 'sport with the kids'.

I've also had an avulsion fracture from a fall and it took over 6 weeks before I could take my arm out of the splint and a lot of physio and a cortisone injection becaue of the damage to the tendons.

Your H is an arsehole - be careful, reflect on his past behaviour and consider whether you want to be 'accidentally' hurt any more.

He was teaching you a lesson. I suspect he'd been wanting to hurt you for a while but giving you a shove at home would have consequences. On the sports field it was "a most unfortunate accident". He didn't entirely get away with it though, because other players sussed him out. He sounds like a nasty piece of work OP. I should re-evaluate your life.

I thought I was fairly unique in that a man ripped the ligament in my knee during an unprovoked assault...leaving me in a full cast for two months. I would imagine he would have said it was an accident. In fact he did say that.

If I were you I'd get the fuck out of there before it's your head he smashes in during a 'game'.

Your team mate was right and your husband is vile.

My guess is that there was real hatred for you behind the force he tackled you with.

While I understand that genuine accidents can happen, this sounds more like ‘accidentally on purpose’ I.e. he saw an opportunity to injure you and took it. I think that your husband’s lack of remorse or kindness towards you, shows everyone here that he is an abusive pig.

Vile is not a word that gets used lightly. It suggests something more than a silly accident.

My db tackled me hard enough to injure me when he was 18, and hadn’t actually worked out how much stronger he was than me - I’d been his Big Sister, and then away for college, and we were mucking about playing football, acting like we did as kids. We both learned something from that.

We still play from time to time, because we’re silly like that, and he can use his strength and longer reach to hold me away from him, or bear hug me, or pick me up, but it’s a completely different way of using strength.

I get that accidents happen. But you’ve mentioned passive aggression. It’s not unusual for men to direct aggression into sports, in fact it’s a fairly significant function of football to act as a substitute for war/violence. But it’s crossing an absolutely enormous line to use it as a cover for aggression towards a partner. And it sounds like a third party observer saw something more concerning than an accident.

@CatandaTiddle his frustration . Seriously?

Sounds from your morning with him he could be capable of going at you with force and didn’t care about the consequences .
Only you know what the rest of your relationship is like.

I can’t believe he has th cheek to feel put out.

DH and I do lots of sports and we're both super competitive people.

He would never ever go in hard on a tackle with me ever, as he knows he could easily hurt me given our respective weights and muscle mass.

Passive aggressive behaviour is also abusive behaviour.

It's hard to know what happened here.

Maybe you kicked too hard in a tackle and met an unmoveable object (his foot).

Accidents happen. I'd be more bothered about the aftermath when you say your husband WASN'T "THAT SORRY" ABOUT BREAKING YOUR BONE.

There were also children playing, and no he wouldn’t have tackled a child like this

He wouldn’t tackle a child like that but would do to his wife. That says everything that you need to know about him.

I can’t imagine hurting someone and not being remorseful. I would be really upset that my actions, even if ‘accidental’ had put someone else in hospital. Especially someone that I love.

It's his reaction that worries me. Anyone might, in the heat of a competitive game, accidentally cause an injury. But a normal reaction would be profound remorse, affection, support, going out of their way to say sorry and help you and insist you don't lift a finger for a few days, making your favourite foods and whisking DC out from under your feet. I don't judge him for the accident, unless it was an excuse to be aggressive towards you (in which case he is a first grade creep). But I judge him massively for not apologising and for being grumpy. If he can't see this is wrong, I'd be making plans to move on.

A man has come along to explain, praise be.

I wonder why an onlooker described the behavior as vile? It’s a mystery

How he came to seriously hurt you is one thing, and perhaps in the spirit of the game you were both playing, perhaps forgiveable.
But the way he’s behaving now is appalling and imo unforgivable.
He doesn’t sound like a very loving or likeable person.

I came to say your DH is a psychopath but thought I might be being a bit harsh. i’m glad to see I’m not the only one who thinks so. I’m guessing he’s been like this for years, you’ve explained it away somehow and don’t even see it for what it is anymore. You seem to have normalised his cold, heartless behaviour. I dread to think what he’d be like if you seriously did something to upset him.

Yep. I think that you are minimising this Op.

Sounds like an accident, maybe he should be more sympathetic in the morning.

Football is lethal! There’s a running joke in our house not to go near ds 12 when we play, there was a time I’d constantly collide with him, knock him over or trip him up no matter how much I tried to stay away!!!

edited to add your dh could definitely have been more caring though!