Was my husband unreasonable or was I

If my husband wasn’t around I would have been stuck like that I would have had to call someone to come like my sister.

You would have called your sister, really, you would have called someone to ask you to give you a hand up?

Are you for real?

I don't know I mean she was sat on a chair not dangling off a cliff edge? I know the OP is written quite dramatically with the OP 'pleading' to be released from the chair but its sounds like her husband just made a dumb joke then helped her up. He isn't her servant, he doesn't have to jump the second she says jump.

Does anybody actually have to be unreasonable here?
It was just a 'thing' that happened. I don't know about anyone else, but things do just happen to me; bad luck, things break etc.
You are sensitive to bites, your dh found it funny that something unexpected happened. That's all it is.

Do we really have to blame someone for everything or are we not in a world anymore that we accept that things happen and we just deal with them and move on. Because if it's the former, and judging by a hell of a lot of posts at the moment on here, it is the former, it's a very sad state of affairs.

Complete non-issue, unfortunate you got stuck and hadn’t applied repellant but him not immediately running to you won’t have made that much of a difference. Proactive action on your part will be the long term action- I get bitten and don’t react well so use repellents and live my life, antihistamines when it gets itchy.

If your dh is encouraging you to be more independent could it be you are more dependant on him than you are willing to admit. Not relevant to the non-issue here, if he’d been inside or you’d had to wait for someone else to come the delay would have been longer.

Your not a child op sorry but why rely on your husband so much.
I have a skin condition that is made worse by the sun.
I itch i scale come out in awful rashes sometimes i blister.
But i have to take care of myself.
Its not down to others to do it when i know what t is wrong with me and know what to do.

You didn't know a "been bag type garden chair" would collapse? Come on now. Bean bags, by their very nature, have very little structure to them, and even very young children understand this.

Stop blaming your husband. You got yourself into the situation and didn’t take enough care. You clearly need to be lathered in deet and big bands etc. Take responsibility for yourself. What would you have done if he hadn’t been there to crane you out of the chair?

I agree with those saying there are so really strange comment here.

Whether it was sensible of you to sit in that chair or not, he should have helped you up. It’s not reasonable to stand and watch someone struggle when you are there and able to help.

High doses of vitamin B can stop you being bitten as it makes your blood smell weird

Both being unreasonable. He should have helped you out sooner, rather than make light-hearted comments, but if I suffered as badly as you from bites, I wouldn’t be maximising the opportunities for beasties to nip you by putting myself right in their range and In a difficult position to get up from.

no winners here 😓

I just wonder if DH feels you need to start taking responsibility for yourself instead of relying on him every time things get a bit tough.

I mean - if you have health conditions that make you weak and know you react badly to insect bites, then why did you choose to sit outside without protection in a seat that isn’t easy to get up from at the best of times? There does come a point where, as an adult, you need to learn your limitations and not rely on other people to help you out constantly.

I think YABU.

I don’t think that 30-60s of husband joking made a difference between getting bitten or not.

My partner probably has to to help me up less than once a month normally only when I’ve had a busy day and over exerted myself.

Are you 90??

Just when you think Mumsnet cannot get any bloody weirder! FFS OP.
I can't say anything more I really can't!

YABU. You need to develop some resilience in life!

The bugs probably already got you since you weren’t covered up outside and were sitting in a beanbag for some time. This is not your husband’s fault for not getting you up from the chair 30 seconds sooner 🙄

The answer is don't sit outside in the evening when the bugs come out. They bite me badly and that's the answer I'm afraid.
If you are outside, use repellent spray and wear clothing that covers you.

If you get bitten despite precautions, take an antihistamine tablet and use a cream. A hot spoon or one of those heat zapper things will help if used early on.

I react badly and have realised that prevention is better than cure.

Don't sit in a chair you can't get out of.

My husband suffers really badly with insect bites and the only thing that takes the itch out of them is a heat pen.

Heat pen for insect bites

What kind of bugs?

How old are you OP? You sound extremely frail. Obviously if you have a medical condition that renders you incapacitated then yes he should have helped you.

You get stuck in this chair at least ONCE A MONTH?

Maybe stop sitting in a beanbag chair when you get stuck in it?

Especially when it's close to these visible swarms of insects who are coming directly for you

Have you tried the Avon Skin So Soft oil? It's what we swear by (as does the military and lots of outdoors types).

But why was she stuck? Because she chose to sit in a beanbag, which she doesn’t have the strength to get up from/out of. Some common sense is required.

There must be ways to strengthen your muscles so you can get up from low chairs? Unless you have a chronic disability?

You sound like a precious princess. We are all sick of the bug bites. I've got 5 bites over my body, from when I'm bitten during the night. I put anulsol cream on them, and just get in with it.