I'm not goofy, would that put people off?

I suspect she'd hate it if you did. She loves being the centre of attraction and wouldn't like you pulling the attention off her.

How old are you both?

She sounds rather dull and is if she is having to play the fool because she has nothing more interesting to get people's interests. That kind of behaviour becomes incredibly tedious after a while and certainly doesn't make for a solid basis of a friend/relationship.

Your friend sounds like hard work, YADNBU

Your friend sounds tedious and self absorbed . The "I'm bonkers I am" type . Rather a normal unattention seeking person like you.

It doesn't mean either. You can have contrasting personalities and still get along and be compatible. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being more reserved either. Not being outwardly silly doesn't mean you have no sense of humour, you just have a different sense of humour.

I have friends who have a goofy/loud sense of humour. I have a more dry/deadpan/self-depricating sense of humour. I am considered funny by people, but I'm also quite shy!

There's nothing wrong with your friend either (despite what people on here will say, it's fine to be extraverted and a bit gregarious, it's lovely to have a mix of people in the world), but she shouldn't be implying there's anything wrong with your personality.

I nearly had a major falling out on a city break with a friend because I wouldn't be 'goofy' with her at one particular point. I just couldn't do it. Never gone away together again.

I'd distance myself from someone who told me I needed to change my personality and they didn't think I was being authentic. Judgemental and putting you down. Nobody needs "friends" like that.

Did you post about this recently — about people not liking you because you were reserved and not ‘silly and goofy’? I’m fairly sure I said on that thread that the vast majority of people have fairly limited patience for ‘silly and goofy’ if it’s some kind of relentless performance. It’s certainly not something you should try to force yourself to be, and if your friend thinks you should aspire to be like her, in doing funny voices and pulling faces in photos, she sounds like a bit of an idiot…?

Just be yourself, maybe people do like her personality but when two people with big personalities hang round together then it’s not fun, especially if one is faking it.

we can’t all be the same, and it would be boring if we were all mad 😂

There’s nothing wrong with being loud and silly and entertaining people…and there’s equally nothing wrong with being more quiet and reserved.

Id rather have you as a friend than her

She does sound annoying, and very wearing. But maybe it comes across better in person?

But she shouldn't be being rude to you about your personality, ever. I don't think I've ever pulled a face in a photo, nor do I do accents, silly voices or 'funny' noises. And I do ok. I strongly think I'd find it hard to be round someone who behaved like that, I'd be far more drawn to someone quieter and less thirsty for attention, with whom you could have a conversation without them suddenly doing 'a bit'. You may never have as many Facebook friends, but you'll likely end up with far more real, genuine, supportive friends if you're just yourself.

You be you, she can be her. Neither of you are the right way to be or the wrong way to be. You can't imagine being like her, she can't imagine being like you - it's just that, because she's extroverted, she feels comfortable telling you that whereas you perhaps don't.

There's nothing wrong with either of you. This thread will be flooded with people saying "sounds insufferable", "you are the right way to be" - that's rubbish, you're just different people. Be how you feel comfortable.

Your friend sounds annoying.

If it’s not you, then it’s not you. You can’t fake that kind of personality. People will be able to tell if you do. To be more authentic you need to accept yourself for who you are.

Yeah, some people like that kind of chaotic attitude. Personally I prefer more calm or deadpan people.

Her behaviour is fine.

Her criticism towards you is not fine and she needs to be told.

I value both my extroverted and silly friends and my more serious and reserved friends!

As I believe the genie says in Aladdin, Just Be Yourself.

Showing off and grabbing attention with expansive gestures and funny voices etc is very extroverted. But not everyone is or should be an extrovert.

just tell her you are more introverted and that’s that.

When I did teacher training there were the jokey teachers and the calm ones. The jokey teachers would tell me I needed to be like them to connect with the class but I also watched the calm teachers so I knew that wasn't true. Nothing so awkward as trying to be someone you are not. Be yourself. In the words of the song # it takes every kind of people to make what lifes about.

Be yourself, not her.

There's a big difference between being naturally outgoing/gregarious and trying to force yourself to do those things. People can spot a fake! Just be who you are.

Oh there is absolutely no need to act like that Op. People that pull faces when you take pictures of them are totally annoying. You sound the more genuine one to be honest.