Was my husband unreasonable or was I

This is what I would say. If you’re as covered in bug bites as you claim that would have been happening the entire time you were sat there - they did not suddenly all bite you at once only after you spotted them.

Mosquito Monitoring Project
UK mosquitoes do NOT transmit any diseases but may cause a biting nuisance in the Neston and Parkgate area at certain times of the year, most typically in April and May and especially in late August and September. These peaks follow a few weeks after inundation of the breeding pools on the marshes by the spring high tides. In most summers these breeding pools dry out and the mosquito larvae die, but if they are sustained by heavy summer rains the biting nuisance may persist to some degree during the summer months.

In recognition of this, local amateur entomologists maintain a weekly surveillance of typical breeding pools on the marshes at Little Neston and sample up to four traps catching adults around Parkgate and Neston. From these results and the weather forecast for the week ahead, they publish a unique Mosquito Biting Nuisance Forecast for the coming week on the Neston Town Council website and on the “Neston Life” App (available on Android and the Apple App Store).
Getting Involved: you can report any mosquito bites you get to the project via the Neston Council website or through the apps. This will help to build a better understanding of this nuisance.
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Actions: the Society continues to work with CWaC to provide adequate funding for combatting mosquito nuisance: maintaining the drainage channels and creating additional ponds;

Your DH sounds fed up, which he's allowed to feel.

Expecting someone to be happy to help at the drop of a hat isn't realistic.

Both Unreasonable is varying degrees.

I live near Chester Zoo

Mosquitoes in Cheshire- give me a break 🤣🤣🦟🪳

@Lilywc Do you live near Parkgate?

To the OP I think you ought not to get into a position where you need sudden help, what if your husband had gone in to use the toilet etc?

Did you clearly state the sense of urgency to him? The whole scenario seems entirely reasonable, but if you asked him to help you up quickly as there was a swarm of bugs then he is a bit unreasonable to have used the opportunity to joke. If he wasn’t aware of the bugs then he was totally reasonable in his approach.

I don’t think he was unreasonable. He joked for a minute and then helped. Do you use DEET? I also get huge swollen bites but DEET helps

I mean if you know you get really bad bug bites I wouldn’t have been sat outside near the bugs without having my arms and legs covered or a suitable working repellant. Certainly not on a beanbag seat either.

Surely this interaction was mere seconds? You would have been bitten by the time you got near the door even if you didn’t need his help.

Have you thought about building a screened deck so you can sit outside safely?

Are you disabled? If not, YABU and need to exercise regularly

You sound fun, I would have laughed my bloody head off if my husband did this and he me!

@missingouts an Afterbite pen always stops the itching for me (plus antihistamine tablet)

so you fell through a chair.. you were stuck, you asked for help and he refused and laughed at you. Even without the bugs he's a massive twat.

No one’s being unreasonable I don’t think are they??

op you sat outside in the heat with bugs everywhere when you get bitten alive so really it’s on you
its not his fault.

you sound abit needy and precious to be honest

Get some Tiger Balm, the red one.

Always spray yourself before going outside , Avon skin so soft spray Is brilliant I’ve used it before & after for random bug bites
also where I live in Cheshire there are hundreds of mosquitos !

YABU - if you can’t get up from a seat, don’t get in it. Your hubby should have helped you but he was clearly being a bit silly and maybe thought you werent in such perilous danger!
Also six bites isn’t bitten to pieces! I have horrific reactions to bites and don’t go outside when it’s dark / bugs are likely to be out, or if I do I’m covered up! Last time I did I had about 30 on the back of my thighs…
take an antihistamine and use hydrocortisone cream. You will survive

You said he "finally relented," so after what, 20 minutes? If that's the case, yeah, that wasn't very nice. But if it was just a couple of minutes, I think it's not a big deal.

I, too, am a mosquito buffet, and I mostly stay indoors.

Reassess how you feel about your husband once you've treated the bug bites and you're not longer itchy.

He hardly through a tarp over you and called job done…I think you are overreacting on this one. I’m going to go out on a limb and say you might be a teensy dramatic based on your detailed description of your bug bites.

The bugs are totally unrelated to you being stuck in the chair. Even if you weren't stuck, you'd have been bitten - ergo not his fault.

You DH was less than helpful for what, all of 10 seconds? I'm not sure I could get as angry about this as you are.

Your husband was horrible not to help you up but you do seem rather hapless when it comes to protecting yourself against insect bites.

Exactly this, it’s frustrating to read some mn posts where a non-event is turned into a dramatic, life shattering performance. Pleading for help to stand up (although OP missed the classic ‘crying and shaking’, maybe a good old snappped and farted was called for)

It all just sounds quite unfortunate Op.

Did he really leave you there for that long?

Do you think he was being deliberately unkind?

So what should she have done? She has a condition that means she has weaker muscles than most. She can't get out of the chair. What is your solution other than asking someone to help her out? Stay there until someone discovers her body? Pray for divine intervention? Call the fire brigade?