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Was my husband unreasonable or was I

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missingouts · 01/07/2025 04:27

I’m always easily bitten by bugs and when I am I react really badly the bite gets huge and insufferably itchy. My husband is aware of this and is always rubbing itch cream into bites I can’t reach if we go to a bbq or our out late at night. I have all the bug sprays itch creams etc but I still get bitten. Last night before the bugs normally come out we were both outside I decided to sit on our been bag type garden chair. The chair shape collapsed and I was well and truly wedged in it not really a problem as I was comfy to begin with until I saw all these bugs swarming. I tried to get up but I have a few conditions that make me weak and I was so stuck even someone who wasn’t weak would have struggled. First sign of a bug swarm I called my husband who was about 2 meters away and said can you help me up. He walked over and said you can do just use your strength learn to help yourself in a jokey tone. I pleaded with him just to help me up as the bugs were going to bite me. I’m desperately trying to get out and swat the bugs. He finally relented and gave me a hand after I begged. Came inside and realised before bed that I was bitten to peace’s had to cover myself in itchy cream. I’m know awake as I can’t sleepy due to the itching on all my bites. I’ve got 2 on my face 2 on my left arm 1 on my right leg on and 1 on my left foot. I’m fuming at myself for sitting down with out checking but also annoyed at my husband for being an ass he thought he was trying to be funny. How would you handle this my foot bite is massive.

OP posts:
chatgptsbestmate · 01/07/2025 06:04

I react badly to bug bites and never sit outside without being fully covered up

parietal · 01/07/2025 06:01

the bites sound horrible. Do take an antihistamine like piriton to stop them itching.

as for your husband, it is hard to judge if he was just dumb and misunderstood the problem or if he was being deliberately cruel. What is his attitude now? Is he sympathetic and apologetic or minimising things?

dcadmamagain · 01/07/2025 04:41

I’m so sorry about the bites. It might be that your husband didn’t realise that there were loads of bugs and thought you were overreacting but once he realised should have done more.

i react like you to bigs so know hot you feel. One thing my doctor told me is to take an antihistamine daily so that the histamine is in your system so immediately gets to work when you are bitten! It definitely helps.

also if I’m going on holiday I’m a mosquito magnet and I’ve found tgst taking odourless garlic tablets daily from 2 weeks before works too - I think it changes the smell of your blood. Don’t know if this would work for you as it doesn’t sound like it’s mosquitoes.

bluejelly · 01/07/2025 04:36

Oh you poor thing! Have you tried taking antihistamine tablets for the itching/swelling?
Your DH could definitely have been more helpful/sympathetic. Is that normal for him or unusual?

Ivereallyhadenough · 01/07/2025 04:34

I'm sorry about your bug bites OP but it does come over that you use your H to look after you rather than you behaving like an independent adult.