HR rejected grievance I made against Colleague

Prevent what? A comment that may or may not have been misinterpreted? It’s obvious from this thread that the interpretation is highly subjective, no amount of ENHANCED RESPONSIBILITIES is going to change that.

The law is changing . ENHANCED RESPONSIBILITIES mean they, the Employer, have to take all steps possible to prevent this . Maybe ask if they are aware ?

This.

Bit ageist there too. Nevermind that, let's focus on those poor, poor men - you're right they have it properly tough. They should be able to come on here and tell us woman their very special manly opinions becuase we just don't hear enough of them.
They totally need all your support and I'm sure they'll be very grateful for it too and you might even get a special man friend badge if you're lucky. Thanks for doing a great job for the men.

Of course it’s sexual innuendo. He knew what he was doing and hearing some of the responses on here saying otherwise makes me understand more how some men are still getting away with this sort of behaviour. Just bantz eh?

Are you another lovely man who has chosen to gift us with your highly educated opinion? Tell us more about this toxic femininity that you speak of.

"he made about me which was sexual in nature"
"It absolutely was an inappropriate innuendo"

@RockNRoll25 - I still can't seem to find this part?

I have voted YABU - Sorry, I don't see it.

Tell me Ur young and on Mumsnet without telling me your young and on Mumsnet lol toxic feminity at its best lol

I agree and for goodness sakes, when you start your new job, don't give anybody personal information about any enhancements you may have.

Literally - we need the tea! ☕️

In answer to your original question, personally I would find a new job.

I don’t see anything wrong with what this man said, and I don’t think you can, or should, take it any further.

Exactly.

ODFOD

I can’t see any innuendo and certainly not sexual harassment. OP needs to get a grip or she’ll get be known for having a chip on her shoulder

I think HR probably made the right call, and at least he might think twice in future about what he says about you.

Without more detail it is difficult to advise you. No one can tell if it was sexual innuendo and inappropriate on his part or if you are being over sensitive and seeing/ hearing what was not there. If HR have investigated they have obviously accepted his explanation so I would suggest that you are on a hiding to nothing to try and take this further and if you do life could become uncomfortable at work.
For what it is worth and I am sure that this will get a screaming response from some young women here, there is always banter in the workplace. If I ever found that it went too far I was a dab hand at making the man delivering it feel small and stupid. I discovered that no-one ever tried it twice

perhaps that is a skill you could cultivate?

I'm in Scotland as well and this just isn't true.

Perhaps I’m London and aware of the meaning just like I know Bap means roll but also has the double entendre meaning breasts.

but also the idea of having lips pumped is a normal meaning of lips filled - I would use it myself without any underlying meaning or sexual undertones

it also made me look at whether I had misunderstood the Black Eyed Peas song pump it but no apparently that is just about turning up the volume. This thread has made me see it in a whole different light

Why the need to tell us he’s a man? It’s not a female only space as you quite rightly point out! Do we all need to declare our sex when offering an opinion or only when you feel your sex gives you special importance? This is my viewpoint - why is it ridiculous?

I suspect it is. I’m not from the UK, but I lived and worked in London for a few years from being a teen. While I understand why it could be taken as innuendo, I’ve never heard ‘getting her lips pumped’ actually be used as such irl, or indeed used it in that way myself.

That particular meaning, in this specific context, is neither a clear nor obvious one to me.

Don't be ridiculous. He wasn't telling us what to think, he was giving his viewpoint just like every other poster on the thread. This isn't a female only space, you know.

I am too and I'm wondering if this is where the disconnect is on this thread. That's a very clear meaning here. Didn't realise it was regional but it surely is as otherwise I don't understand how people are so (aggressively!) not 'getting it'.

And no, not if a tyre is being pumped. But lips? Yes.

This.

As far as HR investigating alleged patterns of behavior, they can only go by what is reported to them, and what there is evidence of. An allegation is not proof, and they’re not going to take disciplinary action against him simply because one was made. Doing so could, and likely would, have serious repercussions.

They did investigate, and they would have spoken to at least one colleague of OP’s. That they didn’t find in OP’s favour does not mean they neglected to do their job.

Yeah I'm not disputing that we can't be sure of his intention - I have my opinion on that but can't be certain!

I mean to the women (particularly the one who said my minds in the gutter and I'm the result of porn culture) who are acting as though people UNDERSTANDING the potential double entendre is disgusting or ridiculous. Those acting as though there IS NO double meaning and that those of us seeing one are simply filthy etc.