To think DH may have done this with a bit too much aggression?

But the lack of support and kindness is terrible

If two people are going at speed and smash into each other (or in this case their feet do) it’s not exactly one persons fault.

He didn’t even say sorry????!!! 😳😳😳

Its one thing to injure you whilst 'playing'. I don't know how someone can misunderstand that level of force but I could kind of strain to accept it was an accident, maybe. But that together with the lack of remorse, actually bitching about the extra work caused as a result. Nope, how dare he. You have a problem OP and you need to decide what to do about it. For a start I would be firing back on all cylinders at him being 'pretty rude' and 'grumbling'. Once again, how god damn dare he!

If he's able to control the force he uses against the rest of the team (including children and I assume other women), then he could have and should have controlled it against you. If it was a genuine accident it would have had an equal chance of happening to anyone he tackled, it's not a coincidence that you happened to be the one he hurt, you got hurt because he chose to hurt you.

I can’t ever imagine a work where my husband tackles me so hard he broke bones. You don’t do that to people you love.

It sounds like an accident to me. A clash because you both went in forcefully. Were A&E satisfied that it was accidental? I would have thought they would remark on anything they felt suspicious about.

I have a friend who experienced a similar injury during a game of football.

I hope he continues to run around after you and he should apoligise nonetheless.

He has made up somewhat with tea, dinner made etc - but this morning it’s back to being pretty rude, mumbling, complaining while I’m hobbling about

He sounds like a right fucking wanker. Plus moaning that he has to deal with his own kids? Wtf?

Good grief, I wasn’t expecting responses like this!

You've posted on MN using the words "DH" and "aggression" in the same sentence, unless you're relatively new to MN that's the type of replies you'll get.

What type of replies were you expecting?

Your subsequent post leads me to believe it was a game of football that got a bit out of hand, it happens.

None of this takes away the fact that your DH doesn't seem to treat you with much respect on or off the pitch.
It should also come naturally to him that he has to take over all you normally do while you're resting.

Given what you say about his attitude to you generally, I would guess that he let himself be much rougher than he should have. Not that he intended to hurt you, it was a sporting accident, but that he was cavalier with your safety in the way he wasn’t with the kids and, I would guess, wouldn’t have been with another woman (because men tend to be very aware of how much stringer than women they are).

It sounds like your relationship is on the rocks anyway. This, though, is a red flag. It may be more intentional next time.

Far too much aggression, you had to go to A&E! I take it he didn't injure anyone else during this fun game? Far from acceptable hence the shocked onlooker/s. This isn't passive aggressive, it's blatant directed aggression.......at you.

I also put this scenario to my husband (he's bigger than me- taller and more muscular) and he is finding it hard to comprehend a scenario where a) he would end up tackling me b) where he wouldn't then be utterly mortified at his actions.
That your husband is irritated at YOU tells you all you need to know about his character. I would frankly, run a mile.

What happens if you fall sick, god forbid with something that requires long term treatment?
What happens when you are older, and you have health issues?
You know this statistic: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer
This is your husband, and this is what he would do if you were sick. You get to decide if this is the life you want for yourself, and the example you want to set for your kids.

How and why is he not remorseful? If he hurt one of your children would he be this callous? Maybe he would, and maybe he would make it out to be their fault...which tells you all you need to know.
He hurt you, whether accidentally or not. So he has to step up domestically. Tough luck!
I agree with those who are saying you are minimising this.

I've had this kind of fracture before and it doesn't heal all that quickly. And it's painful. Is he not upset that he has caused you pain? Ask yourself why he's not apologetic? If he hurt a colleague, say accidentally stepped on their toe, would he not say sorry? So why does he think you and your body are worth such disdain when he caused you (accidentally or otherwise) much greater harm?

we wernt there so dont know how aggresive he was-but to not even be concerned and moaning about sorting his own kids out is pathetic really and not a good husband

He's done this in full view of other people. This will only escalate.

Passive aggressive, rude, mumbling, complaining would be enough for me to want out. Breaking my leg would be the final straw.

here's a question - do you think he would have kicked as hard had it been one of the other mums? Do you think he would have been so off hand and victim blaming to her had she been in pain. And do you think she, or her husband, would have laughed it off as insignificant?

Look at how you would expect him to behave if the same thing happened to someone who isnt you, and then look at how he should behave towards someone he is supposed to love and care for. Now look at what actually happened and compare the gap.

Within that gap lies the answer

i had a feeling it was going to be football.

if he'd slide tackled you, but carefully, to ensure you ended up on top of him, where he could control your landing etc, that would be one thing - "oh, look how we've ended up, fnar fnar".

but a block tackle where you're concentrating on the ball, and he knows how much force you're going to be using, and still deliberately puts himself in a position where you're definitely going to come off worse, is something very different.

it's easy to protect yourself as the tackler in that situation, as you don't have any loose limbs.

it's also a very deliberate physical act.

if he's close enough to do that, he would have been close enough to nick the ball away with little/no contact (or close enough to block your shot/pass without touching you at all).

honestly, it sounds quite pre-meditated and nasty, like he was making a deliberate point.

Oh, also, if you even suspect that he might have done it deliberately, then you already know you have a problem.

I hate to tell you but a lot of DV begins with "accidental" pushes, shoves, etc.

This is a massive red flag and no, YANBU

Podiatrist here.

Avulsion fractures usually happen to young athletes. They might be sprinting, hitting, sliding or doing other sports activities that involve quick movements and sudden changes in direction.
A piece of bone attached to a ligament or tendon breaks away from the main part of the bone.
It might take up to 12 weeks for it to fully heal.
Treatment depends on which bone broke and the type of avulsion fracture

The fracture is where the ligimant is torn from the bone and actually takes a sliver of bone away with it. My daughter did it playing at the soft play. You need to raise it, ice it and use compression. My daughter had a boot for 2 weeks. Then an ankle support for 2 weeks. No sport at all until you can walk. run, jump, squat without pain. IMO this sort of fracture can happen relatively easily. However, his dickhead attitude is another problem..

An avulsion fracture IS a real fracture, it is when a small piece of bone is detached from the bigger bone.

Accidents happen especially during games etc and this is absolutely why men and women shouldn’t compete together.

however, it’s how he’s behaved following the injury that’s concerning.

Yeah there's no excuse. The fact he didn't even say sorry... My husband would be MORTIFIED if he broke one of my bones. And he should never have gone in as aggressively. It's not like he was playing in the world cup final - he was having fun with his wife.

Appalling behaviour and vile is absolutely the right word. I'm so sorry.